Oneitis that brought me here texted me

[John Constantine]

So yeah, for the people that has read my previous threads, there was this girl that I loved like crazy. I've been a total afc for the whole 5 Months that we dated so she treated me like shyte. Cheated on me with her ex, she wasnt feeling bad about it at all, she Was never showing me some love except While focking. I wasnt happy.. At the beggining it Was fine, she Was perfect but I started to act like a bêta and all the shyte happened ( cheating, acting like a cold hearted bytch, shyte testing, using me for sex) I didnt knew about this website so when we broke up I just went total afc, I've supplicated her when I Was drunk a lot of times, she even threatened me to call the cops and get à restraining order.. So yeah, last conversation before no contact and her leaving in Europe for 2 Months we did say some horrible shyte to each other, I told her that she had nothing to offer except her pussay and she told me some bad things too but yeah she texted me sunday saying that she wanted to meet to talk about our last conversation because it really focked her up, she said she taught about it too much during her trip and that she really believed that she had nothing to offer
I agreed and told her to txt me when she get back in the country
She came back today and I told her to come to meet up at my appartement so we could watch a movie and talk about it

Well then she suddenly didnt want to meet up and just told me that she wanted to apologize for what she has done to me and that she wanted to know If I really meant what I said to her

I Said no as I Was drunk which Was true

Blablabla and then she wished me an happy life and all that bullshyte

I mean wtf?? I told her : you never taught that txting me again Would cause me some pain??

She said but I just said that I'm sorry

Wtf?? Selfish or what??

I just think that it could have worked out if I had made the improvement that I made with this website before.. I still love her
I taught I had forgot about her but now guys this Was a bomb in my chest

By the way I'm dating a New girl this week

I just wanna know, why did she texted me if it was for some bullshyte like that? Wanted to know if I Was still on the hook?

I told her that if she doesnt want to meet, then to dont take it personnaly but I Would Block her. Said her goodbye and good luck and then proceeded to Block her number

 

[Monster DJ]

lol you're still beta from how you handled the situation.. you were on the weak side lol
She contacted you to check how forked up you are, and you validated. Be smart! Be wise.

 

[Meektrop]

I mean wtf?? I told her : you never taught that txting me again Would cause me some pain??

She said but I just said that I'm sorry

Wtf?? Selfish or what??

I just think that it could have worked out if I had made the improvement that I made with this website before.. I still love her
I taught I had forgot about her but now guys this Was a bomb in my chest

By the way I'm dating a New girl this week

I just wanna know, why did she texted me if it was for some bullshyte like that? Wanted to know if I Was still on the hook?

With women how you feel is irrelevant, It's how you make them feel. Stop thinking about your feelings lol you're a man you don't have that luxury.

 

[Glassguy]

She cheated on you. She threatened to call the cops and get a restraining order.

Yet you're still begging for more from this chick? Your reasoning for this?

Dont take this the wrong way, but it sounds like your drinking is a major issue. Maybe get that problem under wraps first or it will just follow you to every relationship and have the same outcome. Nobody wants to be with a drunk.

 

[lizardking82]

loved like crazy

It was not love, it was her filling up some emotional holes and insecurities in you, most probably.

using me for sex

She used you for sex? What even is that?

she wanted to know If I really meant what I said to her

This was one of the rare instances where you told her what you really think and what probably is the truth and her insecurities caught up on her and she realised you were probably right. However, she is playing you just to prove to herself that a man like this cannot be right in what he says, look at this man, I cheat on him, I treat him like **** and I ask him to meet up without any apology and he still wants to meet up... why should I take any of what he says seriously?

I told her : you never taught that txting me again Would cause me some pain??

Beta mode detected. She doesn;t give a damn about it and probably uses it to make herself feel better.

I still love her

Dude...get over it. You don't love her. You think you do, you're just optionless and kinda desperate.

 

[btownbuck2012]

I know this would have almost been damn near impossible to do, but you should have just not responded. Don't give her the satisfaction of getting the closure she wanted, because when you were in your time of need how did she handle it? Threatened to call the cops? Most, if not all, of the women who put or threaten to put restraining orders on men they have been previously f*cking are insane.

