Seems interested but does not initiate

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Do you guys notice this sometimes? Like in person a girl seems interested, open, friendly, etc. but will not initiate with you. Now obviously just keep on going, who the hell cares right? But does it bother you that you have to be the one to set things up ALL the time?

 

[Joji]

Do you guys notice this sometimes? Like in person a girl seems interested, open, friendly, etc. but will not initiate with you. Now obviously just keep on going, who the hell cares right? But does it bother you that you have to be the one to set things up ALL the time?

Ahh, perks of being a dude ayy?

 

[Glassguy]

I back off. If she is interested she will pick the convo back up and message me. Give it a little time and space.

It's a marathon, not a sprint.

 

[Joji]

I back off. If she is interested she will pick the convo back up and message me. Give it a little time and space.

It's a marathon, not a sprint.

This could be applied in person right?

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Ahh, perks of being a dude ayy?

Fair enough. Sometimes you just want miss lazybones to get off her ass and send a text like ‘we should do something’ or look for an event to go to. I notice chicks rarely ever do his and usually have guys do it for them rather than go to events themselves so maybe it’s just not their thing.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Do you guys notice this sometimes? Like in person a girl seems interested, open, friendly, etc. but will not initiate with you. Now obviously just keep on going, who the hell cares right? But does it bother you that you have to be the one to set things up ALL the time?

If it’s early on & she’s just a plate then yes this is pretty typical behavior. You lead she follows, depends on what stage you are at or it’s low interest. Only 1 way to find out.

 

[Mr Wright]

I don't mind leading the interaction, setting up and all that as long as things are moving forward. Stagnation due to her inactivity is the enemy here, I know it's annoying but you really have to put yourself in the leader mindset if you want to maximise this knowledge. I think one out the last ten girls I've slept with had initiated anything. Especially at the beginning you have to put in the effort but because you're leading the interaction, you can just lead it to the bedroom and once you've had her, she's lost her power and the balls in your court.

 

[Glassguy]

This could be applied in person right?

Absolutely.

One easy way to judge a chick's interest level is to just bail out. Even in person. If you have been striking up a convo with a chick every day but are unsure of where her interest level is, back off.

If you normally see her at school/work/etc on a regular basis and your normal routine is to strike up a convo with her when you walk in, change it up. Instead, walk in and start chatting with someone else and give her no direct attention. Or just walk in and go sit down and appear busy.

For a lot of women, they will sit back and let a guy do all of the work and they do little (the guy is way too invested at that point). As soon as you stop "pursuing", they automatically think your mind is on another chick and then they will start making an effort to strike up the convos, texts, etc.

If they dont, its ok......they werent that interested to begin with.

BTW- if you dont make the woman invest at least 50%, it rarely, if ever, will work out to a date.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

You're young.

Learn it now, accept it, embrace it, and enjoy it. Women are submissives, and men are doms.

Yeah, there is more responsibility on the dom as standard. Easy way deal with that is by making some limits on your time. Quality over quantity.

She's giving you all the power, and she wants you to take it. It might not seem like that at first. When you are starting from scratch (IE, no current plates), then initiation can seem like a burden. It's like being at the bottom of a mountain looking up. But when you start pushing things, spinning-plates and having many good relationships, you will have a different perspective from the top of the mountain. Which is that initiation is a great privilege. Your fate is in your own hands.

As long as she's following your lead, all is good. There's no problem to solve, just androgynous whining.

Makes sense. I suppose it’s just me being a lazy bum. Not a real problem on my part, just had some free time on the train to think about random things and this just so happened to be one that popped into my head.

 

[Urbanyst]

Do you guys notice this sometimes? Like in person a girl seems interested, open, friendly, etc. but will not initiate with you. Now obviously just keep on going, who the hell cares right? But does it bother you that you have to be the one to set things up ALL the time?

The real question is why are you tolerating a woman whom does not meet your personality/behavior standards?

Walk away if you're not happy with who she is, how she treats you or how she acts. Life is too short for this crap.

 

[beforeimgone]

Do you guys notice this sometimes? Like in person a girl seems interested, open, friendly, etc. but will not initiate with you. Now obviously just keep on going, who the hell cares right? But does it bother you that you have to be the one to set things up ALL the time?

It used to be kind of annoying years ago.

Nowadays I don't notice iois or anything like that m because if I see a chick I like I walk right up to her regardless of the situation. The only thing I take into consideration is how she reacts when I roll up on her

 

[BeExcellent]

She's giving you all the power, and she wants you to take it.

She is in fact taking stock (either consciously or subconsciously) of you based upon whether or not you behave as a man is expected to in the context outlined above. I keep saying around here that the better quality women are going to naturally look for leadership in a man. That means they will behave submissively and seek leadership.

I mean what do you expect her to do? Chase after you like crazy, ask you out (be in the masculine/leadership frame) and then hand the reins over to you once you are ready to assume the masculine frame? Um, it doesn't work that way. Not with the kind of women worth having. She will be feminine and submissive from the get go and expect you NOT to be.