what will happen next after our blowout

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can't get into all the details way too much so I'll sum it up...im 35 she's 24. we met months ago she lived in another state but was visiting and we had sex she stayed with me for 2 days...after she left we continued to talk...1.5 months later she came back and ended up staying with me for 1 month...she had to leave due to a situation and left some stuff here. she said she would come back...while she was gone she got distant so I lost judgement and did some jealously games to get her attention...well it did but then it escalated and we went back and forth until we had a blowout.

she said she never wants to talk yadda yadda hung up on me...then she calls back saying she's trying to forgive me but then says you do u I do me says she's single then I'm single...she texts more saying I hurt her told her she hurt me then told her I'm calm and over it becasuee we honeslty were being messed up to each other.
basically said when ur calm and forgiven me let me know.

yesterday no communication at all. so I shoot one text this morning" you want to be done forever then let's be done forever..whats the address you want me to send your stuff pointless to have your stuff here since you can't get over it " left it at that.

she knows I want to fix things and she doesn't as of right now. yes I probably messed up more and approached the situation in the wrong way but she did her share..at the end of the day I'm cool and don't care what she did but she on the other hand isn't having it.

I texted her this morning to bait her into saying something back because if i say get over it lets fix it there will be nothing. so I'm showing her I'm willing to walk away too and let her feel that I won't be there ever again and go at her ego by saying she can't get over it so let's be done...pretty much just putting everything on her. yes go no contact i understand but I have to show her whatever before I do go no contact which starts today.

i think if she truly wants It over she will give me an address to mail it too or say just throw it away. if she doesn't reply then that either means she wants to leave the door open or she just doesn't give a f anymore...but I think the percentages are about 50/50 she will say something.
if no reply then that's it no initiation from me anymore.

I know most of you are gonna say it's over move on find other girls...heres the thing I talk to alot of girls some hotter than her. but I'm not ready to stop fighting for her because that's what I want. part of me fighting for her is acting like I'm not gonna fight for her. I've been spoiled my whole life so I'm use to getting what i want. I will explore options and pursue the options until all options are exhausted. I literally talk to 8 girls on a regular basis so i have options but I don't feel like giving up...yes no more texts after today
 

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You bait her, you play jealousy games, you say you are over it, yet you refuse to walk away. Just chill out and ignore. No need to resolve things immediately. Whatever happens will happen. Go work on being a stronger version of you. You sound like a chic that is going to branch swing because "I have options" and "I'm used to getting what I want".
 

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You bait her, you play jealousy games, you say you are over it, yet you refuse to walk away. Just chill out and ignore. No need to resolve things immediately. Whatever happens will happen. Go work on being a stronger version of you. You sound like a chic that is going to branch swing because "I have options" and "I'm used to getting what I want".
when i say over it im saying over about the messed up stuff....I know...once I stop and it's silence from me for a long time she will come back maybe...trust me she will run out of options I just want to be the large elephant looming in her head and make her feel emotions pull/push make her feel like it's all on her on what happens next.
 

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Howie is right.

You said "she knows I want to fix it" then say "but she knows I'll walk away".

She has spent enough time around you to know that your beta and not going anywhere. When she mentioned not being together, you should have said "That's cool. Good luck" and stayed off your damned phone and ignored her and SHOWED her that you would have walked away. She would have ran back in no time.

But you didn't. And she won't.

Go find other chicks and stop being desperate and needy acting. Women don't want that regardless of what you think or what they say my man. They want to led.
 

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Oh and you can't control her but you can control you. Go do fun stuff, other chicks, etc. Because she will be doing the same thing. And act like a 34 yr old man not a 17 yr old kid.

All this in a couple of months? The water is too poisoned to drink from now. Go find new.
 

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Oh and you can't control her but you can control you. Go do fun stuff, other chicks, etc. Because she will be doing the same thing. And act like a 34 yr old man not a 17 yr old kid.

All this in a couple of months? The water is too poisoned to drink from now. Go find new.
Agreed. Sounds like it's turning into a chit show. Once a relationship goes south, it's very difficult to fix. Same old problems resurface over and over again. I'd start living my life and forget about this broad
 

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Wait... You don't know her home address?
 

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I agree. If there is this much of a power struggle this early, that's to volatile, you two are not right for each other.
 

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well she took the bait and bit..she texted me which gave me an opening...basically the conversation ended with me saying:
"its ok if ur done because I'm done too I'm walking away from you for good because there is no getting thru too you."
she replies with: I need a breather, youre too much, have a good day
I say back:
why didn't u say that I'll give u a breather I will give u ur space have a good day.

left it at that

so now I will never send a text atleast initiating because I'm backing way off now she never talks to me then f it
 

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So you are going no contact on her.... Have you ever threatened to put a forum poster on ignore, and yet not followed thru on doing just that?

Just curious....
 

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So you are going no contact on her.... Have you ever threatened to put a forum poster on ignore, and yet not followed thru on doing just that?

