Exe's That Came Back, When You Never Thought They Would

[soulforge]

So guys, give me some examples of exe's that came back, who dumped you for maybe afc behaviour or they just didn't want to be with you anymore?? You thought she would never come back, but she did..

01. One chick I dated for 6 months, out of the blue she dumped me, because she felt I was not spending enough time with her.. 8 months later she wanted me back.. banged her a few times, then nexted her.. She is still chasing me now, but I don't care for her anymore.

02. A girl I nearly married, was dating for 2 years.. We broke up.. She started burning up my phone, nearly 2 years after we broke up.. I just ignored the Chit out of her.

 

[Leisuresuitlegend]

So guys, give me some examples of exe's that came back, who dumped you for maybe afc behaviour or they just didn't want to be with you anymore?? You thought she would never come back, but she did..

01. One chick I dated for 6 months, out of the blue she dumped me, because she felt I was not spending enough time with her.. 8 months later she wanted me back.. banged her a few times, then nexted her.. She is still chasing me now, but I don't care for her anymore.

02. A girl I nearly married, was dating for 2 years.. We broke up.. She started burning up my phone, nearly 2 years after we broke up.. I just ignored the Chit out of her.

Two most recent though I got rid of them for a reason and wasn't worried if they came back or not.

Went complete ghost and never contacted either of them in any shape or form let alone responded.

Treat those experiences as learning, growing, and moving forward in life in a positive direction. Period.

 

[FMCSMT]

Yes. Weird right? Well, not really because I would venture to say your value was so high that it left a residual perception of high value later on down the line. So much so that they reach out to you months, years later. I would also guess that comfortability plays a large roll for their return.

01 - I'm in that situation now almost exactly. Physical attraction is playing the biggest role in my lack of caring for her. Beautiful face, fun in bed, but needs to lose 30lbs and she won't. I can't do it even for fun and the lack of caring for her is difficult to hide.

02 - I would strongly encourage NC with her. You would have married her? The hardest thing to do here imo is to watch the texts/calls (bait, really) and ignore a person you DO care about. The best defense might be a good offense on this one - block and delete.

Goodluck and Godspeed

 

[bigneil]

Nearly every girl who ever left me came back at some point, provided that I didn't freak out when it happened.

2011 - HB7, age 47. We had a ONS. She blew me off. 30 days later she reached out. Had mad affair for 6 months until I moved. I broke her heart.

2012 - HB8, age 20. We dated 6 months. She broke my heart. I got oneitis. I reached out 3 months later and (though she was still angry and bitter) got her back. She apologized for hurting me and I had the upper hand. Dated two more years.

2014 - HB8, age 21. We dated 6 months. She wanted to get married. I said no. She said I broke her heart. It was LDR. 6 months later when I got to GA she reached out. We dated 6 more months.

2017 - HB9, age 21. We dated 9 months. She initiated a divorce but her life went into turmoil and we ended up in a historic power struggle. I walked away. After 7 weeks she reached out. I saw her again last week. (To Be Continued...)

 

[logicallefty]

1991 HS girlfriend of about 6 x months. First girl I ever railed. Found each other on FB in 2012 some 21 x years later and had a 2 x year LTR. I ended it with her both times.

 

[bigneil]

Studies show that couples who broke up for no good reason and later get back together tend to stay together.

https://qz.com/578395/the-psychology-of-why-rekindled-romances-are-so-intense/

 

[soulforge]

Nearly every girl who ever left me came back at some point, provided that I didn't freak out when it happened.

2011 - HB7, age 47. We had a ONS. She blew me off. 30 days later she reached out. Had mad affair for 6 months until I moved. I broke her heart.

2012 - HB8, age 20. We dated 6 months. She broke my heart. I got oneitis. I reached out 3 months later and (though she was still angry and bitter) got her back. She apologized for hurting me and I had the upper hand. Dated two more years.

2014 - HB8, age 21. We dated 6 months. She wanted to get married. I said no. She said I broke her heart. It was LDR. 6 months later when I got to GA she reached out. We dated 6 more months.

2017 - HB9, age 21. We dated 9 months. She initiated a divorce but her life went into turmoil and we ended up in a historic power struggle. I walked away. After 7 weeks she reached out. I saw her again last week. (To Be Continued...)

Niel that's a impressive count of reconciliations.. but the most obvious theme for pretty much all of us is, that even though she came back, it never lasted..

I find second chances are sometimes needed, for us to finely walk away for good.

 

[bigneil]

Niel that's a impressive count of reconciliations.. but the most obvious theme for pretty much all of us is, that even though she came back, it never lasted..

