Am I being a jerk? Friends are saying so?

[doctor1996]

My friends have been saying the attitude I have towards women now is a d1ck move. I simply told them, I'll be focusing on my goals more, I won't be the nice guy anymore, and I'll let my intentions be clear when I meet a girl. I've experienced being a nice guy. I used to put girls on a pedestal. But where did that lead me? No where. It's lead me to bring used, and my confidence decreasing.

My friends are telling me it's better to the be the nice guy. And that a girl that's talking to me will not appreciate how I play her by not responding for a day. I mean, I have things to do like studying/volunteering/ etc.. Why is it not okay for guys to do the same? My friends keep telling me, oh but she won't be interested and soon I'll learn. But, my response to that is, her loss. What do you guys think? Should I revert back to my old ways? Are my friends right?

They also bring up the argument that the girls that will like me will be the girls who don't appreciate themselves.

 

[HoneyHitter]

No. If you're getting the results you want you should ignore these types of conversation. They should let the women speak for themselves. And most of the time they say these things because they don't like how it makes THEM feel. Inferior.

 

[Asasione]

My friends have been saying the attitude I have towards women now is a d1ck move. I simply told them, I'll be focusing on my goals more, I won't be the nice guy anymore, and I'll let my intentions be clear when I meet a girl. I've experienced being a nice guy. I used to put girls on a pedestal. But where did that lead me? No where. It's lead me to bring used, and my confidence decreasing.

My friends are telling me it's better to the be the nice guy. And that a girl that's talking to me will not appreciate how I play her by not responding for a day. I mean, I have things to do like studying/volunteering/ etc.. Why is it not okay for guys to do the same? My friends keep telling me, oh but she won't be interested and soon I'll learn. But, my response to that is, her loss. What do you guys think? Should I revert back to my old ways? Are my friends right?

They also bring up the argument that the girls that will like me will be the girls who don't appreciate themselves.

Your mistake was announcing your intentions rather than implementing the changes you felt will get you results and letting that speak for itself, you don't owe your friends any explanations. Just do what you feel is right and soon enough it will bear fruit and refrain from discussing future plans about your personal and relationship goals, your friends aren't the ones dating the women, you are, their opinions may be important to you but they won't help you.

 

[El Payaso]

Blue pill mentality. You can't blame them.

 

[doctor1996]

Oh yeah followed their advice never again. I just told them they don't know **** and they should locate their testicles

She never responded and This was the girl I thought would be good for me compared to the others. She viewed my message at 4:48 am

 

[dustmuffin]

Read "No More Mr. Nice Guy". It will help you immensely.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

This is why you can’t go talking about it in public. You seem new to the game here. Well I can tell you that talking about game in public is very frowned upon unless you know how to. There’s certain ways you need to say it if you want people to agree with you. It’s pretty much how you frame it. Learning how though just takes experience. You shouldn’t have told them that. You should have just changed your attitude and let them figure out what happened to you themselves. And if they had asked, all you would have had to do is say that you’re now more focused on yourself and making your life better rather than women. That’s respectable enough. Anyone who says that you should put women before your own life is stupid, even by societal standards because if you don’t have your life made, then you can’t take care of women.

 

[doctor1996]

I am about to throw my phone at the wall, and start punching the wall. I listened to them, and she never replied to my last message oh well. But what bothers me is, oh "they have been on dates" and act all better than me is pissing me off. And both of them are ugly af. I really wanted to hook up with this French girl and my chances are ruined. My chances for medical school are slipping out of my fingers. I'm starting to hate my life even more.

 

[dustmuffin]

I am about to throw my phone at the wall, and start punching the wall. I listened to them, and she never replied to my last message oh well. But what bothers me is, oh "they have been on dates" and act all better than me is pissing me off. And both of them are ugly af. I really wanted to hook up with this French girl and my chances are ruined. My chances for medical school are slipping out of my fingers. I'm starting to hate my life even more.

You got a question about how you should respond to a girl? Ask us. No matter how simple. Don't talk about anything to your friends. You are learning. So don't be to hard on yourself. Read the book of pook. Also the redpill reddit has a side bar with suggested reading. Read all of those books. Plus we have the DJ bible. Read that too. We will help you become a better man.

Maybe you should concentrate on medical school. Women will wait.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I am about to throw my phone at the wall, and start punching the wall. I listened to them, and she never replied to my last message oh well. But what bothers me is, oh "they have been on dates" and act all better than me is pissing me off. And both of them are ugly af. I really wanted to hook up with this French girl and my chances are ruined. My chances for medical school are slipping out of my fingers. I'm starting to hate my life even more.

