GFs male housemate

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So my gf of 5/6 months lives in a shared house with 2 girls a gay dude and a guy.

I get along well with all of them but last night we were arguing over text (I usually avoid this) and she said “Even guy housemate, the laddiest guy in the world, called u a ****head when he heard how u spoke to me the other night”

Now she’s referring to last week when at her house in the kitchen she snapped at me infront of guy housemate and another housemate. I simply defended myself and shut her down and no more was said.

I’m going over to her house later today or tomorrow to grab a jacket and I wanted some opinions how to play it.

I’ll be honest I’m fuming and more than happy to escalate to violence over this because if he had something to say he could have said it to my face and he has no place judging me to my chick behind my back, she also has no place entertaining this nonsense and bringing it up in an argument later. She doesn’t know I plan to confront him because she try roc talk me out of it, plus she could have made that up seeing as I didn’t speak to her harshly it was more correcting facts in a stern manner.

My plan is to go there and (if he’s in) question him on what was said and why he felt to need to talk about me while I’m not there to my girlfriend.

This guy loves gym and seems aggressive at times which makes me want to smash his ****ing head in even more. I’m not skinny myself and have a good 4 inch on his height.

I’m thinking of ending it with this girl anyway I’ve had flu all week and she chooses times when I’m ill and want tlc to argue with me which I told her last time I can’t tolerate. She said I just have a cold and making up excuses (I’ve been sick 7 days now answer stayed at my aunts All weekend so she could cook for me and give me medication). She says she’s the most caring person in the world but the two times Ive genuinely needed it in 5/6 months we have argued. Despite me saying I don’t have energy for it she’s persisted.

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Your plan will backfire.
You will start a dramatic scene and girlfriend and gayboy will be laughing at how patheticly butthurt you were once you leave.
They will be talking about you non stop calling you pathetic and a beta biatch.
Best thing to do is leave the jacket and go hang out and have fun with your buddies instead and don't answer any texts and calls unless it's her apologizing. Withdrawing attention and an aloof mentality not showing emotions will get you the best result and the most power. That's the alpha way of handeling things, only investing in positive people.
 

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Your plan will backfire.
You will start a dramatic scene and girlfriend and gayboy will be laughing at how patheticly butthurt you were once you leave.
They will be talking about you non stop calling you pathetic and a beta biatch.
Best thing to do is leave the jacket and go hang out and have fun with your buddies instead and don't answer any texts and calls unless it's her apologizing. Withdrawing attention and an aloof mentality not showing emotions will get you the best result and the most power. That's the alpha way of handeling things, only investing in positive people.
I hear you, prob best to leave it and withdraw for now but are you suggesting it’s alpha to have people talk and judge you and do nothing about it or raise your concerns?
 

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its alpha to rise above petty drama and walk away and pick only the battles worth fighting. Beta men talk about other people, alpha men talk about business opportunities and how to build his castle and empire.
It will stroke the girls ego intensely when two guys are fighting over her.
Dont give her the satisfaction.
 

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its alpha to rise above petty drama and walk away and pick only the battles worth fighting. Beta men talk about other people, alpha men talk about business opportunities and how to build his castle and empire.
It will stroke the girls ego intensely when two guys are fighting over her.
Dont give her the satisfaction.
The way I was raised it’s beta to allow things like this slide, it’s very alpha to protect your name and/or dignity especially when concerning women. I’ll admit I should let time pass for now.

Shall I go over to her place and start brainstorming business ideas? I feel like some advice given on here doesn’t hold up in the real world, don’t come in here regurgitating shyt you’ve read.

If I go and squeeze your girls tits in a club you would probably go home and type on here how you dumped her for not respecting you enough.
 

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Fighting and getting in trouble with the law over this stupid b*tch is idiotic. She'll be a nobody in a few months time.

Plate her and branchswing to a different girlfriend who has less bullsh*t to deal with, and doesn't bring this nonsense into your life.
I went on a date after work Wednesday with a cool girl I met the previous Friday. I met her for one drink Friday just gone too. I’m basically in the process of swinging to the next and she’s making it easier by being such a *****.

I’m not going over there tonight I think I’ll move past the whole thing.
 

