I'm going to date a bpd chick

[guru1000]

I think the OP is an ignorant 20-something (no disrespect intended to others here) who has very little real life experience and is trying to play "SS Sage." The guy just set up an account last week and now he's authority on BPD, NPD, being a man, bla bla bla.

He'll learn...hopefully.

OP a/k/a NaugthyNinja is in his 50s, NYC resident, an old vet of SoSuave, and a self-proclaimed POF king. Show respect.

 

[Leisuresuitlegend]

OP a/k/a Naugthy Ninja is in his 50s, NYC resident, an old vet of SoSuave, and a self-proclaimed POF king. Show respect.

And Guru my # 1 fanboy who can't keep up with yours truly post humps my leg like a horny French Poodle in heat. Down boy. I don't swing that way.

 

[Dash Riprock]

OP a/k/a NaugthyNinja is in his 50s, NYC resident, an old vet of SoSuave, and a self-proclaimed POF king. Show respect.

I don't care. Every post he makes is lame and a non-contribution to the board, i.e. his OP. Respect needs to be earned.

 

[guru1000]

And Guru my # 1 fanboy who can't keep up with yours truly post humps my leg like a horny French Poodle in heat. Down boy. I don't swing that way.

Ironic you say this with your (25th) current SoSuave name describing me.

 

[guru1000]

I don't care. Every post he makes is lame and a non-contribution to the board, i.e. his OP. Respect needs to be earned.

Hmm, no wonder he got banned 24 times

 

[Leisuresuitlegend]

One dude on SS going on 13 years and another going on his 11th year anniversary talking about "respect being earned" on an anonymous online forum no less. BRILLIANT. LMAO

 

[exhausted]

So you admit it's "taking abuse" which should be on an ongoing basis therefore it's being ignored. Not something that just busts like a dam at once and you just leave and diagnose BPD. It's dudes taking abuse for a while and ignoring it then finger pointing as if they were "helpless victims" to not just man the hell up and walk.

Would anyone just let themselves be abused by friends? Why should some chick be different.

You aren't paying very close attention.
At first the outbursts are NOT aimed at you, a year or more into the relationship they change direction and become attacks at you.

U act like ttwo months in the girl tells u that u are a fst piece of crap and her exbf frucks her better. Any fool would never talk to a girl like that again.

Example. 3 months less than 3 years in my ex and my son and i went to dinner. 2 mins into sitting down at the table she goes cold, ignoring me, not answering me besides head nods, doesnt say a word for 45 mins, on her phone the whole time, our whol rela whenever we went out we never bring our phones out as we want to enjoy our company tog as this was something we always did, so that gave me the hint the bitfch was punishing me about something, we ate dinner i acted like nothing was wrong despite acting like this, check came i paid and we left. No word on the way home, now mind u my kid is with us so i dont say anything the whole time except a few small talk w her that she ignored, i didnt want a fight in front of my kid, so we get home she says shes going home i ask whats wrong she says nothing then leaves, calls me 15 mins later and says that my kid interrupted her, i say are YOU KIDDING YOU IGNORED AND PUNISHED ME BECAUSE MY KID INTERRUPTED YOU?, she says he did it on purpose, i said he is 3 months after a traumatic brain injury and even if there is no excuse for him if he interrupts is it worth acting like this and mis treating me????
I said so instead mentioning it if u cant finish what u are saying like an adult u instead ignore me for over an hour, let me buy dinner and eat it while on your phone ignoring me? you are an awful person, she
Says fine i will pay u back i said good u owe me 15$ she drove all the way back dropped money off and stormed off.
I told her tske a hike, almost 3 years tog and she treats me like this in front of my kid at that NO thanks goood bye. 3 days of her appologizing, says something is wrong with her with stress and that she loves me and doesnt mean to act like that. She needs me to be better with herself.

Half the time she is a normal loving person the other half a mean fucccccking cvnt. The longer tog these episodes then come out but only after a year or more together after you make up your mind this is your life partner.

So by the time you have had enough you are leaving someone you love who has something wrong with them they cant help because someone fuched them up when they were a defenseless child so it is HARD to drop them.

 

[Leisuresuitlegend]

You aren't paying very close attention.
At first the outbursts are NOT aimed at you, a year or more into the relationship they change direction and become attacks at you.

U act like ttwo months in the girl tells u that u are a fst piece of crap and her exbf frucks her better. Any fool would never talk to a girl like that again.

