If you ask a 20 year old if she'd date a 40 year old, she's go "ewwww, gross! creepy old man!" It's negative emotion because of the social implication that older men who sleep with younger women are creepy. However, if the guy is confident, fun and interesting, the social implication goes out the fvcking window because positive emotions are present. She doesn't see him as creepy because he has qualities that contradict creepiness.
Yes, she may still leave you. There is no logic on her end. She may leave simply because she's following her emotions down a rabbit hole. After she'd done chasing the rabbit, she will try and get back to where she was before.
This is how women make what appears to be the most incredibly stupid decisions. It's not even a decision on her part, it's just her following what she feels. The desire to follow emotions is much stronger in women than it is in men. However, it doesn't mean that what she felt before she went down the rabbit hole is irrelevant, it may be just temporarily pushed aside. It will remain.
I think the only way these women will stay in your life is when the feelings of losing you are more intense than the temporary pleasure that crosses her path. In other words, she has to be terrified of losing you.
My current situation seems to cater to this. She's technically an "alpha-widow" because I previously fvcked her and didn't commit. Now that I've finally "warmed up" to having her in my life, she clings as if losing me is the absolute worst thing that could happen.
Think about the whole alpha-widow perspective. If one of your loved ones died but came back to life two years later, wouldn't you appreciate them and cling to them tighter?