But I can understand how emotions can skew your judgement. Just write this woman and the entire situation off as a loss WITHOUT forgetting the valuable lessons you've learned. That's the best you can do.

 

[sph21]

I just think that it could have worked out if I had made the improvement that I made with this website before

You can't unbroken a broken relationship. Once a girl loses respect for you, her respect will never recover higher than when she was initially attracted to you. You acted beta while in a relationship with her and then you are still acting like a creep. It's as if you're assuming that this website has a great secret that will give you a miracle.

Eliminating beta mindset and then replace it with Don Juan mindset is not as easy as you might think right now. It's not like flipping a coin. It is gained through many failures, letting go of the things that you can't have (missed opportunities, your ex, etc) and accepting your own and her sexuality.

Being a Don Juan is not a net sum of smooth manuevers and methods but of your own outlook on the world and on women. ANYONE can memorize 'techniques', but FEW can change the way HOW they think. Women will be able to sniff out the former. But with the latter, women will be clawing each other for you.

A Don Juan is a state of mind, not a list of methods and tricks.

 

[dude99]

She had it in the back of her head that she could have you any time she wanted
But your words gave her a tiny tiny bit of doubt and they played on her self esteem.
She didn't reach out to fix things. She reached out to fix her self. She reached out to see if she could re validate herself at your expense.

She achieved both. She got what she was looking for

This is why we tell guys ignore. Delete.

She threatened cops and restrainng order because you have feelings for her.

This is why we tell guys ignore delete.

Who does she think she is threatening to have charges pressed against you, then contacts you like it was nothing?

When she asked to meet you you should have said " i am really really busy right now i will have to let you know if it will be possible.

Leave her dangeling. Leave her in the dark.

Then when she asked if you meant what you said you should have just said "that is a conversation for another time. I have to go."

Leave her dangeling. Leave her in the dark.

Instead you fixed her self esteem and validated her with one answer. She didn't need to meet you anymore. She got what she was looking for. Now she can put her head on her pillow tonight because you validated her and she can chase new guy with a fresh new self esteem.

 

[soulforge]

This is where you fuked up.. 5 months dating and your deep in love with her?

5 months is nothing man.. You know nothing about a person in that time.

She messaged to see if you where still under her spell, and you gave her ALL the the validation she needed..

This is how much she cares about your feelings bruv.. ZERO

 

[dude99]

5 months is nothing man.. You know nothing about a person in that time.

^^^^ this.

 

[RangerMIke]

You get one chance per chick. If you have been fvcking a chick, and her interest drops to the point where she breaks sh!t off... you are done.

Typically when she reaches back out, she wants 'closure'. What closure means to a chick is: "I need to know I'm better than you so I feel good about myself." If you know how to game chicks and play on her insecurities, you can fvck her some more, but it won't last.

This is how you do 'closure':
(1) Be friendly, don't be an @ss.
(2) Never give her any impression that what she did affected you AT ALL. She should get the felling you are glad to be free of her without you coming out and saying it.
(3) If she asks you if you are seeing someone else, you tell her "I'm dating around having fun."
(4) If she says she is 'sorry', your response is "Sorry for what?"
(5) If she says something to the affect of, "I wasn't very nice to you ..... (chick speak blah blah blah). Your response should be this:

"Well, it is true that you never (insert whatever sexual thing you two do not do together), so if you are sorry about that so am I." Do this while looking her in the eyes and smile. At that point just play it by ear and see what happens.

 

[Masculinity]

So yeah, for the people that has read my previous threads, there was this girl that I loved like crazy. I've been a total afc for the whole 5 Months that we dated so she treated me like shyte. Cheated on me with her ex, she wasnt feeling bad about it at all, she Was never showing me some love except While focking. I wasnt happy.. At the beggining it Was fine, she Was perfect but I started to act like a bêta and all the shyte happened ( cheating, acting like a cold hearted bytch, shyte testing, using me for sex) I didnt knew about this website so when we broke up I just went total afc, I've supplicated her when I Was drunk a lot of times, she even threatened me to call the cops and get à restraining order.. So yeah, last conversation before no contact and her leaving in Europe for 2 Months we did say some horrible shyte to each other, I told her that she had nothing to offer except her pussay and she told me some bad things too but yeah she texted me sunday saying that she wanted to meet to talk about our last conversation because it really focked her up, she said she taught about it too much during her trip and that she really believed that she had nothing to offer
I agreed and told her to txt me when she get back in the country
She came back today and I told her to come to meet up at my appartement so we could watch a movie and talk about it