Example. 3 months less than 3 years in my ex and my son and i went to dinner. 2 mins into sitting down at the table she goes cold, ignoring me, not answering me besides head nods, doesnt say a word for 45 mins, on her phone the whole time, our whol rela whenever we went out we never bring our phones out as we want to enjoy our company tog as this was something we always did, so that gave me the hint the bitfch was punishing me about something, we ate dinner i acted like nothing was wrong despite acting like this, check came i paid and we left. No word on the way home, now mind u my kid is with us so i dont say anything the whole time except a few small talk w her that she ignored, i didnt want a fight in front of my kid, so we get home she says shes going home i ask whats wrong she says nothing then leaves, calls me 15 mins later and says that my kid interrupted her, i say are YOU KIDDING YOU IGNORED AND PUNISHED ME BECAUSE MY KID INTERRUPTED YOU?, she says he did it on purpose, i said he is 3 months after a traumatic brain injury and even if there is no excuse for him if he interrupts is it worth acting like this and mis treating me????
I said so instead mentioning it if u cant finish what u are saying like an adult u instead ignore me for over an hour, let me buy dinner and eat it while on your phone ignoring me? you are an awful person, she
Says fine i will pay u back i said good u owe me 15$ she drove all the way back dropped money off and stormed off.
I told her tske a hike, almost 3 years tog and she treats me like this in front of my kid at that NO thanks goood bye. 3 days of her appologizing, says something is wrong with her with stress and that she loves me and doesnt mean to act like that. She needs me to be better with herself.

Half the time she is a normal loving person the other half a mean fucccccking cvnt. The longer tog these episodes then come out but only after a year or more together after you make up your mind this is your life partner.

So by the time you have had enough you are leaving someone you love who has something wrong with them they cant help because someone fuched them up when they were a defenseless child so it is HARD to drop them.

And in three years of knowing her her parents, friends, etc. let alone her ever clued you in she was an unhinged maniac?

 

[exhausted]

And in three years of knowing her her parents, friends, etc. let alone her ever clued you in she was an unhinged maniac?

Ha.

It's progressive.

Something little here and there starts.

And then BLOW ups start coming year or more in and u think, this is my life companion i want to marry, how can i help her for the both of us, for our life together.

You instinct is to fix Whats wrong, not bail on your companion and best friend of years.

Like i said months in and i am OUT peace. Y

 

[Leisuresuitlegend]

Ha.

It's progressive.

Something little here and there starts.

And then BLOW ups start coming year or more in and u think, this is my life companion i want to marry, how can i help her for the both of us, for our life together.

You instinct is to fix Whats wrong, not bail on your companion and best friend of years.

Like i said months in and i am OUT peace. Y

Dude I get it. Especially if you think you might marry the chick I'd be seeing how the parents are, how she is with her parents, relatives, friends etc. And these chicks will talk. If they think you're cool they'll drop hints another chick is a nut. Parents problems? No dad? Issues with her parents? etc. I pay close attention while not calling her out. I may mention things slightly to see how a chick reacts. If no change? I count the red flags and just leave.

I've known first and last name they know me first and last probably off the top of my head about five to six chicks who were possibly BPD but most DEFINITELY were toxic as hell there was no WAY they could hide it. Out of many, many people I know I could recall easily six chicks that were damn good looking but severely fvcked up. People not only talk but you hear it from them and see a lot of "off" shyt. Chicks from high end familes too. But were either institutionalized, had multiple public fiascos, were just mean spirited toxic individuals while trying to be everyone's "BFF". I've known dudes who dated them and know them personally. Most people just avoid them. Seriously toxic screwed up for life chicks. I mean when you get people who tell you "you know that chick? She's nuts!" etc. and you laugh you know they're fvcked in the head.

 

[exhausted]

Dude I get it. Especially if you think you might marry the chick I'd be seeing how the parents are, how she is with her parents, relatives, friends etc. And these chicks will talk. If they think you're cool they'll drop hints another chick is a nut. Parents problems? No dad? Issues with her parents? etc. I pay close attention while not calling her out. I may mention things slightly to see how a chick reacts. If no change? I count the red flags and just leave.

I've known first and last name they know me first and last probably off the top of my head about five to six chicks who were possibly BPD but most DEFINITELY were toxic as hell there was no WAY they could hide it. Out of many, many people I know I could recall easily six chicks that were damn good looking but severely fvcked up. People not only talk but you hear it from them and see a lot of "off" shyt. Chicks from high end familes too. But were either institutionalized, had multiple public fiascos, were just mean spirited toxic individuals while trying to be everyone's "BFF". I've known dudes who dated them and know them personally. Most people just avoid them. Seriously toxic screwed up for life chicks. I mean when you get people who tell you "you know that chick? She's nuts!" etc. and you laugh you know they're fvcked in the head.

Her family is good. Great loving and nurturing mother, whom she is NOT like, good dad , blue collar hard worker tho successful.
Her mom is so wonderful even my mother said no wonder i stuck it out so long.

It's her past that came up over time that had the red flags.

