What to do with women like this?

[captain55]

what do you guys do with a woman that shows obvious disrespect and then pulls the "you can't handle me" "your too controlling" card?

I was having a good conversation with my chick making plans for tonight to come over she hit me up ....I log into Snapchat when I saw her posting a seductive Snapchat from hours earlier (clearly being an attention ***** by zooming in on her ass multiple times). I told her look if your a supermodel or getting paid for posting that **** I'm all for it! But if your not getting paid for it and you know it bothers me, would it be so hard to not post things to make me uncomfortable?

She flips and goes out with her girls calls me a controlling *******. Says I can't handle a hot chick. I'm like hot chicks don't seem validation from other men by being attention *****s

Another example is she gets violent and angry when she drinks. I told her to give it up because alchohol doesn't work with her and I don't want her to get physical with me or anyone

You guessed it...She calls me controlling.


I love this woman but I feel like she just doesn't get it. I am not the type to let a girl get away with disrespecting me so I call her out and she can't handle it becusse she's never been with a guy that had the balls to put his foot down.


i have talked for hours with her about respect in relationships, stopped the fancy dates and vacations, and nothing works. To make sure I'm not crazy I ask other women their opinions on if I'm overreacting and they all don't think that I am.

This chick is going to kill me I feel....and I'm hoping I can find the strength to break away because I know she's not healthy. Been with her two years so it's tough but I don't like the thought ignoring her being with someone else. How do I get past this?

 

[lizardking82]

A person that drinks, gets violent, disrespects you, tells you you cannot handle her genes LOL which she has done nothing about? And you're asking if you should leave? Leave before she ****s Josh in your own house and you get brokenhearted by it. Abort mission, soldier, abort!

 

[captain55]

By the way I don't believe in being controlling. I believe in testing a girl early on by letting her do her own thing. The problem is this girl has failed so many tests I've given her, the ability to do the right thing in the right situation.

Just the other day I am coming home and she has a guy over on the couch. I don't think she had intentions on cheating on me with this dude I didn't see the dude as a threat but I know she would flip if I had a girl over. I told her it's common sense if you have someone over to tell your man so he doesn't walk in and see a random guy at 1 in the morning on the couch. Ready for it?

She didn't feel like she did anything wrong. Because she had no bad "intentions"

 

[captain55]

It frustrates me to the core because I truly don't feel like she sees what she does wrong. I feel like I'm dating a child.

Why I stay? She has some good qualities and the sex is good.

 

[captain55]

A person that drinks, gets violent, disrespects you, tells you you cannot handle her genes LOL which she has done nothing about? And you're asking if you should leave? Leave before she ****s Josh in your own house and you get brokenhearted by it. Abort mission, soldier, abort!

She's a bartender and her boss let's the bartenders take shots all the time...plus it's the only career she has. AA isnt an option

She has put effort into changing...i see the effort, I see the passion with her wanting to make it work but she just can't pull it together for more than a few weeks without ****ing up

 

[captain55]

I wish you guys could experience 1/4 the pain and frustration I have with this woman. I'm thinking some slight bpd. Unlike most bpd's she actually has a sick side to her where she likes hurting people.

The only thing she hasn't done to me (yet) is cheated on me. Not because she's so great ...I just feel like I'm her best option and always handled my composure well in the relationship.

 

[RangerMIke]

You are wasting your life with this chick. Trust me, I had one like this in my life. We were in HS together and I loved her like a sister... not a freaking thing you can do about this. Until she died from alcohol related illnesses in the last 90s at the ripe old age of 34 she went from rehab to drunk and back again like a roller-coaster ride. I finally broke all contact with her in 1991. So I didn't have to watch her final self destruction.

 

[TheGambino]

Move the fvck on your story is 100% red flags.

I say This because your too emotionally involved. I deal with a plate like this and I ignore her rant and fvck her brains out without emotional involvement. So Its doable but not in your situation. Next her.

Abundance is key here, You lack abundance so abort mission idd

 

[sazc]

you've posted here that there are issues with the relationship, issues you feel are large. you've posted that you are trying t do the right thing and talk to your female about how you feel about the issues. She's responded with the proverbial 'go fvck yourself'

It's very rare that people change. In order to change they first have to want to change. She doesnt want to change and nothing you say is going to make that happen.

Time to stop wasting your time and move on. Essentially you guys are incompatible on some core levels. it will never work.

