Why do they respond late instead of just ignoring our messages?

[bario]

I asked her a question and I can tell she saw the message minutes later, but she responded 3-4 hours later saying "sorry I was a little busy" and asked me a question on same topic. I responded also 2 hours later.

Again, 4 days later she reaches out, again: "sorry for late responding, I was kinda busy lately"

Why would some women do that instead of just ignoring you?

Have you ever experienced the same?

 

[icantgetlaid]

low interest

 

[guru1000]

Couple hours later is fine. Four days later means you are her lowest priority.

I do the 2-4 day return text thing with girls who are so barely bangable I’ll respond here and there to them just in case I might call upon them one day.

The girls I would never bang, I don’t respond at all.

 

[bario]

low interest

Damn!

It's her birthday in 2 days and now I don't want to say anything to her!

 

[amaterasu]

Testing you if you're the same of her chump orbiters.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Low interest and low respect too.

If a girl doesnt find a guy attractive but respect him as a person, she will come up with excuses not to go out togheter but will still bother to reply in time.

Ignoring means no interest and no respect basically.

In your case its clear she has low to no interest and low respect, it could also mean she was bored when she replied or she needed some attention in that moment.

Anyway a girl who likes and wants you would never run the risk to piss u you off or drive you away, they know hot and cold or play hard to get is a thin line...so they hardly risk it with a guy they really want.

 

[BeTheChange]

Not necessarily interest level. It's called having a life. Sometimes I go a whole day or more without texting back friends / plates.

I recently had one of my main plates complain about this. I had to tell her. If she wants someone who texts back on a regular basis she can go and date an unemployed wasteman a college student.

 

[dude99]

I asked her a question and I can tell she saw the message minutes later, but she responded 3-4 hours later saying "sorry I was a little busy" and asked me a question on same topic. I responded also 2 hours later.

Again, 4 days later she reaches out, again: "sorry for late responding, I was kinda busy lately"

Why would some women do that instead of just ignoring you?

Have you ever experienced the same?

She has been told by the women relationship "experts," this type of difficult behaviour will drive you to chase her.

She believes if she is a pain in the ass you will drop everything to focus on her and her alone.

Hopefully she is wrong and you next bad behaviour

 

[RangerMIke]

I really don't play games. When I have time to reply to a message I will as soon as I see it. If I am busy I will wait until I have time to respond. Don't worry about when she gets back to you... assume she is busy. If you don't it starting fvcking with your frame. You should always BELIEVE you are a great guy, and naturally women will be interested... if she isn't responding right away you have to tell yourself "She must be busy, because I am awesome." ON the flip side, if she responds back to you quickly don't assume you have it in the bag, getting too comfortable and lose your frame.

The ONLY thing that matters is if she is willing to meet up with you. If she will NOT meet up, go on dates, she isn't interested. And if she isn't interested, then she is NOTHING too you. Don't get invested in chicks that will not go out with you.

 

[marmel75]

So you can orbit her

 

[Tenacity]

I asked her a question and I can tell she saw the message minutes later, but she responded 3-4 hours later saying "sorry I was a little busy" and asked me a question on same topic. I responded also 2 hours later.

Again, 4 days later she reaches out, again: "sorry for late responding, I was kinda busy lately"

Why would some women do that instead of just ignoring you?

Have you ever experienced the same?

Here's the main question: Are you able to get this girl to go out with you and kiss, fvck, etc? If so, just keep her as a plate and don't worry about the text delays. If not, drop her.

But going forward, never do psycho-analysis on a chick like this as it's a complete/utter waste of time.

 

[dude99]

Damn!

It's her birthday in 2 days and now I don't want to say anything to her!

Or wish her a happy birthday 3 to 4 days late then next her.

 

[nismo-4]

For attention, to get an orbiter, and low interest. She was busy with another guy. Or unlikely some other life issue.

Imagine how fast she'd be texting back if it was Lebron James or Channing Tatum. She'd respond back in time.

Second place is first loser.

Case closed.

 

[bario]

I can now for sure say it is low interest as I sent her a text saying: "Hi I hope you're doing great. happy birthday! Enjoy" and she replied : Thank you so much dear with a smiley face.

Too bad, it's her loss.

 

[derby1]

stop texting her now even if she reaches out to you in a few days shes just getting your hopes up and her fish hook

 

[resilient]

"Hi I hope you're doing great. happy birthday! Enjoy"

Smh. No offense @bario, yet your breadcrumb text her sounded very friendzoney.

A highly interested woman wonders what you're up to. She wonders what women you're currently busy seeing. How's her competition, etc.

You need to reframe man.

Act like you have abundant options. Act like you're so busy, it feels tedious to reply back to low-interest plates. You don't chase, you replace.

You can look up in other threads, yet @Glassguy has some perfect textbook examples of texts to send out to women that you're on the verge of dropping. Women flake and drop all the time in the dating game. You have to be prepared to do the same. No more waiting around crossing your fingers her interest level will suddenly rise out of low orbit status.

Ok. So first for future plates, you make a plan. Figure out where you're going to go. What you're going to do, then invite her along.

Something like,

"Hey listen, I'm really tied up with work/school/whatever lately, yet I would like to meet up for drinks. How about Bar of the Gods on Thursday? I can swing around and meet you there at 7pm."

Anything other than a "Yes" or "For sure " "Definitely!" you drop her and go ghost.

 

[Glassguy]

There really isn't much in this original post to go by. OP have you actually went out with this chick? Fvcked? Or is it just you messaging her and then her taking ages to reply?

If you've never actually went out on a date with this chick, I would abort and don't initiate anything. See if she reaches out.

 

[bario]

There really isn't much in this original post to go by. OP have you actually went out with this chick? Fvcked? Or is it just you messaging her and then her taking ages to reply?

No, just online messaging

Well, I did not reach for a month till yesterday, when on FB it showed it was her birthday and wanted to confirm her IL before dropping her. But now for sure I won't reach out.

 

[Glassguy]

Abort. You're being way to nice and available. While I don't any problems being nice to chicks, I'm nice to chicks that I am talking to that I am seeing.

You're too nice and too available. Just don't do anything. See if she reaches out. If she doesn't in a week, unfriend her on social media to remove the urge to message her. If she notices that you unfriend her and asks why, tell her social media is for friends and women that you are seeing only and tell her to take care. Sometimes you just have to not be so nice and either they come around or they don't. I've nailed on a lot of them.

Go hit up more women.

 

[amaterasu]

Abort. You're being way to nice and available. While I don't any problems being nice to chicks, I'm nice to chicks that I am talking to that I am seeing.

You're too nice and too available. Just don't do anything. See if she reaches out. If she doesn't in a week, unfriend her on social media to remove the urge to message her. If she notices that you unfriend her and asks why, tell her social media is for friends and women that you are seeing only and tell her to take care. Sometimes you just have to not be so nice and either they come around or they don't. I've nailed on a lot of them.

Go hit up more women.

Bully!