Should I apologize to her?

[Stone_Island_95]

I'm 22 (M) and she is 22 (F), My social skills are decent, I can talk to anyone and hold a conversation well until is a girl I'm interested. I become shy making it harder to talk. There was a girl I had class with couple of years ago who seem to show signs of interest but I never ask her out because of shyness and ended up asking her out when she started to act distant. Found her snapchat account and ask her through there (I know lame but that was my only option), she rejected saying she has a bf and we both stop talking. We acted distant in person and times acknowledge each other, other times we acted like we didn't know each other and avoid seeing eye to eye. We followed each other on SC and kept it neutral seeing each other stories but I haven't talk to her over a year until last week



We never talk to each other in person or know each other we are just strangers who follow each other on SC. I feel like a total **** and will admit the comment I said was rude, she posted on her SC story saying "3 screenshots and she will jump on the train tracks" I don't know if she was being serious, I took it as a joke and responded with "you wont do ****" she replied and said "lmao, whatever no one has screen shot her story" The last thing I said to her was "because no one cares", she open it that's it. She was still on my friends list that until the next morning, I realized she unfriended me. I took it as she got upset with the post I sent her and I understand it came out terrible and not funny.



My problem is should I say I'm sorry? We are not genuine friends in person, she is not someone I talk to on a daily basis like I said I haven't spoke to her in real life and only on Sc until she rejected me which was over a year ago. I don't have her on any other social media platform. I can add her again on SC to say I'm sorry or find her somewhere else and apologize and leave her alone. The problem I have though is I don't know the reason why she unfriend me and my guess is because of the snap that's my assumption. I do have a sorry text written but I need help from you guys and what would you do if you were in my position.




The last thing I want to say is I was not trying to ask her out again or flirting with her in person or in text it was just a snap to her for laugh that's it. the reason why I say that because people are going to assume I'm trying to hit on her again but I'm not she rejected me the first time I let her make a move if she wants to.

 

[dustmuffin]

No never say you are sorry. You need to forget about her and find women that are interested in you. Work on your confidence and shyness.

 

[Stone_Island_95]

No never say you are sorry. You need to forget about her and find women that are interested in you. Work on your confidence and shyness.

So I shouldn’t apologize for the snap I sent her?

 

[dustmuffin]

So I shouldn’t apologize for the snap I sent her?

No and stop worrying about her. I know she isn't thinking about you.

 

[Billtx49]

So I shouldn’t apologize for the snap I sent her?

If it did damage, it’s over and done. The past is the past and you can’t change it. Forget about it and improve yourself for future female interactions.

 

[TheGambino]

If it did damage, it’s over and done. The past is the past and you can’t change it. Forget about it and improve yourself for future interactions.

This, case closed, man up. Its difficult to man up Sometimes but we All have to do that for our OWN sake.

 

[devilkingx2]

if you legitimately messed up in a major way, apologize. never apologize unless you're actually wrong in a significant way though.

refusing to admit to being wrong makes you a child, not a man. but admitting to being wrong when you're not to appease the wife makes you a cuck

 

[Stone_Island_95]

if you legitimately messed up in a major way, apologize. never apologize unless you're actually wrong in a significant way though.

refusing to admit to being wrong makes you a child, not a man. but admitting to being wrong when you're not to appease the wife makes you a cuck

The reason why I ask because of the snap I sent her. I think everyone here has skip that part and focus on the past which the old interest she had. I was just giving background between us that’s it. I ask here because I don’t know what to do, if she did unfriend me because of the joke then yeah I **** up and should apologize. I never talk to her over a year until last week for a joke that’s it so I was not trying to hit on her again

 

[Macaframalama]

Saying that no one cares was wrong and I would apologize and leave it at that. If not for her, for you. I wouldn't want putting that type of negativity out there on my head. A man realizes, when he is wrong, owns his chit and tries to right his wrongs.

 

[marmel75]

A novel about a chick with no to very low interest? Seriously dude...get some options in your life. You wouldn't even consider posting stuff like this

 

[devilkingx2]

We never talk to each other in person or know each other we are just strangers who follow each other on SC. I feel like a total **** and will admit the comment I said was rude, she posted on her SC story saying "3 screenshots and she will jump on the train tracks" I don't know if she was being serious, I took it as a joke and responded with "you wont do ****" she replied and said "lmao, whatever no one has screen shot her story" The last thing I said to her was "because no one cares", she open it that's it. She was still on my friends list that until the next morning, I realized she unfriended me. I took it as she got upset with the post I sent her and I understand it came out terrible and not funny.

Lmfao savage that's an epic roast

1. That's mens humor, girls wouldn't find it funny, especially as the butt of the joke
2. It probably came off as salt or just you being an *******
3. She was fishing for attention, nobody would seriously threaten suicide over social media unless they were insane.

You shouldn't apologize unless you give a **** about your interpersonal relations with her (read: unless you can bang her or her friends or extract some other sort of benefit from being on her good side)

Be prepared for her to leave your apology on read or otherwise not give a **** since she apparently didn't like you much anyway though

 

[Stone_Island_95]

Lmfao savage that's an epic roast

1. That's mens humor, girls wouldn't find it funny, especially as the butt of the joke
2. It probably came off as salt or just you being an *******
3. She was fishing for attention, nobody would seriously threaten suicide over social media unless they were insane.

You shouldn't apologize unless you give a **** about your interpersonal relations with her (read: unless you can bang her or her friends or extract some other sort of benefit from being on her good side)

Be prepared for her to leave your apology on read or otherwise not give a **** since she apparently didn't like you much anyway though

Lmao my friends also think it was funny as hell. Many of them tell me to apologize but the problem like you said is getting contact with her she probably still salting for telling her that but then again I feel is not my fault for peoples feelings the way they take **** out of context. I would apologize just because I Incase I see her around campus

 

[El Payaso]

Who fvcking cares. This chick doesn't even know you exist. Forget about her.

 

[devilkingx2]

Lmao my friends also think it was funny as hell. Many of them tell me to apologize but the problem like you said is getting contact with her she probably still salting for telling her that but then again I feel is not my fault for peoples feelings the way they take **** out of context. I would apologize just because I Incase I see her around campus

apologize if you see her on campus. don't sweat it, since you're not getting laid either way it doesn't matter

 

[dude99]

So I shouldn’t apologize for the snap I sent her?

No. You joked with her. She unfriended you. You move on.


Next. Why worry about what an old acquaintance that you aren't even friends with thinks?

You asked her out. She used the bf line to say no. You weren't friends after that. Next.

Work on yourself

 

[dude99]

The reason why I ask because of the snap I sent her. I think everyone here has skip that part and focus on the past which the old interest she had. I was just giving background between us that’s it. I ask here because I don’t know what to do, if she did unfriend me because of the joke then yeah I **** up and should apologize. I never talk to her over a year until last week for a joke that’s it so I was not trying to hit on her again

It's a joke. Why apologise because she doesn't get your sense of humour?

If there was no communication in a year and then after one week of interacting she deletes you, sounds like she turned into a snob over a year.