So you admit it's "taking abuse" which should be on an ongoing basis therefore it's being ignored. Not something that just busts like a dam at once and you just leave and diagnose BPD. It's dudes taking abuse for a while and ignoring it then finger pointing as if they were "helpless victims" to not just man the hell up and walk.
Would anyone just let themselves be abused by friends? Why should some chick be different.
You aren't paying very close attention.
At first the outbursts are NOT aimed at you, a year or more into the relationship they change direction and become attacks at you.
U act like ttwo months in the girl tells u that u are a fst piece of crap and her exbf frucks her better. Any fool would never talk to a girl like that again.
Example. 3 months less than 3 years in my ex and my son and i went to dinner. 2 mins into sitting down at the table she goes cold, ignoring me, not answering me besides head nods, doesnt say a word for 45 mins, on her phone the whole time, our whol rela whenever we went out we never bring our phones out as we want to enjoy our company tog as this was something we always did, so that gave me the hint the bitfch was punishing me about something, we ate dinner i acted like nothing was wrong despite acting like this, check came i paid and we left. No word on the way home, now mind u my kid is with us so i dont say anything the whole time except a few small talk w her that she ignored, i didnt want a fight in front of my kid, so we get home she says shes going home i ask whats wrong she says nothing then leaves, calls me 15 mins later and says that my kid interrupted her, i say are YOU KIDDING YOU IGNORED AND PUNISHED ME BECAUSE MY KID INTERRUPTED YOU?, she says he did it on purpose, i said he is 3 months after a traumatic brain injury and even if there is no excuse for him if he interrupts is it worth acting like this and mis treating me????
I said so instead mentioning it if u cant finish what u are saying like an adult u instead ignore me for over an hour, let me buy dinner and eat it while on your phone ignoring me? you are an awful person, she
Says fine i will pay u back i said good u owe me 15$ she drove all the way back dropped money off and stormed off.
I told her tske a hike, almost 3 years tog and she treats me like this in front of my kid at that NO thanks goood bye. 3 days of her appologizing, says something is wrong with her with stress and that she loves me and doesnt mean to act like that. She needs me to be better with herself.
Half the time she is a normal loving person the other half a mean fucccccking cvnt. The longer tog these episodes then come out but only after a year or more together after you make up your mind this is your life partner.
So by the time you have had enough you are leaving someone you love who has something wrong with them they cant help because someone fuched them up when they were a defenseless child so it is HARD to drop them.