If a dude has no business dating a truly nutty chick it's his own fault for being desperate enough just because "wild sex". Better to go through a "dry spell" than to invest anything at all then finger point as if you're a "helpless victim" who lost his brains. I'm not buying it that these dudes had ZERO clue the chick they dated was a nut. If some chick comes on too strong, to fast, and some dudes ego is reliant on her approval, praise etc. he's ripe and not the dude he claims to be. As in a dude that can get other women, has true self confidence not reliant on external ego boosts, and is a whole complete person with or without someone.
I have yet to find one good reason why men who claim to be A through Z would ever waste their time with a nutcase. And don't even try "wild sex" or "constant praise" because then the dude is not only thirsty for poon at his own expense but insecure and in need of external "confidence".
Women with personality disorders are academy award winning actresses. You don't know what is happening to you until you're sucked in too far to eject.
The best way I've seen it described is in a book I'm currently read called "The object of affection is in my reflection". This book specifically deals with Narcissistic PD, but these disorders often run comorbid with one another. So it's not uncommon for someone like this to exibit traits of all the different cluster B disorders. But here's what it feels like being wrecked by one of these women:
"The ability to simply switch off is painful and startling to those who have witnessed it. Those on the other side of this phenomenon feel almost as if they had been standing under a shower of incredible love and adoration, then one day the water is turned off without notice - and they are left feeling bare, cold and bereft. The narcissist moves from expressions of care, love, intense interest, involvement, commitment, protection, and overvaluation to total disregard, disgust and lack of any interest or emotional involment."
The difference between the NPD and BPD is that the BPD will cycle you back quickly, but sometimes they won't. It could take years before you hear from them again just like the Narcissist.
What's truly ironic is that it is the guys who have their act together who are the primary target of these women because it'll take longer for them to "switch off". If you're a supplicating, beta chump she'll discard you within weeks, maybe a month of meeing you. But if you're high value in her eyes, it won't happen until you're hooked. Your bank account, your pesonality, your body, your d*ck, how many times you've made her ***, your status, your power, etc. MEAN NOTHING. This woman's only objective is to control you and the higher status you are the harder she hits you. She only feels satisfied once you're completely ruined.
So yeah, go ahead and try to "date" one, tough guy.