Just curious....
lol yea I get in fights with forum members lol.

yes no contact nothing else needs to be said I addressed everything that needs to be addressed and other things were shown so she knows...nothing else to say
 

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can't get into all the details way too much so I'll sum it up...im 35 she's 24. we met months ago she lived in another state but was visiting and we had sex she stayed with me for 2 days...after she left we continued to talk...1.5 months later she came back and ended up staying with me for 1 month...she had to leave due to a situation and left some stuff here. she said she would come back...while she was gone she got distant so I lost judgement and did some jealously games to get her attention...well it did but then it escalated and we went back and forth until we had a blowout.

she said she never wants to talk yadda yadda hung up on me...then she calls back saying she's trying to forgive me but then says you do u I do me says she's single then I'm single...she texts more saying I hurt her told her she hurt me then told her I'm calm and over it becasuee we honeslty were being messed up to each other.
basically said when ur calm and forgiven me let me know.

yesterday no communication at all. so I shoot one text this morning" you want to be done forever then let's be done forever..whats the address you want me to send your stuff pointless to have your stuff here since you can't get over it " left it at that.

she knows I want to fix things and she doesn't as of right now. yes I probably messed up more and approached the situation in the wrong way but she did her share..at the end of the day I'm cool and don't care what she did but she on the other hand isn't having it.

I texted her this morning to bait her into saying something back because if i say get over it lets fix it there will be nothing. so I'm showing her I'm willing to walk away too and let her feel that I won't be there ever again and go at her ego by saying she can't get over it so let's be done...pretty much just putting everything on her. yes go no contact i understand but I have to show her whatever before I do go no contact which starts today.

i think if she truly wants It over she will give me an address to mail it too or say just throw it away. if she doesn't reply then that either means she wants to leave the door open or she just doesn't give a f anymore...but I think the percentages are about 50/50 she will say something.
if no reply then that's it no initiation from me anymore.

I know most of you are gonna say it's over move on find other girls...heres the thing I talk to alot of girls some hotter than her. but I'm not ready to stop fighting for her because that's what I want. part of me fighting for her is acting like I'm not gonna fight for her. I've been spoiled my whole life so I'm use to getting what i want. I will explore options and pursue the options until all options are exhausted. I literally talk to 8 girls on a regular basis so i have options but I don't feel like giving up...yes no more texts after today
You are insecure and have no better options. You are acting like a 15 year old. Time to grow up
 

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You are insecure and have no better options. You are acting like a 15 year old. Time to grow up
I'm sick of hearing options this and that go find someone else bs...i got options I text with like 8-9 girls on rotation and can go hang with one right now if j wanted too.

I feel like fighting for her I'm going too ..if I wanna concentrate my forces on her then that's what i want to do. In my life I fight for things I want if i never did i would never get anything i wanted
 

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I'm sick of hearing options this and that go find someone else bs...i got options I text with like 8-9 girls on rotation and can go hang with one right now if j wanted too.

I feel like fighting for her I'm going too ..if I wanna concentrate my forces on her then that's what i want to do. In my life I fight for things I want if i never did i would never get anything i wanted
Then you wouldn't be posting this on here for some long distance chick. Please.
 

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I'm sick of hearing options this and that go find someone else bs...i got options I text with like 8-9 girls on rotation and can go hang with one right now if j wanted too.

I feel like fighting for her I'm going too ..if I wanna concentrate my forces on her then that's what i want to do. In my life I fight for things I want if i never did i would never get anything i wanted
You're a slow learner. Everything's spelled out for you on here yet you do the opposite. You're going to get burned, as you already have.

And I'm not buying that you have all of these other options. You wouldn't be acting like a 13 yr old who has to have the last word with her.

Some people will never get it and never have a lot of chicks at their disposal. Some people will never have enough maturity and coolness to really be able to walk away with a sly smile on their face and say absolutely nothing and truly go no contact. You're the case and point.

Horses can be led to water but can't make them drink. You'll never really "get it" based on your mentality to all of this.

That's ok....I like guys like you. When the chicks figure out you're totally insecure they come running to men like me. Then I put them in my rotation and lead them and they enter my frame.

Wake up bro. You need serious self evaluation if you're ever going to cross the fence and be good with women. You've done literally everything wrong with how you've handled this because you were way more invested in her than she was in you. All in just a couple of months. If you don't want to put in place sound advice from guys who have been through it and now know how to play the field, you're in the wrong place.
 

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You're a slow learner. Everything's spelled out for you on here yet you do the opposite. You're going to get burned, as you already have.

And I'm not buying that you have all of these other options. You wouldn't be acting like a 13 yr old who has to have the last word with her.

Some people will never get it and never have a lot of chicks at their disposal. Some people will never have enough maturity and coolness to really be able to walk away with a sly smile on their face and say absolutely nothing and truly go no contact. You're the case and point.

Horses can be led to water but can't make them drink. You'll never really "get it" based on your mentality to all of this.

That's ok....I like guys like you. When the chicks figure out you're totally insecure they come running to men like me. Then I put them in my rotation and lead them and they enter my frame.

Wake up bro. You need serious self evaluation if you're ever going to cross the fence and be good with women. You've done literally everything wrong with how you've handled this because you were way more invested in her than she was in you. All in just a couple of months. If you don't want to put in place sound advice from guys who have been through it and now know how to play the field, you're in the wrong place.
No woman is coming to a loser like you. Get out your mother's basement faggot.
 

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No woman is coming to a loser like you. Get out your mother's basement faggot.
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