3 months with the GF and already thinking whats the point?!

[bobafatt]

The start of the relationship was great but we definetly became exclusive too early! I coul'nt of asked for a better start to be honest, very affectionate and loving, goregeous looking dresses well with a good job and not interested in going out partying all the time. I honestly could see myself with this girl for a long time.

Fast forward to now..i feel like i am constantly walking on egg shells, very emotional, picking fights with me for the most stupid of reasons and when i stand up for myself she throws the break up question at me. Im starting to loose my patience with it all now had a great night with her last night get home and she turned on me, i asked her to leave couldnt be bothered with her at the time wa tired of arguing, broke up with me and as she walked out the door told me that there "was somone else" something i find hard to believe as we are literally with eachother every day...It's like she is saying this to play a game and get a reaction out of me..very smart though because when i question her on this she will completely turn it around and accuse me of it.

Another thing that happened the other night - she went out with mates and came back home to me around mid night, She openly told me that a dude had asked her if she had a boyfriend, she said yes, he continued to try but got no where with it...then 5 minutes later a message pops up on her phone and it this guy.

Me writing this now is actually making me see things from a different angle. I always thought that this girl would never go behind my back or lie and be dishonest about her movements but with all of her actions recently she is just like the rest of them.

I guess what im trying to voice here is dont get into a relationship too early, i didnt see the cracks and now ive ended up getting into a failed relationship with someone that i actually really like, feelings aside i need to cut her off completely now, if things like this are happening after a couple of months then it isnt as perfect as i once thought

 

[soulforge]

Dude this woman sounds like major trouble.. Even though you both may have spent lots of time together, trust me woman can still easily keep another man in the loop..

Her chitty behaviour towards you, only 3 months in, is a huge red flag..

She is mentioning other dudes, she is TESTING you.. to see of you cave in to her frame.. this is DREAD tactics she is applying..

Her bichy behaviour could also suggest there is another dog in the yard..

Either way, what really matter is this.. Do you really want to continue being treated like this?

Chances are things will only get worse.. Personally if a chick told me there are other dudes she is interested in..

I would immediately drop her like a sack of spanners!

 

[Urbanyst]

Disengage emotionally.

Women feed off controlling your emotions. They don't know what to do when you stop giving a sh*t other than to play nice.

This one crazy chick I dated very briefly this summer started out very nice and then suddenly exploded on me with anger, insults, negativity and disrespect. So I told her to f*ck off. After that she started playing nice and kissing my a*s. I told her she is full of sh*t and to f*ck off again. Then she got nasty and went back to being a b*tch lol.

Save yourself to trouble and disengage NOW.

 

[DreamAgain]

Abort mission man...now the only question is do you call out her behavior or not.

I would send her this message, and maybe your exchange will go something like this:

You: "You know what, I think we should just be friends, wish you all the best."

Her: "Wait what are you talking about?" (she'll likely add some more bs, some plausible deniability statements, probably blame you for things...)

You: "I just realized you're not really the girl I thought you were, and I'm looking for other qualities. Best of luck, I have to go now."

Her: Some more bs probably, although she may not respond at all.

You: Silence from here on out.

This may drive her hamster crazy...after some no contact she may come pleading back. Nevertheless once you're out of this toxic situation, maybe one day later on you can have her as a plate, although I would cut contact completely.

 

[sazc]

no, it's not 'chances are things will only get worse' it's a definite things will get worse and a definite that they will never get better.

she's passive aggressive and uses emotional blackmail. move on.

There is a period in every relationship that is full of projection from both people. This is the time when we absolutely believe that the other person is going to solve all of our issues, fulfill all of our needs and validate us as human beings. This is called the honeymoon period and can last a year. Yours lasted about 2 months and then things went south. Be glad it didnt take a year for her true nature to come thru. Just remember this ext time you deice to LTR someone up. You need to understand that things could go south any day. Dont put too much stock or faith in the relationship and keep one foot out the door for a while. My rule is that you know the real person after a year has gone by. Then you can exhale, a bit

 

[sazc]

You: "You know what, I think we should just be friends, wish you all the best."

