If she does talk about it. Listen lots. Agree with her lots. After a while she ll b open to solutions. Don't give them. Ask her what she wants to do. If you absolutely must be a therapist be a good one. Sorry babe it sounds like you feel out of control when you're too rushed. How do you think you could change that? I had a mate who had a girlfriend it was half the size of a house went on light and easy controlled meals. She d eat two of them at every meal and then complain that she had run out. He made the mistake of trying to help her and so he became the nag. Don't take responsibility for another adults behaviour you can encourage the good and then ignore them when they are behaving badly that is all. And of course that girl is now the size of a house and maybe a small garage too.