When is the best tim to set a date up for the week end

[Prodoge]

When would be the best day to set a date up say for saturday to not leave it too late before the girl makes other plans or too early to not appear needy?

I would say monday or tuesday early evening

Also Is it a good idea to have a like a shopping date, like telling a girl you could do with some fashion advice and want her to come with you ?
I thought it would give some things to talk about and provide opportunities for easy kino

 

[Urbanyst]

Plan dates about one day to a week before the date. I never plan dates the day of or more than a week in advance.

Only do a shopping date if you really want to go shopping and you really want her opinion.

How I plan dates is I invite girls to do things I really want to do, but would be more fun with a girl than alone or with guys. If you plan dates doing things you don't enjoy just because you think the girl will you are working against yourself.

 

[marmel75]

I prefer early evening like 7 or 8...that way if the dates going well and she wants to fvck it removes the "it's getting late" excuse from her bag of excuses...

 

[Fruitbat]

umm.....I am much older but asking for her saturday shows you how high you rank for her. I don't actually think I've had a no for sat in about 3 months of OLD. Dates are always dinner and drinks first time. You can't get to know anyone without a drink and I always get them to have a couple. They are just a bit weird if they don't have a drink on a date IMO.

2nd date on is when action date begins for me. I can't meet some girl and go play mini golf and shyt without actually having some rapport. You don't play golf with people you just met!

 

[bigneil]

Try this: "Next Saturday (or any day, but my first date with my best girl was on a Saturday) I will be staying at (X hotel) and will be dining at (Y restaurant). If you'd like, you can meet me at 7:00pm at the bar."

That is, your plans are set in stone and she can join you if she wants.

 

[Young OG]

I usually text them on Tue night and try to set up a date for Fri or Sat night. Anything else is to early or late. If you set it up to far in advance it raises the possibility she will flake because interest level could drop.

 

[devilkingx2]

last second so that it seems like your actual plans fell through so you have time for her instead.

 

[bigneil]

If you take photos, the Golden Hour is the hour before sunset (different daily). Girls often love scheduling dates this way!

 

[zekko]

If you take photos, the Golden Hour is the hour before sunset (different daily). Girls often love scheduling dates this way!

Hmm, interesting tip. I've never been interested in photography, so I've never heard this before.
I've never heard of a girl scheduling a date to take advantage of that, but in these days of social media, it wouldn't surprise me.

 

[Billtx49]

I agree with Tues. night. About 6-8pm for the set up. Mon. too early and Wed. getting iffy. i.e., pre-existing offer on her book…

 

[Trump]

When would be the best day to set a date up say for saturday to not leave it too late before the girl makes other plans

Even if you don't leave it too late the girl will still make other plans.

or too early to not appear needy?

I would say monday or tuesday early evening

She could think Monday or Tuesday is too early and you appear very very needy.

Also Is it a good idea to have a like a shopping date, like telling a girl you could do with some fashion advice and want her to come with you ?

You want to take a girl you have sexual feelings for shopping where there are 6'2 guys all around you who can touch her, hit on her, ask for her number, leave with her and have sex with her? Not a good idea.

I thought it would give some things to talk about and provide opportunities for easy kino

You can talk about things and provide opportunities for easy kino or at your place.

Come on guys, when you date a girl, invite her to your place where you can isolate and have sex with her.

A lot of the questions here seem like we don't want to have sex with the girl. It's like we are lacking male friends and would rather her be our friend than have sex with her.

 

[devilkingx2]

Also Is it a good idea to have a like a shopping date, like telling a girl you could do with some fashion advice and want her to come with you ?
I thought it would give some things to talk about and provide opportunities for easy kino

that's a terrible idea.

