So I have been dating the a cool chick for about 2 1/2 years. She is now pushing the marriage card and wants to get seriously hitched. The issue is that she doesn't get along with any of my friends and we have worked hard in the last year to make that work. I am 41 and she is 36 and cute. Is it worth the effort for the rest of my life to try to make this work? I know people will be like NO it's no NOT...but things are changing with all my friends...and things aren't the same. I don't know I was on this forum like 10 years ago when I was dating in the dumps and couldn't bang a fattie. I am drinking a captain and coke tonight so I thought I would get some opinions. Not sure if a 41 year old somewhat out of shape dude could get right back in the action and **** young 20 year olds like i would prefer haha. These younger girls growing up on porn makes sex way better.....and I have to admit I miss that a bit. ....
If he's a good buddy and you've know him a long time, longer than you've known her, she will have to accept that he's in your life and when you get together with him she has the option of being there and being nice to him or not being there. She doesn't have to hang out with him right? If he's a good friend I wouldn't give that up, good friends are hard to find.
But what I'm really hearing here Is that you are worried that you can't get anyone else, and would like to attract the young 20yr olds you used to get, but now you're 41 and out shape. If you get into shape and work on your appearance you might be able to.
Maybe marriage is not for you, if you feel like you are doing it because you may not be able to do any better (which is not exactly flattering to your gf). Maybe you're out of shape because you got fat happy in your long term relationship, which is common for many couples. Maybe if you were single and had to compete with younger more attractive men you would be more motivated to improve your appearance. There's no guarantee that you will get the girls you want, but if you feel like you are settling by marrying your gf you may regret it and that regret could manifest by you being a jerk to your wife and or cheating. Don't waste her time or yours if you still want to chase girls for porn quality sex.
