Danger: 23 Year Old coming on strong...

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And I'm married. This is a unique situation, read on.

Let's preface this discussion. I remember this site wayyyyyyyy back when I was in my late teens early twenties. It helped me SO much. Can't believe it's still here. Great to see guys still helping each other out here not be betas.

Long story short, since ya'll probably thing I'm a piece of garbage by now, my wife is 29, hot, we have a two year old daughter. We have been together 10 years. Married 5. My wife is also bi sexual. Feel like I struck the jackpot on this one honestly. I have always been flirty, she doesn't get jealous. I have never taken anything that far however.

She works, but I take care of 90% of the bills as I make a lot more than she does. I resent her for this a bit, but I need to let it go. She pays for what she can and has school loans. I get it. She's a good woman. Wonderful mother.

She doesn't have a ton of friends, mostly are married with miserable lives because they don't do anything sit home. We still go out and have a good time together. I have a considerable amount of friends in there 30s that are single so we go out and have a good time still. Party like we are early 20s but all have jobs and responsibilities. (Not sure if this is a good or bad thing, lol). I go out with the boys once a week usually, sometimes twice. One of my boys friends is a girl (who I also know) and planned to take her up to a Casino for her 25th Birthday. So the three boys went up and they met us up there later. Was six of them. One that showed up I knew from previous encounters with said girls work (always had a crush on her) and we have just chatted casually. This girl is bad. Body is ridiculous, tits are perfect and she just graduated with her Masters and has a job lined up starting next week. She also is aware of my wife. We hung out most of the night and all were sleeping at the same hotel. (I had my own room, girls all split rooms). We all partied till about 5am and I went back to my room before I made any really bad decisions.

Fast forward to a week or so later me and my buddy are out visiting his girl again and the baddie is working (server). She stops over to say hello and asks what we were doing after. Told them grabbing another drink somewhere else and they both ask to come. By this point my brain is telling me this ***** is catching feelings and I need an exit plan, but my drunk mind doesn't work as well as my sober mind so they come we all grab drinks and just hang out. I duck out as it was getting late and she blows me up on Facebook messenger asking where I went etc. Also adds me on Snapchat. That was a few days ago.

After typing this, it even feels wrong but it feels so good to have the attention of younger girls. My wife is a bad *****, and I love her I probably could of linked all three of us up if I had my game on that night and if she was there and wouldn't have this current situation. I have never cheated on my wife (physically) this feels a tad odd even for me as flirty as I am.

Best course of action is to dead this girl off as this isn't likely healthy even though my wife probably doesn't give a **** as long as I don't bang this broad.
 

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By this point my brain is telling me this ***** is catching feelings and I need an exit plan,
Try not to read into it quite that much, she just wants to bone.
 

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Man...I would definitely want to do it but for the sake of morality and the sanctity of your marriage dont do it. maybe just have your wife befriend her first and let her do the gaming. ;)
 

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You're mindfwcking yourself in a way not unsimilar to a dude with one-itis.

Slap some sense into yourself. Either forget about this chick and take our your horniness on your wife, or go nail this b1tch and deal with the consequences. The longer you stay in this in-between state, the more you'll regret whatever you choose to do.
 

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Hook up with her and get divorced. Lose all your money to child support and alimony. Among letting another man raise and mis treat your kid... go ahead ruin your life. Because it will be easy to get another girl after u are divorced and broke and live in an apt and have baby mama drama.. hot girls love that..... no they dont. U will be miserable.
Wtf is wrong with you?. You have a GOOD wife dont **** it up.. you are not in high school to be this horny to lose your direction.
 
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Yea, you are right. No matter the outcome here it wouldn't be good for me. It's nice to know that in my 30s young girls still find me attractive. I've been with my wife so long that I ponder what sex would be like with another woman.

I look around at some of my married friends and they are miserable. Don't go out, do anything but watch their kids every weekend. I love my Daughter but life isn't just about raising your children. Perhaps I'm selfish? I dunno.

Saw a picture of said girl above from last night, good lord that girl was looking good. She typically doesn't wear makeup but when she does look out. Also has no father figure in her life for the last 10+ years (he passed) and smokes a ton of weed. New girl spells bad news. Can't lie about temptation though.
 

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Let me try to make this quick and to the point for you.

If you want to bone this chick, you need to determine what you want out of it exactly AND STICK WITH IT! If you just want a one time session with her, do it and then move on with your life. If you think one session will lead to you wanting another, then another, then possibly catching feelings, you need to own it and also understand what could happen as a result.

