Seriously. I've always picked up complitments because I damn well know how to dom a woman but some like it, some don't.
The guys I know who girls say are good in bed have got big d1cks. Like a big pair of tits, it's just novelty value and it wears off.
A woman who stongly values men for their sexuality is to be avoided at all costs. Some women don't care much as long as you are happy with her in bed. These are called "women". They like men for long term compaitbility, companionship and warm, cosy nights and feeling appreciated.
The other type, "vag hungry dead souled men with a vag" are the type who swoon at bodybuilders and think pvssy first. As soon as they are bored with you in bed, watch out, because they thing with their pvssy and will seek it elsewhere. Usually the type of women who are obsessed with their career and status and purely see a man as a walking dildo or status symbol with their friends. They've had threesomes when drunk, they usually have a huge past of things which a man would never want to know about. They have a massive female social group and see men as a foreign species and are incapable of true intamacy or fidelity.
They tend to read cosmo, a lot.
Of course, there's wrong with waning a fulfiling sex life. This is based on the assumption the guy isn't massively selfish, but women who always need to cvm and get hung up easy on her enjoyment....I find these are red flaggers.
I've had some girls be fine with pleasing me when they are on. Others, if they can't cvm ypu get nothing. This amps up pressure on the guy and, let's face it, who wants this pressure in sex.
The girl who treats sex, at least initially, as an exercise in making her man happy is the woman who gets love. This is dynamite for me, it means I may have many years of happy sex and makes me want to make her happy in the areas she tends to care about - general good treatment, commitment, fidelity etc. Also, I start WANTING to make her cvm more. The girl who starts bytching on the 3rd date about her sexual pleasure....well, thanks for ripping the fun out of the most important thing in my life. Early sex should just be about making it a success. I need to feel motivated to fvck a woman, she just needs to lie there basically so she needs to recognise that boners are tempermental things and conditionaility in sex, esp early on, is not helpful.
Rant over. I had a few of these girls earlier this year and the contrast of genuinely helpful/enthusiastic women is huge. As women have said above, if it's the all around package of a man which is important, how he treats you and the relationship, making sex amazing for him is very likely to make him really want to make the other parts great for her. You don't half feel happy with the thought she is willing to please you in bed, it's like magic to us, well, at least to me.