Well then she suddenly didnt want to meet up and just told me that she wanted to apologize for what she has done to me and that she wanted to know If I really meant what I said to her

I Said no as I Was drunk which Was true

Blablabla and then she wished me an happy life and all that bullshyte

I mean wtf?? I told her : you never taught that txting me again Would cause me some pain??

She said but I just said that I'm sorry

Wtf?? Selfish or what??

I just think that it could have worked out if I had made the improvement that I made with this website before.. I still love her
I taught I had forgot about her but now guys this Was a bomb in my chest

By the way I'm dating a New girl this week

I just wanna know, why did she texted me if it was for some bullshyte like that? Wanted to know if I Was still on the hook?

I told her that if she doesnt want to meet, then to dont take it personnaly but I Would Block her. Said her goodbye and good luck and then proceeded to Block her number

Ain't nobody reading that whole thing lol

 

[Monster DJ]

This is like the initiation rite of new members

lol.. yeah flaky girl brought me here.. having received all the good information/advice here, i have girls begging me to kiss them and 4uk.. haha sosuave is the real game changer.. women are less of my concerns now as I'm not frustrated about having them anymore.. it's easy for me now. I'm focusing on making family proud now..

 

[John Constantine]

Changing my mindset is a long process and I'm learning. I did make some improvements thought, I got options but it doesnt cure this oneitis, anyway I blocked her everywhere, not gonna contact her and move on. I don't have a problem with alcohol, I just drank when she dumped me 4 months ago, now everything's fine. I was not drunk when she txt'ed me yesterday and sunday. Maybe I've been acting beta but how can you start to pull some good line or ignore her like you dont care when its not the case and you havent completely changed your mindset.. It's acting and I believe that I wont be able to master the game until I change my mindset completely. I'm working on it

Thanks for the tough love all, it helped a lot

 

[John Constantine]

She had it in the back of her head that she could have you any time she wanted
But your words gave her a tiny tiny bit of doubt and they played on her self esteem.
She didn't reach out to fix things. She reached out to fix her self. She reached out to see if she could re validate herself at your expense.

She achieved both. She got what she was looking for

This is why we tell guys ignore. Delete.

She threatened cops and restrainng order because you have feelings for her.

This is why we tell guys ignore delete.

Who does she think she is threatening to have charges pressed against you, then contacts you like it was nothing?

When she asked to meet you you should have said " i am really really busy right now i will have to let you know if it will be possible.

Leave her dangeling. Leave her in the dark.

Then when she asked if you meant what you said you should have just said "that is a conversation for another time. I have to go."

Leave her dangeling. Leave her in the dark.

Instead you fixed her self esteem and validated her with one answer. She didn't need to meet you anymore. She got what she was looking for. Now she can put her head on her pillow tonight because you validated her and she can chase new guy with a fresh new self esteem.

It seems crystal clear now, how have I not been able to read through the line when she txt'ed me ? wow..
I taught she was using this as a reason to get closure and get back together but it wasnt the case

 

[Skyline]

When she suddenly didn't want to meet up is when you should have stopped responding.

 

[derby1]

She had it in the back of her head that she could have you any time she wanted
But your words gave her a tiny tiny bit of doubt and they played on her self esteem.
She didn't reach out to fix things. She reached out to fix her self. She reached out to see if she could re validate herself at your expense.

She achieved both. She got what she was looking for

when you look back on this in 3 months time you will realise these guys like dude are so right and its your mind ****ing with you at the moment IVE BEEN THERE YOU NEED TO BE COLDER your like a cat and shes holding the string

 

[dude99]

It seems crystal clear now, how have I not been able to read through the line when she txt'ed me ? wow..
I taught she was using this as a reason to get closure and get back together but it wasnt the case

Dont beat yourself up over it too badly. Just learn from this. I am sure she came across all sweet and interested because she knew she had to bait you.