I find second chances are sometimes needed, for us to finely walk away for good.

What do you mean?

• The first one came back and worshipped me. Then I dumped her for the second one.
• The second lasted two years and loved me, then and I dumped her because she got fat.
• The third one came back and wanted to marry me. We dated 18 months total. I dumped her.
• The fourth one was more of a mutual breakup, and I just ran into her this week (not finished yet).

In every case I ended up being the one to end it. There are a lot more, trust me. This is mainly focusing on young women.

If you want her back, you can get her back. If you focused on self improvement, you'll be the one to end it.

Declaring "it never lasted" isn't scientific enough. For all you know, relationships where she never left didn't last AS long.

 

[Desdinova]

The only one who's really wanted me back is the one who drove me to this site. She's been on and off pursuing me for the last 7 years. We broke up 16 years ago.

Pretty much all the other women haven't contacted me.

 

[soulforge]

The only one who's really wanted me back is the one who drove me to this site. She's been on and off pursuing me for the last 7 years. We broke up 16 years ago.

Pretty much all the other women haven't contacted me.

I am surprised to hear, most of those females never contacted you again..

Has that been a positive thing for you? Do you feel better off, they never tried to get back with you

 

[Dash Riprock]

Studies show that couples who broke up for no good reason and later get back together tend to stay together.

https://qz.com/578395/the-psychology-of-why-rekindled-romances-are-so-intense/

Wow, that's a really interesting article. I had no idea the "success rate" was that high for second-time romances. I think the key is how you broke up; years of dwindling feelings and sex and apathy (low chance) vs maybe one big misunderstanding/fight over something trivial or maybe bad timing (higher chance). From the man's perspective no AFC/beta behavior combined with going NC for as long as it takes will increase chances even further.

 

[Desdinova]

Has that been a positive thing for you? Do you feel better off, they never tried to get back with you

I'm not sure what to think of that. It could mean that they respect me enough to never bother me again, that they know I'm going to be fvcking some other broad, or they never gave a 5hit in the first place.

Wow, that's a really interesting article. I had no idea the "success rate" was that high for second-time romances.

It probably has more to do with High Score Theory. It's likely one of the woman's earliest lovers because a woman who rode the c0ck carousel isn't going to feel a lot of nostalgia and joy for the 18th c0ck that's been inside her vagina.

 

[wifehunter]

When there's only one blue jelly bean.

All the kids want it.

 

[finality]

Both of my last 2 exes came back. The first one I ran into the gym around day 30 of no contact, went out for coffee after the gym, then we were inseparable for 2 months until l found out she was still talking to her ex so I ended things. She came back after that a few months later and banged her for a couple more months but I was seeing a different girl at the time and found out she was still banging her ex (basically she is s *****) so I ended things. She has me blocked right now but she will eventually be back.

My most recent ex was a lot different.. I had to do a lot of Chasing to get her back... and it was only after I told her that we shouldn't talk to wan other again that she started opening doors for me to see her. hooked up a few times but I had to walk away because I loved her too much.

 

[resilient]

I'm not sure what to think of that. It could mean that they respect me enough to never bother me again, that they know I'm going to be fvcking some other broad, or they never gave a 5hit in the first place.

Often the case in low-interest level chicks...

It probably has more to do with High Score Theory. It's likely one of the woman's earliest lovers because a woman who rode the c0ck carousel isn't going to feel a lot of nostalgia and joy for the 18th c0ck that's been inside her vagina.

Yep... when you think you're high up on the list or that she hasn't had as many lovers it most likely isn't the case. It's hard to have rocked her emotions that hard when she's riding the carousel for a while. What was that one line in Fight Club? "You're not a unique snowflake". Lol...

 

[soulforge]

I'm not sure what to think of that. It could mean that they respect me enough to never bother me again, that they know I'm going to be fvcking some other broad, or they never gave a 5hit in the first place.



It probably has more to do with High Score Theory. It's likely one of the woman's earliest lovers because a woman who rode the c0ck carousel isn't going to feel a lot of nostalgia and joy for the 18th c0ck that's been inside her vagina.

have you gone past giving a chit about the chicks that never came back Desinova?

I'm not sure if mine ever tried to come back.. I changed my mobile number, blocked her on everything!

 

[Desdinova]

have you gone past giving a chit about the chicks that never came back Desinova?

I haven't really thought about this until I saw this thread. That's why I don't have a definitive answer on why they haven't tried to make contact. The only one who keeps trying has been repeatedly unsuccessful.