Personally, I think this is ALL he needs to say unless you have some of her stuff. If you have some of her stuff, pack it up and leave it in her backyard, or on her porch, or with a friend of hers and then text her the above statement and tell her where her crap is located. then block her number, delete all off social media, etc.

Bottom line is that you are a human being ad dont deserve to be treated like this.

 

[bobafatt]

Dude this woman sounds like major trouble.. Even though you both may have spent lots of time together, trust me woman can still easily keep another man in the loop..

Her chitty behaviour towards you, only 3 months in, is a huge red flag..

She is mentioning other dudes, she is TESTING you.. to see of you cave in to her frame.. this is DREAD tactics she is applying..

Her bichy behaviour could also suggest there is another dog in the yard..

Either way, what really matter is this.. Do you really want to continue being treated like this?

Chances are things will only get worse.. Personally if a chick told me there are other dudes she is interested in..

I would immediately drop her like a sack of spanners!

100% RED FLAGS - They're everywhere! Tests i can handle but not every single day man, im tired of it!

I cant see things getting better she has alot of issues and they always seem to come out when shes had a drink!

I dont deserve to be treated like this and i wont put up with it anymore, We all have our faults but i have tried so damn hard by not reacting or giving in to her games.

Checked my phone when i wasnt in the room, opened snapchats from girls, and casually looking over my shoulder when i was texting - To me this just shows her own guilt.

I have deleted her number, i will not speak to her until she phones me to apologise and talk, last night was one too many times and i just snapped, she had to leave. Haven't heard from her since so i can only think of what she is doing?!

She still has things left at mine and we are still ''official'' on facebook (pointless thing to do) Do i honestly just delete all of it now without any reasoning to her, send a message like whats been said above and just walk on and not look back?

 

[El Payaso]

Game over.

 

[sazc]

100% RED FLAGS - They're everywhere! Tests i can handle but not every single day man, im tired of it!

I cant see things getting better she has alot of issues and they always seem to come out when shes had a drink!

I dont deserve to be treated like this and i wont put up with it anymore, We all have our faults but i have tried so damn hard by not reacting or giving in to her games.

Checked my phone when i wasnt in the room, opened snapchats from girls, and casually looking over my shoulder when i was texting - To me this just shows her own guilt.

I have deleted her number, i will not speak to her until she phones me to apologise and talk, last night was one too many times and i just snapped, she had to leave. Haven't heard from her since so i can only think of what she is doing?!

She still has things left at mine and we are still ''official'' on facebook (pointless thing to do) Do i honestly just delete all of it now without any reasoning to her, send a message like whats been said above and just walk on and not look back?

If it occurs, it's fine to let her apologize, but you NEED to move on from this chick.

It's always hard to decide to end a relationship but she is not going to change. People show you who they are, believe it. This is who she is and she thinks it's a perfectly rational way to exist in the world. You deserve better.

I feel like you should cut all ties, change the status online and let her know where she can get her stuff.

For real, people who love and care about you wont be a$$holes to you. She has no problem being a constant a$$hole....

 

[Dash Riprock]

The start of the relationship was great but we definetly became exclusive too early! I coul'nt of asked for a better start to be honest, very affectionate and loving, goregeous looking dresses well with a good job and not interested in going out partying all the time. I honestly could see myself with this girl for a long time.

Fast forward to now..i feel like i am constantly walking on egg shells, very emotional, picking fights with me for the most stupid of reasons and when i stand up for myself she throws the break up question at me. Im starting to loose my patience with it all now had a great night with her last night get home and she turned on me, i asked her to leave couldnt be bothered with her at the time wa tired of arguing, broke up with me and as she walked out the door told me that there "was somone else" something i find hard to believe as we are literally with eachother every day...It's like she is saying this to play a game and get a reaction out of me..very smart though because when i question her on this she will completely turn it around and accuse me of it.