Focus on your own life forget about ladies

 

[marmel75]

Most guys typically go from one extreme to the other until they figure out where they need to be...

 

[skinnyguy]

Don't worry about people's emotions.

Worry about making money and lifting.

 

[doctor1996]

Don't worry about people's emotions.

Worry about making money and lifting.

I'll be 33 by that time.

 

[doctor1996]

Saw the girl, with the guy she wanted to introduce me to. Didn't acknowledge one bit. After she looked over, to make things less awkward I said "Hey" and said "how are you" to the ugly bastard she finds attractive. Afterwards, she said bye and left with the guy. While these dudes sitting there are saying, oh yeah she's definitely out our league.. Which kind of got me pissed. Well so be it, I guess. Her ****ing loss anyway. I'm going to be a doctor, I'm smart, and good looking.

She can **** that ghost/pale mogher****er with broken teeth all she wants.

 

[Von]

How old are you? You sound HighSchool

Don't worry... there is good news for you.

You can focus now on médical school.

You know what's great about MedSchool? Its 70% women... Oh and did i say the girls in average are 9HB... and they like to study and get laid with other medschool students. Why? They also got in the sech late... and they are 24/7 with other medstudents (females and guys, so alot of D going around during the studies).. their women fashion show back in my days (4 years ago) was quite run after and nobody could believe how such beauties had alot quite the study success and futur

Aim at medschool, if you fit too and well versed in DJ bible... you'll be in heaven

Dustmuffin is also right, for most of my life i was like you... believe in bêta friends to help me out. I became succesful when I took my own route, this website is a good comunity too and less bias

 

[Masculinity]

My friends have been saying the attitude I have towards women now is a d1ck move. I simply told them, I'll be focusing on my goals more, I won't be the nice guy anymore, and I'll let my intentions be clear when I meet a girl. I've experienced being a nice guy. I used to put girls on a pedestal. But where did that lead me? No where. It's lead me to bring used, and my confidence decreasing.

My friends are telling me it's better to the be the nice guy. And that a girl that's talking to me will not appreciate how I play her by not responding for a day. I mean, I have things to do like studying/volunteering/ etc.. Why is it not okay for guys to do the same? My friends keep telling me, oh but she won't be interested and soon I'll learn. But, my response to that is, her loss. What do you guys think? Should I revert back to my old ways? Are my friends right?

They also bring up the argument that the girls that will like me will be the girls who don't appreciate themselves.

Sounds like your friends are serious white knights. As you become more experience, you'll learn that the red-pill mentality (i.e., being a Don Juan or not putting women on a pedestal) is something that you keep to yourself. That is why we have forums like this one, to talk to other guys who understand the game as you see it.

Feminist women, white knights and even normal women will usually look down at you for being red pill. Come to the forum and talk to us.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I'll be 33 by that time.

Lol at the people who aren’t premed. I ha a question for you: are you doing anything outside of academics to help your chances of getting into med school? I ask because I want to know how important it is if I need to do something like research or an extracurricular sport or something like that.

 

[doctor1996]

Lol at the people who aren’t premed. I ha a question for you: are you doing anything outside of academics to help your chances of getting into med school? I ask because I want to know how important it is if I need to do something like research or an extracurricular sport or something like that.

Yes.

I volunteer at the hospital, I have a leadership position there where I train new volunteers, I volunteer with big/brothers sisters one day a week, I have a 100 hours of shadowing, and I run a club on campus.

You need to be well versed with everything. You must have above a 3.7+ GPA. You must have clinical volunteering, non-clinical, maybe research depending on what tier school you're shooting for. Shadowing, and a competitive MCAT.

Not saying you can't get in with below a 3.7.. But the average acceptee has a 3.75. But it's a numbers game. 524 MCAT, GPA 3.4 you'll get acceptances. Really is random and also depends on OSS and ISS factors

I mean I could really go into detail now, but i don't know where to start

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

You need to be well versed with everything. You must have above a 3.7+ GPA. You must have clinical volunteering, non-clinical, maybe research depending on what tier school you're shooting for. Shadowing, and a competitive MCAT.

I’ve heard of all this before, but is it all specifically needed? And if so, why? And can you replace ‘volunteering’ at a hospital with working at one, or is it just not the same?

 

[doctor1996]

I’ve heard of all this before, but is it all specifically needed? And if so, why? And can you replace ‘volunteering’ at a hospital with working at one, or is it just not the same?

Because you need to show people your altruism. Volunteers is essential. It looks better to actually volunteer than work. You can volunteer for a year then find a clinical job