Many guys who are in LTRs or marriages and decide to cheat subconsciously want to get caught. The little things catch up with them in terms of their behaviour and routine and it starts adding up. Be aware of this. You really need to observe your own behaviour to determine if there is part of you that wants to get caught, or if you truly want this to happen on the side. Realistically, she sounds like a short-term thing, albeit fun. Just make sure she's not absolutely nuts and will go looking up your home address banging on the door at midnight wanting to talk.
 

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Sucks you're married and have a kid... if not you could do whatever the hell you want! I tried fighting those desires before and to me, it's highly unhealthy. It makes me VERY sad and feel like **** so I just gotta do it.

You could talk to that broad and tell her you love your wife.... but would smash anytime. See if she's cool with that. But it's a risk.. a big one... ONLY because you are married + kid. Worst combo ever!

Or you could also tell your wife that there is this very hot girl that you think she'd get along ;P
Or another thing I've done in the past that worked pretty well... when I saw a chick was interested in me but knew she was going to be part of our circle of common friends, I'd literally tell the chick this : You want me? You gotta go thru my gf first.. she likes women and I have a feeling you do too if not there is a first time for everything ;)
Ended up banging this chick in a 3some and even 4some with my gf and her bestfriend.

I think these things in life are totally worth living and the feminine imperative bs can go fck itself. What's right, what's wrong? Everything female deems right vs natural and basic instincts/needs? red pill all the way my friend
 

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You've answered your question yourself. This young chick is clearly unstable and your best off staying well away, unless.... You can get your wife on board ;)
 

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Could there be any piece of p*ssy that would be worth it? I'm the immortal words of Eddie Murphy, I don't care if sparks shoot out her *ss, there's no p*say worth the hassle like this. If your wife is as good as you say, what is your problem? Take it from someone stuck in a super sh*tty marriage, count your f*cking blessings
 

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You guys telling em what's wrong with you only because he's in a happy marriage don't seem to get it at all... or you've been solo for too long maybe.
Not many man can stay 100% happy in a monogamous relationship without having to struggle without the desire and urge to go **** other pussies. Men just need variety and we're simply not meant to stick around. But the feminine imperative tells us to man up and take care of a women and family cause they all depend on us and they do... well not so much nowadays if you consider how much of men taxed money is simply redirected towards women, they still indirectly depends on us.

Anyways.... this guy here is happy with his wife and have no reason to dump her or move yet... BUT his masculine primal instincts are yelling inside his head.

I feel ya man... go for it but be wise. Tell your wife about these urges but keep reminding her why you're still by her side, constantly... that's what women need. Constant reassuring.
 

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You guys telling em what's wrong with you only because he's in a happy marriage don't seem to get it at all... or you've been solo for too long maybe.
Not many man can stay 100% happy in a monogamous relationship without having to struggle without the desire and urge to go **** other pussies. Men just need variety and we're simply not meant to stick around. But the feminine imperative tells us to man up and take care of a women and family cause they all depend on us and they do... well not so much nowadays if you consider how much of men taxed money is simply redirected towards women, they still indirectly depends on us.

Anyways.... this guy here is happy with his wife and have no reason to dump her or move yet... BUT his masculine primal instincts are yelling inside his head.

I feel ya man... go for it but be wise. Tell your wife about these urges but keep reminding her why you're still by her side, constantly... that's what women need. Constant reassuring.
Look man, I get it, the call of the strange but seriously, you are advising him to go after and be "careful." What the f*ck does that mean? You mean like don't get caught? You know he's going to eventually get caught right? You're going to give him advice to flush his future down the tubes over a temporary piece of p*ssy? Maybe, just maybe, if you said, "Hey man, end it with your wife, end it on a positive note, as least as positive as it's going to get in that situation and then go chase after that strange." No, you tell him to go about it in the worst possible way. That way, when she finds out, and she will, she's going to go over drive into finding ways to screw him over. Great advice man, great advice.
 

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You guys telling em what's wrong with you only because he's in a happy marriage don't seem to get it at all... or you've been solo for too long maybe.
Not many man can stay 100% happy in a monogamous relationship without having to struggle without the desire and urge to go **** other pussies. Men just need variety and we're simply not meant to stick around. But the feminine imperative tells us to man up and take care of a women and family cause they all depend on us and they do... well not so much nowadays if you consider how much of men taxed money is simply redirected towards women, they still indirectly depends on us.

Anyways.... this guy here is happy with his wife and have no reason to dump her or move yet... BUT his masculine primal instincts are yelling inside his head.