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Aww....did your little feelings get hurt? What are you 12?
 

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Don’t go over there and make big scene :rolleyes:

Fighting and getting in trouble with the law over this stupid b*tch is idiotic. She'll be a nobody in a few months time.

Plate her and branchswing to a different girlfriend who has less bullsh*t to deal with, and doesn't bring this nonsense into your life.
Bingo. Unless your defending your girl from harm.. Never fight over a chick :cool:
 
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Just totally ghost her for a couple of days. If she doesn't reach out and apologize, just block permanently. That's alpha. And it gives you time to cool off.

It's over anyways because you wont want to hang out over there after the episode anyways.

If she reaches out and apologizes, use it against her. "Nah I don't really want to come over after I was made to look bad in front of your roommates but you can come over here and hang out for a little bit if youd like".....easy way to turn her into a plate. Thats all shes worth at this point anyways. Play that card until it expires, and it will, so be finding new opportunities in the process.

If you ghost her and don't hear back, you've lost nothing with this chick. Tons of red flags and the water is now poisoned for anything more than what it was between you.
 

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The alpha thing to do would be to show that petty behavior like this doesn't bother you, that you have more important things to do than to waste your time with this.

So just do nothing and go ghost/no contact.
 

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I've had plenty of people talk Mad chit about me.. some funny lines I remember girls telling me..

- my parents serously hate you..
- my friend trevor thinks your a dirt bag and
I should dump you
- watch out for chev, he's a player and will only screw you over (butt hurt x bf)
- chevs such an azzhole, if you guys breakup I'll be your baby's dad :)? (Serously the dude said this)

At the end of the day, I was the one pounding the chick into oblivion, whill the army's of chides stoo by in horror.

People talking chit makes me smile, because what your doing is working.

The moment you buy into their weakness and feel affected you lose...

You're like the awesome youtube video that get tons of hate comments by liitle, putzy, fvcktards..

So laugh at it, be light hearted, go back and get your jacket and treat your girl nicely aND gentlemen like, smirk at the little peasants complaining about you, because it's FUNNY.

YOU'RE THE ONE SMASHIN that pus, not them.
 

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I hear you, prob best to leave it and withdraw for now but are you suggesting it’s alpha to have people talk and judge you and do nothing about it or raise your concerns?
Because, the lion doesn't concern himself with the opinions of sheep. If I had a dollar for every time someone talked chit behind my back. If they're talking, then you're doing it right.
 

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Never respond to hearsay and gossip. She's just looking to manipulate you by stepping on your toes.
 

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My plan is to go there and (if he’s in) question him on what was said and why he felt to need to talk about me while I’m not there to my girlfriend
Do not do this..smh.

First, this little brat could be lying about them saying this. She could just be saying these things out of anger.

What she look like?

Who knows, he might want to hit it. ;)

Just get your jacket back, relegate her to plate status, and start banging other women.

In the "unlikely" event he tries to start some schit, well you have every right to defend yourself.
 

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One should never blame the other guy(s) for talking with your girl. She's usually the one who initiates and lubricates the conversation. She could easily stop the conversation if she had the right attitude toward you.

Blaming other guys is misplaced anger. They're going to do what they're going to do... probably the same thing you would do. The fault lies with the girl.

"she said “Even guy housemate, the laddiest guy in the world, called u a ****head when he heard how u spoke to me the other night”
 

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A few lessons I've learned over the years that may be relevant here....

-Don't argue with people, least of all women; furthermore least of all women of interest.
-Don't associate with women who seemingly like to argue.
-Unsolicited advice is very usually that; unsolicited.
-People who like to air their dirty laundry to Joe Public usually do so to add meaning to their relatively insignificant lives.
-Getting involved in the relationship politics of others is rarely if ever advisable for men. Neutral logic is the stance to take.
-There's a difference between dating a woman and dating a girl; and that is not always dictated by chronological age.

That GF's house sounds like it's a massive oestrogen-fest. I also usually have suspicions of people who associate in huge social groups where there's little or no regard for personal privacy. As I say above, a woman who apparently like to create drama and involves other people is not worth my time anymore. She's clearly not mature enough to deal with is like a grown woman, so don't buy in to the dramatisation of your own life.
 
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