 

[sph21]

Pook's seventh lesson: “Respect is All.” If she's not respecting you, then she doesn't have enough attraction to you. Respect & attraction is a whole package for a woman.

When dealing with with women, you have to remember that they are not some kind of things we can fix if broken. Don't ever try to change a woman. She has to be the right girl for you or else she's gone.

Trying to change her into someone better for you is a complete waste of time.

You might want to read: "Anti-Dump's Machine (Part 3: You BUY a relationship, not BUILD one)" http://www.sosuave.net/forum/thread...3-you-buy-a-relationship-not-build-one.39785/ to understand why finding the right girl is better than trying to change her into someone that you dreamed of.

You'll save time, avoiding many heartaches and you'll be happier if you can find the right girl & keep her.

 

[Dingo]

Dude... re-read you post... so much wrong.

Drop her like yesterday.... she's toxic.

Sarge on...

 

[marmel75]

She doesn't respect you because she knows you are a weak male. She is with you for now until she finds something better and then will drop you like a bad habit incredibly coldly.

No idea why you allow this behaviour to go on. The issue is it has been going on for a long time, she knows who you really are so putting on an "act" won't work.

You need to dump this chick and learn how to respect yourself.

 

[El Payaso]

Then dump her and move on. You've communicated your standards and she's not willing to live up to them so dump her and move on.

At this point, you ARE being controlling. You can only control your actions and not others. Move on.

 

[BeExcellent]

You are in hella denial here pal. Your girlfriend of 2 years is posting close ups of her ass on Snapchat? Really?

As others have said, you gotta grab your balls & bail man. She doesn't care what you think & she doesn't care about treating you well.

The enjoyment of creating pain/hurt/drama for others is a covert narcissistic quality and is NOT normal. She likes seeing others hurt?

Stay in line pal. Your turn is coming.

Seriously this is a train to pain for you man. Get out now & find a better girl. This one is garbage based on behavior you have shared.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

It frustrates me to the core because I truly don't feel like she sees what she does wrong. I feel like I'm dating a child.

Why I stay? She has some good qualities and the sex is good.

STOP MAKING EXCUSES! A broad like this is only plate material but yet you LIVE together!?

It's time for exit strategy, seriously. A random dude that you DO NOT KNOW on your couch at 1am!?!? Are you fvcking kidding me. Hopefully your lease is up soon!

Your ship is sinking captain. This broad acts this way because it's probably a similar environment to which she grew up in. Time to re-evaluate your screening process and where you failed. From what you posted this sounds like it should be pretty easy.

 

[Billtx49]

She's subconsciously very angry inside and she Will totally turn that anger on you at some point. I'm betting she does it by banging one of her bar customers or three behind your back…
A woman like this spreads the chaos in her own life to others lives. If you do not want your personal life turned into total chaos, leave her behind you and move on.
There is No happy ending with this type of woman.

 

[MrJack]

Drop her before Chad Thundercock comes along.

 

[MrJack]

Shyt I didn't see the part about a guy being on your couch at 1am. Holy shyt dude get her the **** out of your life that is totally unacceptable. Were they cuddling? Blanket?

Even if they weren't there is absolutely no reason for her to have him over 1 on 1 especially at 1am.

Is the house your place OP? If it is please do yourself a favor and kick her out.

I would feel so disrespected.

 

[captain55]

Shyt I didn't see the part about a guy being on your couch at 1am. Holy shyt dude get her the **** out of your life that is totally unacceptable. Were they cuddling? Blanket?

Even if they weren't there is absolutely no reason for her to have him over 1 on 1 especially at 1am.

Is the house your place OP? If it is please do yourself a favor and kick her out.

I would feel so disrespected.

No it was her place. Used to be my place but I moved out and broke up with her and we got back together. They weren't cuddling or anything, I would be out if I thought she was trying to cheat.

 

[MrJack]

No it was her place. Used to be my place but I moved out and broke up with her and we got back together. They weren't cuddling or anything, I would be out if I thought she was trying to cheat.

Idk man still very very suspect. In my experience if I'm in a LTR with a girl and we break up for ANY reason, it usually means it's over for good even if you get back together.

Whatever problems caused the first breakup will eventually happen again and it's just a vicious cycle. Not worth the attack on your peace of mind.

If she's really that hot I'd try to keep her as a plate and just f*ck her on the side while you're looking for something new.