I feel ya man... go for it but be wise. Tell your wife about these urges but keep reminding her why you're still by her side, constantly... that's what women need. Constant reassuring.
I agree with this.

Listen, My life is pretty damn good for the most part. I did what you were "supposed" to do.. went to school, got job, started business, met girl, got married had a kid. Now I don't have regrets other than going through a banging phase with randoms when i was younger. When I was younger i was so beta compared to how I am now for some reason that wasn't an option. Even though my wife is very attractive, loves sex... i still "look around" at other women and find them gorgeous. Call it primal instincts, I dunno.. but I still have the urge to sleep with other women. Not that I'm going to act on it...

Younger broad still hits me on snapchat daily (i keep it casual), but seems to spend most her time working (teaching, waitressing) and smoking weed. Mega pot head. Still would want to smash but there are major repercussions and no p*ssy is likely worth that nightmare on the backend.

This may not make sense from the married guy, but a lot of guys on this site are in their mid to late 30s still smashing 20 year olds.
 

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Temptation brother, when you bang her and your wife leaves you she'll be an accomplished home wrecker and you won't see her ever again either.

Just tell your wife, yo this chick is trying to seduce me, out of love for you I'm telling you first hand go take care of her for me.

3way? She beats her azz? Who knows (;
 

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I think the OP should tell his wife everything. She is obviously a cool gal. End the story with how you ditched that girl and came back to your wife, because she is the one you really love. You did the right thing. You should take the credit you deserve.
 

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The problem is that she knows your friends and they know your wife.
You will always be paranoid that your wife will find out.
No whats messed up is she knows not just a couple of my friends she knows my wife. They arent friends per se but she knows she exists lol
 

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Look man, I get it, the call of the strange but seriously, you are advising him to go after and be "careful." What the f*ck does that mean? You mean like don't get caught? You know he's going to eventually get caught right? You're going to give him advice to flush his future down the tubes over a temporary piece of p*ssy? Maybe, just maybe, if you said, "Hey man, end it with your wife, end it on a positive note, as least as positive as it's going to get in that situation and then go chase after that strange." No, you tell him to go about it in the worst possible way. That way, when she finds out, and she will, she's going to go over drive into finding ways to screw him over. Great advice man, great advice.
How is being upfront with your cool wife about how you feel bad advice?

Your advice for him is it to fight his urges for the rest of his life and simply be content with what he has right now.. Great advice... really

I'll be over there, sharing reality with my gf and advising other people to do so too.. I am sorry you feel this is impossible for you but the OP here keeps mentioning a chill wife, which is a must but for too many people with dominant wives, it's prolly much simpler to fight against your masculine nature and somehow be happy this way... or pretend.
 

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How is being upfront with your cool wife about how you feel bad advice?

Your advice for him is it to fight his urges for the rest of his life and simply be content with what he has right now.. Great advice... really

I'll be over there, sharing reality with my gf and advising other people to do so too.. I am sorry you feel this is impossible for you but the OP here keeps mentioning a chill wife, which is a must but for too many people with dominant wives, it's prolly much simpler to fight against your masculine nature and somehow be happy this way... or pretend.
I'm sure not many women are going to be chill with you going to town on another woman. It's nice to think that jealousy one way or the other doesn't come into play but c'mon, it does, it just does. So you go to town on another chick, your wife says, "go ahead dear, have the time of your life, I'm ok with that." Meanwhile, she's either:
a. cool with it today but changes here mind at some point in the future, you're probably screwed.
b. not cool with it but says so anyway to make him "happy", you're probably screwed.

Once you open up the pandora's box of screwing other people, anything goes really. How are you going to tell her not to do it if you're already done it? It'd be like telling your teenage son/daughter not to get a tattoo and you've got several of them. Not going to fly and you know it. It's one thing if you're dating someone and completely different if you've got a house, kids, wife and now you want to go play around. Maybe, just maybe, if guys didn't regularly get hung out to dry in the courts, I might be on board with your advice. Knowing that the courts are extremely biased towards men, you're playing with fire. If you're dating someone, hell, even living with them for a few years, fine, tell them and go play around. If you are emotionally tied together through your kids and financially tied together, it's just not that easy to separate.
 

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Always tell your wife indirectly when other women are interested in you. It will make them want you more. Your loyalty plus the fact that other women want you will ensure she'll **** your brains out.

You had a fun ride, but you need to dead this chick. It's not worth it. You will ruin your ****ing life if you go through with it.
 
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