Another thing that happened the other night - she went out with mates and came back home to me around mid night, She openly told me that a dude had asked her if she had a boyfriend, she said yes, he continued to try but got no where with it...then 5 minutes later a message pops up on her phone and it this guy.

Me writing this now is actually making me see things from a different angle. I always thought that this girl would never go behind my back or lie and be dishonest about her movements but with all of her actions recently she is just like the rest of them.

I guess what im trying to voice here is dont get into a relationship too early, i didnt see the cracks and now ive ended up getting into a failed relationship with someone that i actually really like, feelings aside i need to cut her off completely now, if things like this are happening after a couple of months then it isnt as perfect as i once thought

If you want to save this, you can, but you need to play it right. As a matter of fact, given your description, if you play it right, I'm 98% sure she'll come back and you'll have total frame and hand.

Here's what I would do:

1- You said she broke up with you. Let her walk and don't chase--this is imperative.
2- Go NC for at least 30 days. That means NOTHING! No check-ins, social media messages or likes--you no longer exist. Do not take the bait if she calls crying and starts saying all kinds of emotional things. DON'T DO IT.
3- Start seeing other people ASAP. For fun, sex, whatever.
4- Focus on YOU. What have you been putting off or stop doing because of the time spent with her? Start now.
5- Make a list of all the s*it she pulled and read it a few times per day.
6- Google Corey Wayne and watch his YouTube videos. Most of his advice is spot-on.
7- Watch a James Bond movie with Daniel Craig; Skyfall or Casino Royale. Yes, it's make believe, bit if you need to check your behavior think back to the movie. The plots are fake but the JB attitude is real.
8- If after 30 days you want to make amends, return a text or phone call that she initiated but be brief. Don't get all emotional like I miss you too, etc. IF you want to hang out, invite her to do something you already have planned like hiking, or an event you're going to check out. Then, keep it very cool and casual. DON'T RUSH or tell in detail what you've been up to. Be evasive in answers and throw her some crap in a ****y and funny manner, like you don't give a s*it what she thinks. If she gets pissed and walks again, great, she's done. NEXT batter up!

Execute this and you'll have her eating out of your hand.

Good luck.

Dash

 

[wifehunter]

Game over.

You beat me to it! Lolz!

 

[bobafatt]

If you want to save this, you can, but you need to play it right. As a matter of fact, given your description, if you play it right, I'm 98% sure she'll come back and you'll have total frame and hand.

Here's what I would do:

1- You said she broke up with you. Let her walk and don't chase--this is imperative.
2- Go NC for at least 30 days. That means NOTHING! No check-ins, social media messages or likes--you no longer exist. Do not take the bait if she calls crying and starts saying all kinds of emotional things. DON'T DO IT.
3- Start seeing other people ASAP. For fun, sex, whatever.
4- Focus on YOU. What have you been putting off or stop doing because of the time spent with her? Start now.
5- Make a list of all the s*it she pulled and read it a few times per day.
6- Google Corey Wayne and watch his YouTube videos. Most of his advice is spot-on.
7- Watch a James Bond movie with Daniel Craig; Skyfall or Casino Royale. Yes, it's make believe, bit if you need to check your behavior think back to the movie. The plots are fake but the JB attitude is real.
8- If after 30 days you want to make amends, return a text or phone call that she initiated but be brief. Don't get all emotional like I miss you too, etc. IF you want to hang out, invite her to do something you already have planned like hiking, or an event you're going to check out. Then, keep it very cool and casual. DON'T RUSH or tell in detail what you've been up to. Be evasive in answers and throw her some crap in a ****y and funny manner, like you don't give a s*it what she thinks. If she gets pissed and walks again, great, she's done. NEXT batter up!

Execute this and you'll have her eating out of your hand.

Good luck.