1. shopping is going to be boring for one of you (you don't want her to think the date feels like running errands) unless you're shopping for something you both like (good luck finding something like that)

2. it could easily lead to you buying her $700 worth of jeans, crop tops and sundresses, or having to explain to her that you didn't bring her to the mall to buy her a whole bunch of things she wants (good luck with that awkward conversation which will piss her off lol)

3. unless you're shopping for something sexual like sex toys or lingerie (which she would probably not agree to unless she was already completely 110% DTF), it won't feel like a date, it'll feel like she's hanging out with one of her girl friends

hanging out at the mall with her is a good idea, actually planning to go shopping at kohl's with her for the whole date is a disaster

 

[bigneil]

Hmm, interesting tip. I've never been interested in photography, so I've never heard this before.
I've never heard of a girl scheduling a date to take advantage of that, but in these days of social media, it wouldn't surprise me.

I'm sure it's rare, but my favorite girl happened to say "I love Golden hour!" when I suggested that (she was super smart), and another girl also knew about it.

 

[marmel75]

umm.....I am much older but asking for her saturday shows you how high you rank for her. I don't actually think I've had a no for sat in about 3 months of OLD. Dates are always dinner and drinks first time. You can't get to know anyone without a drink and I always get them to have a couple. They are just a bit weird if they don't have a drink on a date IMO.

2nd date on is when action date begins for me. I can't meet some girl and go play mini golf and shyt without actually having some rapport. You don't play golf with people you just met!

This is absolutely outdated rubbish. With people's work schedules all over the place the "prime" days for a person depend greatly on their work schedule. If someone works at 8am on a Sunday, Saturday is NOT a "Prime" night. Likewise if a person is off Thursday , Wednesday IS a "Prime" night. I had plenty of Saturday dates and never thought anything of it. If you are worried about that, your mind isn't in the right place. This is completely irrelevant.

 

[Fruitbat]

This is absolutely outdated rubbish. With people's work schedules all over the place the "prime" days for a person depend greatly on their work schedule. If someone works at 8am on a Sunday, Saturday is NOT a "Prime" night. Likewise if a person is off Thursday , Wednesday IS a "Prime" night. I had plenty of Saturday dates and never thought anything of it. If you are worried about that, your mind isn't in the right place. This is completely irrelevant.

Yes, they say "I have to work saturday, I can see you tuesday" i check my diary and respond. Weekends are MY dating time, I work hard in the week so I avoid dating then.

Don't get your knickers in a twist.

 

[Prodoge]

Thanks for all of your replies and ideas, you only need to understand that sheduling a date at my place is difficult since I live with my parents (student things).

@devilkingx2 I can see the shopping date beeing a bad idea, whats with hanging around in the pedestrian zone where there are all kinds of cafes, shops, bars ?

 

[marmel75]

Thanks for all of your replies and ideas, you only need to understand that sheduling a date at my place is difficult since I live with my parents (student things).

@devilkingx2 I can see the shopping date beeing a bad idea, whats with hanging around in the pedestrian zone where there are all kinds of cafes, shops, bars ?

Take her out and then find somewhere or go to a motel. I've banged plenty of chicks multiple times at motels.

 

[RangerMIke]

I don't plan dates.

I make plans for myself then invite women along. The one's I invite depends on how much fun I think I will have with them based on the event. I have several things I am going to over the next month, concerts, fund-raisers, parties... If I know a chick that might like and be fun at any of those I invite them... if I can't find a date, no problem it's an opportunity to meet others.

It's only good manners to give a chick at lease 4 days notice before asking her out. But I've asked out women to things the day before, only because that is when the opportunity presented itself. This just happened to me this past week. I was at a political event for someone running for mayor of our city. Met a chick there I thought was cute and asked her out for tacos and margaritas after. She said okay, and the rest is history. If she had said no... not a problem... I would have gone anyway... and hit on the bartender.

 

[Billtx49]

It's only good manners to give a chick at lease 4 days notice before asking her out.

I agree. Ask on Tues. for a Sat. night weekender, confirm on Thurs. works for both you and her. If she flakes on Thurs. you will have time to make other plans.
If she flakes after that, forget her for having a low IL.