Ex smoker.
Ex pot head daily for 4 years.
Married 18- 22 she didnt want to be married anymore but found out later she got pregnant by another man 4 months after her D, on purpose she wanted to marry him. Gross.
The guy was almost 18 years older.
He's a loser. Seriously. 46 years old today lives in appt down by the river. Saw court documents he claimed 12 grand on tax income, Is like 5'3, NO joke. She's a 7 he's a 3, I'm easily superior to her. What foolish girl would choose a loser like this? (Shes from a good family except was raised a spoiled brat, her parents were 40 snd 46 when she was born. )
. Her baby daddy Even moved in w her in her parents home , he was 41 and she 23 WTF i did NOT find this **** out until years in. What grown man moves into his 23 yr old gf's parents home??? And what parents allow that???

If i knew this **** i would have never had a 2nd date.

The bpd hides **** as long as they can.

 

[Leisuresuitlegend]

Her family is good. Great loving and nurturing mother, whom she is NOT like, good dad , blue collar hard worker tho successful.
Her mom is so wonderful even my mother said no wonder i stuck it out so long.

It's her past that came up over time that had the red flags.

Ex smoker.
Ex pot head daily for 4 years.
Married 18- 22 she didnt want to be married anymore but found out later she got pregnant by another man 4 months after her D, on purpose she wanted to marry him. Gross.
The guy was almost 18 years older.
He's a loser. Seriously. 46 years old today lives in appt down by the river. Saw court documents he claimed 12 grand on tax income, Is like 5'3, NO joke. She's a 7 he's a 3, I'm easily superior to her. What foolish girl would choose a loser like this? (Shes from a good family except was raised a spoiled brat, her parents were 40 snd 46 when she was born. )
. Her baby daddy Even moved in w her in her parents home , he was 41 and she 23 WTF i did NOT find this **** out until years in. What grown man moves into his 23 yr old gf's parents home??? And what parents allow that???

If i knew this **** i would have never had a 2nd date.

The bpd hides **** as long as they can.

Damn dude there are some REAL fcvk ups out there. I know a few that would top that chick. I mean the shyt is something you couldn't make up if you tried. That's the thing. If you find out a chick is a lowlife doesn't matter if you are 1000% better than her. You can't turn a hoe into a housewife. I keep the hell away from those chicks and thank God if they wouldn't "date" me.

 

[exhausted]

Damn dude there are some REAL fcvk ups out there. I know a few that would top that chick. I mean the shyt is something you couldn't make up if you tried. That's the thing. If you find out a chick is a lowlife doesn't matter if you are 1000% better than her. You can't turn a hoe into a housewife. I keep the hell away from those chicks and thank God if they wouldn't "date" me.

Can't turn a spoiled brat with emotional issues into a woman and wife is more accurate

 

[Billtx49]

I keep the hell away from those chicks and thank God if they wouldn't "date" me.

I thought the whole purpose of this thread, that you created, is that you Would date an emotionally messed up chick.
Make up your mind OP.

 

[Leisuresuitlegend]

I thought the whole purpose of this thread, that you created, is that you Would date an emotionally messed up chick.
Make up your mind OP.

The purpose of the thread is there are a lot of dudes who just throw out "BPD" at any chick who gives them any issues. Then there are the dudes who willfully go blissfully "unaware" through a relationship with a chick who is a nutcase and then act as if they lived under a rock and weren't ever aware of toxic behaviors till their BPD "snagged them". Then there are the rest of us who see nutcases and don't bother with them.

I've yet to meet a nutjob chick I couldn't tell something was "off" with and let her be. But to "DJ's" this is "weak easy damaged prey" they can't restrain themselves from to "validate" themselves off an easy lay etc.

 

[Billtx49]

Spin it however you want. I can read the thread title and your original post.
Go get busy finding one and report back to us afterwards.

 

[Leisuresuitlegend]

Spin it however you want. I can read the thread title and your original post.
Go get busy finding one and report back to us.

Already dated a nutcase. Dropped her and never contacted her nor replied. But you keep making excuses for ignoring toxic bs in the chicks you date.

 

[darksprezzatura]

Date her?

Nah, marry her, give her all your wealth and have a couple of kids.

Don't forget to chop your balls off and hand her on the platter.

 

[Leisuresuitlegend]

Date her?

Nah, marry her, give her all your wealth and have a couple of kids.

Don't forget to chop your balls off and hand her on the platter.

I'm not dumb nor desperate enough to. I'll leave that to you.

 

[exhausted]

The purpose of the thread is there are a lot of dudes who just throw out "BPD" at any chick who gives them any issues. Then there are the dudes who willfully go blissfully "unaware" through a relationship with a chick who is a nutcase and then act as if they lived under a rock and weren't ever aware of toxic behaviors till their BPD "snagged them". Then there are the rest of us who see nutcases and don't bother with them.

I've yet to meet a nutjob chick I couldn't tell something was "off" with and let her be. But to "DJ's" this is "weak easy damaged prey" they can't restrain themselves from to "validate" themselves off an easy lay etc.

WHY are you on this site?

This site is for those seeking out something.

What is missing within YOU that brought you here?