Dash

Thanks for this, There are alot of things on that list that i really need to start doing! I have completely lost my centre and who i really am for this girl - this is my fault i know. I have no real intrest in speaking to her right now, nothing will be gained from it and i can see things getting worst. I have deleted her number off my phone and all the old text messages etc.

I have always been at the end of the phone when she rings me, lifts to work in the morning and always there to hold her at night when she wakes up from one of her nightmares...

All that has stopped now, the only way i can see this relationship working is by her realising how she is being, id like to add in the past when drama happens she does recognise she is in the wrong and apologises (not trying to stand up for her here) this is something non of my ex's did!

I need fitness back in my life, healthy eating (pigged out wayy too much) socialising and a new plate...There's a hot girl that works behind reception at the place i work - few flirty exchanges and i get the vibe that she is game...Im in that frame of mind now where im like you know what ''fvck it'' how you fixed for this week babe, fancy a drink after work?!

Funny you should say about corey wayne i have read his book twice and have wacthed countless videos of his!

 

[bigneil]

It's only 3 months so you never should have got exclusive. I assume YOU asked HER to be exclusive, and of course she went along with it, until she wanted her freedom and it went straight to hell.

You're not in a long term (committed) relationship with her yet. Still, based on her bad behavior this early it's probably over. It's one thing to flake and be sweet about it, but this sounds ugly.

I would stop all communication with this girl, date other women, and from now on SHE must do 100% of the initiating and you only respond. Unless she hints at getting together, stop asking her out.

 

[soulforge]

For me the deal breaker would be a chick, claiming she is interested in other guys..

Immediate dump

 

[Trump]

I guess what im trying to voice here is dont get into a relationship too early, i didnt see the cracks and now ive ended up getting into a failed relationship with someone that i actually really like, feelings aside i need to cut her off completely now, if things like this are happening after a couple of months then it isnt as perfect as i once thought

What does getting in a relationship too early having to do with anything? If you waited to get into a relationship, she would have done the same thing, you just would have seen it later. Or she have met someone taller and better looking.

I find men often equate on thing to another when things don't go their way, when in reality they have NOTHING to do with each other. Instead of "waiting" to get into a relationship, why don't you be great for society, then she'll be begging you to have a relationship.

 

[wifehunter]

For me the deal breaker would be a chick, claiming she is interested in other guys..

Immediate dump

Yep, jealousy games are never a good thing. She's trying to emotionally control you... see: Adolf Hitler

 

[Thorninmyside]

Toxic *****. Dump her stuff with a mutual friend and never contact again.

 

[bobafatt]

Had like 10 missed calls and a text off her today. She was concerned that i hadnt contacted her etc etc. She even called my mom to find out where i was! I have just answered her call again told her i was fine and hope you are too, she tried to pick another fight but i just brushed it off and told her to leave it, reminded her of all the stuff she had said._.She blamed it on drink and that she didnt mean it! Tried to say i said hurtful things but couldnt remember...Haha! She told me to pack up her things, told her already done and will leave in back garden. She asked if that was it then, isaid yes and goodbye _ end of convo

 

[Glassguy]

I would start test driving other plates. If you dont have them, get them.

 

[Glassguy]

Had like 10 missed calls and a text off her today. She was concerned that i hadnt contacted her etc etc. She even called my mom to find out where i was! I have just answered her call again told her i was fine and hope you are too, she tried to pick another fight but i just brushed it off and told her to leave it, reminded her of all the stuff she had said._.She blamed it on drink and that she didnt mean it! Tried to say i said hurtful things but couldnt remember...Haha! She told me to pack up her things, told her already done and will leave in back garden. She asked if that was it then, isaid yes and goodbye _ end of convo

Good for you. Its best to sometimes just walk away.

3 months and you're dealing with this sh!t.....time to walk.

Expect her to go bat sh!t crazy when she realizes that you are not going to come chasing her back down. Dont cave in.

Too many other chicks out there that dont have the crazy tag on their foreheads.