Men are more satisfied by their friendships than relationships.

[El Payaso]

How true is this? http://amp.timeinc.net/time/4978727/bromance-male-friendships/?source=dam

According to the article, men find more satisfaction from their friendships with other men than their relationships with women.

The only things I can think of that would make this true is that aside from sex, most relationships with women tend to be stressful because relationship brings all these rules and restrictions. Most women don't really engage in the same things that men engage. You have to deal with arguments and fighting etc.

With male friendships, there isn't that drama you find with women. It's just relaxed hanging out for sports, drinks or other hobbies that men enjoy. There's also the fact that you usually can't discuss women with your girlfriend like with a male friend.

 

[sosousage]

I prefer women than men

 

[Who Dares Win]

Women demans things we wouldnt do otherwise unless of course you pick a crappy expensive crowded restaurant over a cheap good one with a spacy parking lot just because celebrities gather there.

Women sucks attention out of us asking for things we dont like or wouldnt do otherwise, wheter its an afternoon at the shopping mall or some one other social event with no use or pleasure except to show that you fit in an environment or culture.

Plus relax is completely alien to the female mind, if drama is lacking they find a way to create it and if they dont its because they already have enough in their mind due to your behaviour and soon they will complain about it.

The only pleasable relation I believe we can have with a woman is a zero investment one, you are more relaxed and willing to leave when necessary.
Its the same difference you have playing with real money and fake money on a poker table.

Personally whats stresses me the most if the female obsession to show how they fit in the herd by behaving a certain way, attending social events or comforming to cultural laws...no need to talk about social networks.

Plus add that women branch swinging is unlimited now therefore you cant afford any sign of weakness or relax, basically you're a fight or flight mode with any woman you invested something in.

 

[Julian]

As a younger man I feel this was true. Whenever I clique up with my bros and we go out as a group,I feel very powerful amongst them and theres a connection, a sense of brotherhood and adventure. its just fun! Going out with just 1 wingman is just not enough, its like a fkin date or some gay chit like that. Need at least 3 bros to go out. But 5 is the best number I think.

But 1 on 1, Im honestly just interested in hanging out with females. If im with just 1 of my bros like I said, it just doesnt suit me. Id almost rather just be rolling solo then with 1 other bro. The absolute BEST times ive ever had hanging out with just 1 person, has always been with a girl (and I dont mean jsut sex). Just laughs and fun and paying grab ass and just feeling free and wild, those emotions have always been brought up the most whenever Im out with a girl who I like and who likes me back where we arent playing any games. That 1950's highschool sweethearts type chit.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

I have been reading a bit about the different types of love recently, and the conclusion that the modern notion of romantic 'love' is a myth. We have 'Eros' (sexual passion), 'Philia' (deep friendship), 'Ludus' (playfulness), 'Pragma' (mature respect), 'Agape' (selflessness) and 'Philautia' (self love / respect).

It's apparent that the mistakes that many people make are: a) to confuse the different types with each other; b) attempt to find all these different types within a single individual; and, c) attempt to achieve Philautia or self actualise through gaining all the other external types.

It's not that we're more satisfied by one or the other; more a case of being unable to differentiate our variety of emotional needs and inflated unrealistic expectations of each other.

 

[Mike32ct]

I look at it this way....

Around women, I have to:

1. Talk more and fake being an extrovert.
2. Keep my jokes pc and g-rated
3. Keep eye contact
4. Never complain or vent
6. Never show any weakness or vulnerability
7. Talk about pop culture and other useless fluff
8. Avoid talking about anything logical or of intellectual interest
9. Dress to the nines
10. Worry about my “social value” and how I’m being perceived

With my guy friend:

1. Drop all the rules and just be myself

 

[RichardTheFrog]

I look at it this way....

Around women, I have to:

1. Talk more and fake being an extrovert.
2. Keep my jokes pc and g-rated
3. Keep eye contact
4. Never complain or vent
6. Never show any weakness or vulnerability
7. Talk about pop culture and other useless fluff
8. Avoid talking about anything logical or of intellectual interest
9. Dress to the nines
10. Worry about my “social value” and how I’m being perceived

With my guy friend:

1. Drop all the rules and just be myself

How is that fun?

And is it worth the reward?

 

[Mike32ct]

How is that fun?

And is it worth the reward?

It’s not really fun. Not seeing any reward either lol.

But the point of my post wasn’t to be a Debbie downer. Just to make a comparison (with my usual cynical sarcasm/humor) about the difference between interacting with guy friends versus some woman you are atttacted to.

 

[That_dude]

I was always intrigued watching battle of the sexes on MTV. It seemed like the dudes would work as a team and have minimum drama.. The ladies would be constantly stabbing each in the back and had constant drama. I"m not saying anything.. Just an observation

 

[wifehunter]

I'll buy that. Most women, are just not that interesting, apart from fun and jokes.

 

[zekko]

I probably felt that way more when I was younger, but as I've gotten older I would prefer to spend time with a woman. I like the interaction of the yin and yang, for lack of a better term. There's a completeness there.

Relationships with men often revolve around shared interests, and in that case it's the hobby or interest that is making the relationship so satisfying.

 

[skinnyguy]

I look at it this way....

Around women, I have to:

1. Talk more and fake being an extrovert.
2. Keep my jokes pc and g-rated
3. Keep eye contact
4. Never complain or vent
6. Never show any weakness or vulnerability
7. Talk about pop culture and other useless fluff
8. Avoid talking about anything logical or of intellectual interest
9. Dress to the nines
10. Worry about my “social value” and how I’m being perceived

With my guy friend:

1. Drop all the rules and just be myself

Haha yup. Your guy friends won't get offended over the littlest things. And they actually have your interests in mind, not just their own.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Haha yup. Your guy friends won't get offended over the littlest things. And they actually have your interests in mind, not just their own.

Yea I met a girl on SA yesterday. She told me she's the assistant to the CEO. I asked her if she assisted him with "anything else," and she got offended. Even though she had subtly told me she would prostitute herself just a few hours earlier.

 

[That_dude]

You know the old saying.. “Bros before hos”

 

[Urbanyst]

I look at it this way....

Around women, I have to:

1. Talk more and fake being an extrovert.
2. Keep my jokes pc and g-rated
3. Keep eye contact
4. Never complain or vent
6. Never show any weakness or vulnerability
7. Talk about pop culture and other useless fluff
8. Avoid talking about anything logical or of intellectual interest
9. Dress to the nines
10. Worry about my “social value” and how I’m being perceived

With my guy friend:

1. Drop all the rules and just be myself

You don't have to do any of this bullsh*t around women. You just choose to for some reason.

I personally don't calibrate very much around women outside of being more flirtatious and touchy feely. The more you modify your behavior around women, the more desperate for approval you are lol.