Incited by
@BeExcellent's post, I want to write a little about inner game. Even as a high-value guy (defined as looks, status
and wealth), when you are dealing with top-notch women (9s+) in the beginning stages, IF they sense a chink in your inner game, they are out
instantly.
Let me repeat:
You could be a 8 or 9 in looks;
You could have a 7-figure net worth;
and
You could have a prominent job;
BUT, if a 9+ senses insecurity in your inner game (in the beginning states), she will NEXT you.
However, you could be a 7 in looks, with average income and job--but with strong inner game--and still have a shot with this same 9.
Let me share a little secret about real inner game. It does not come from abundance of 9s or 10s, as such an inner frame is outwardly validated, so within the same capacity, you can be outwardly de-validated.
Are you ready for the secret for real inner game?
Rejection. Mind-blowing, suicidal-pushing outrageous rejection. A funny thing happens when you push way out of the “comfort zone” to the edge of the “other side” and get rejected harshly. At first, you will crash hard. Then you become more desensitized. Eventually ... you relinquish all outside validation as the source of your inner value, become insouciant, and truly DGAF.
In many of my dates, I push the envelope as far as I can to prompt a sharp rejection. Some times, the envelope is pushed so far and the dynamic just appears so insane and absurd, that the girl doesn't even know how to react, so she just goes along with it. LOL.
Push the envelope way out of the norm of social interactions, welcome and embrace rejection. This is the key to true desensitization and strong inner game.