What Brought You to SS? Why Are You Still Here?

[Michael Corleone.]

What brought me here was a oneitis over summer that dumped me and now I decided to take a long look at myself and see where I went wrong and realized that I have had the same issues with every relationship with a woman ive had in the past.

I am still here cause I still have much to learn. Self improvement is a never ending process.

 

[TheGambino]

I was the biggest AFC, BETA with the bold atittude. Girls liked me but I was clueless.

Hanging with my natural DJ nephew every vacation in Morocco and falling down and up, down and up, down and up, approaching, approaching and approaching made me who I am today.

I ruthless DJ who grabs what the f8ck he wants.

I live this forum, I love this forum, this forum has done so much for me, bettering myself everyday to be the best man who I could be.

I approach, close, f8ck girls, have a lot in my rotation, got the player status in my region and I flirt everyday. Girls flirt with me too, they feel the alpha and cexual vibe in me.

So suave made me outleash my cexual mentality, and now im unstoppable. Im a pro in using it to turn on women in general. Either way a girl is with her bf or husband she feels the extent of the vibe I give and they sense it.

I work out a lot, eat clean, focus on school and have fun in life. Only problem is finances but im going to focus on that after my graduation this summer.

I love you guys.

 

[Desdinova]

My fiance had left me, and I bawled my eyes out. I had no clue why she had left me because I treated her like a princess. I was absolutely clueless on how to date women, especially since I no longer had the social circle of high school. I went to Google and typed in something like "how to date women". I went down a rabbit hole that eventually led to this place.

Stay here because I like having people to talk with who aren't brain washed married guys, as most of my friends are.

I think that's the main reason why I stay here. Hanging out with my friends can be depressing, and there's a genuine lack of guys with similar interests as myself who are also successful at life. This place is refreshing. It's full of guys who are striving to become better people. I used to hate men who were successful with women. Now I enjoy reading about their successes and even helping them get there.

I think one of my main goals now (at least with regards to this place) is to help other guys focus on making the most out of their lives. Build your life in your 20s, have fun in your 30s, and if you eventually want to settle, do it in your 40s. Use your 40s and 50s to enjoy what you've accomplished (and maybe raise a couple of kids). Retire in your 60s and do some travelling.

Life is too short to waste on building a life with a garbage woman. If you're in it just for the sex, then use them to fulfil your need. If you're looking for a relationship, use them to fill in time while you look for a good woman. Don't waste time pursuing a relationship with women who have been ruined by an alpha male.

Those two previous paragraphs basically summarize my mission here. Make the best out of your life. You've only got 80 years or so to do it.

 

[Roober]

What Brought You to SS?
Post separation with my exwife, I dated a girl who was hot and fun. I fell hard, she drifted after a couple months, and I had soooo much angst, looking for answers. It actually started with an article "In Dominance" by True Story (which I still read periodically), and it led me to David Deida, then The Rational Male. That book led me here. This all happened pretty quickly as I was reeling from the split, lost, looking for answers

Why Are You Still Here?
No contact thread. Several guys supported me regularly for two months, and I feel like I owe it to the board to go in there. Still check the thread regularly. I still pick up little tidbits every now and then. I still have much to learn, and I get a nugget here and there from people. Not nearly as much as before, but certainly still beneficial. Also, I ended up getting in another LTR, and I still feel those beta behaviors. Sometimes, I feel like I need to come here and get some more red pill idealogy. I think the thing I struggle with the most is a good majority of guys that post here either don't want an LTR or are terrible at it. David Deida's material is a must read for anyone in an LTR, and I have found it to help a ton.

 

[RangerMIke]

What brought you to SS?
A few years ago I was helping my nephew with girl trouble (He was at Tulane). He was quizzing me because he always sees me with women. So I was just telling him what I did, how I acted, and that it seemed to work for me, but I thought I was just lucky. I'd been like this my whole life (learned in from my Grandfather by observation, who raised me). Then he told me that what I was telling him was very similar to advice he was reading on this web-site... I came here and stayed. I learned that it wasn't fvcking magic, that there was a reason why how I behaved got the results I received. I was fascinated, and still am, the Book of Pook and The System by Doc Love were the first couple of things I read and the whole time I would be thinking "THIS is why." Now when someone asks me for advice about women I can actual tell people what is and what works. Instead of just saying "I don't know... ask them out and don't kiss their @ss." Which really is being a DJ in a nutshell

Why are you still here?
Entertainment. I like giving advice and reading what others think. I still learn things now and then.

 

[wifehunter]

oneitis brought me here, and entertainment keeps me here.

 

[Fruitbat]

Really enjoyed reading this thread. Bravo.

 

[Fruitbat]

1. Cognitive dissonance

2.

Tearing off tights with my teeth

 

[BeExcellent]

How I Ended Up Here: I was researching BPD while dating a man a couple of years ago whose ex wife was diagnosed BPD and her traits were very similar (worse in some ways) than those of my covert narcissist mother. I was fascinated by the similarities in behavior that men here had observed and thought Gee...somebody else has dealt with this shjt. An internet search led me to a thread discussing BPD. Then I also began reading some of the other threads and became fascinated with the discussions that go on here.

Why I stayed:

I think one of my main goals now (at least with regards to this place) is to help other guys focus on making the most out of their lives. Build your life in your 20s, have fun in your 30s, and if you eventually want to settle, do it in your 40s. Use your 40s and 50s to enjoy what you've accomplished (and maybe raise a couple of kids). Retire in your 60s and do some travelling.

I think Des sums it up rather nicely.

To encourage great men. To encourage each of you to become your best self. There are not enough great men in the world. I was very lucky that I had a great man for a father and great men in my family, men who shaped me into who I am, how I think and how I exist in the world. Not enough people have this. So I remain here because I think it is a positive place that is at once tough love and compassionate and if my perspective from the ladies locker room is able to add a viewpoint that might be useful even if it is different then hopefully that provides someone some benefit.

I've had the privilege of getting to know some of the men here through PM who are almost all exceptional in some way, or aspiring to become exceptional. I think that has value in the world and I think the forum is an amazing clearing house of knowledge and an uplifting place. Its a place to be unvarnished and real. I hope each of you is able to be the change you want to see in the world and I think this place goes a long way toward fostering that goal.

To your success Gents. Cheers.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

To get girls.

Because I'm not getting as much as I want.

 

[skinnyguy]

1) feeling like I needed to talk about how I felt about women and needed to figure out how to learn from all my mistakes. I was a hardcore AFC who pedestalized women

2) no fap motivation, learning inner game