No text back

[Gan]

There’s this girl that displayed high signs of interest in me. We both volunteered at a clinic on campus before she left two weeks ago without letting me know. I never got her number and I never asked her out. As a final shot I sent her an email to her school email a few days later with my number in it wishing her well on her new job and asking if she would like to stay in touch. She has no reason to check her school email anymore after leaving the clinic, so I knew it was a hit or miss.
Well, she sent me an eager text last night at 8pm saying it was her and that she was sorry for getting back to me so late. I replied back two hours later (I was busy) saying it was all good and asked her about her new job. 28 hours have gone by, and she hasn’t replied?? How should I play this out?

 

[bigneil]

• Eager text? Prefer an eager beaver.
• 28 hours? You are counting the hours?
• How should you play this out? You wait until she replies and try to get other girls. If a week goes by, shoot her another message and ask her out. You plan and send invitations for events where sex might happen.
• Why are you acting like this is the only girl on the planet? Is this the only girl who ever displayed signs of high interest in you?
• You should be at the gym instead of writing to us.

 

[Billtx49]

Be busy living your own life, she is with hers. She texted you back as a courtesy only. Means she has good social manners, but that doesn't get you anywhere with her…
Think of it as a courtesy call only unless proven otherwise by her actions.

 

[Bayne05]

Wait until she responds, and when she does, you set up a date. If she doesn't, move on, approach more girls. You seem too fixated on this girl. Keep yourself busy and you won't have time to be counting hours.

 

[Gan]

• How should you play this out? You wait until she replies and try to get other girls. If a week goes by, shoot her another message and ask her out. You plan and send invitations for events where sex might happen.

• Why are you acting like this is the only girl on the planet? Is this the only girl who ever displayed signs of high interest in you?

Yes, actually. Haven't met a girl who displayed high interest like her. Known her for months and she started showing these signs a month ago. Still lurking and learning from the forums. The old me would have scared her off long ago. If I have to pull away from this, then so be it.

Think of it as a courtesy call only unless proven otherwise by her actions.

The more I think about it, the more this makes sense. I'll keep doing my own thing.

Wait until she responds, and when she does, you set up a date. If she doesn't, move on, approach more girls.

Seems like the only logical thing to do. Was going to text her again later today but that's not gonna happen, it'll make me look weak.

 

[bigneil]

Yes, actually. Haven't met a girl who displayed high interest like her. Still lurking and learning from the forums. The old me would have scared her off long ago. If I have to pull away from this, then so be it.

At least you are seeing improvement.

Most of us weren't that good looking in our teenage years. It wasn't until I was graduated from high school that a beautiful girl told me I was good looking. It still took me 5 years, until after I graduated college that a beautiful girl was my girlfriend. It lasted about 5 months (seemed so much longer in hindsight), and I lost her when I moved away for my first job. She was too hot to handle after that. Men in their early 20's are no match for women in their early 20's, they just get some charity sex because they hang out together. She came back to me four years later and was a high maintenance druggie and then I dumped her for good.

Around age 28-32 I was good looking and smooth, but couldn't make any money. Around age 41-45 I was decent looking and very smooth and finally had money, but I was overweight. Finally at 46 I started working out and I dated one of the hottest girls I ever saw, and she put me through an intense 9 month training program called "Keeping 20 year old princesses happy for the long term". Thanks to her, I'm literally now at 47 feeling like I can finally command and control beautiful women.

I was 40 and still had girls breaking my heart. You never stop learning or trying to improve. As men, we get to keep improving until we are 50 or older.

 

[Urbanyst]

The cure for desperation and insecurity is spinning plates.

A woman's early-on high interest is mostly based on her imagination. She takes what she knows about your looks and personality and fills in the rest with her hamster brain. As she gets to know you more, she learns things that might not match up with the image she created in her mind. That's why a woman's interest level can drop so abruptly.

Its also why men should not put all their eggs in one basket. You never know what nutty image a woman has of you in her mind that might not be reality. Spinning plates is the best insurance policy. Women want VALUE. Even after decades of marriage a woman can lose interest because her idea of what counts as VALUE might change. Especially if society's values change (as they have).

In all.. women cannot and should not be trusted. They should just be enjoyed in the moment and not taken too seriously I've learned. Of course, this is easier said than done...

 

[bigneil]

You never know what nutty image a woman has of you in her mind that might not be reality.
In all.. women cannot and should not be trusted. They should just be enjoyed in the moment and not taken too seriously I've learned. Of course, this is easier said than done...

Well said. This is why we should especially beware people who try to undo previous successful seductions by saying "She was just using you!" or "She was looking for someone better the whole time!". Of course. That's Dating 101 - just change the word use to it's synonym utilize and you realize she utilized you for resources (one of which might be your body or your status) and you utilized her for sex. Younger women require more resources but are proportionally more attractive so it's a better value.

Enjoy women in the moment, and never get overly invested to the point where you can't walk away on a moment's notice. The harder it is to walk away, the stronger you become. It's like lifting much heavier weights. Then the next girl senses you are more powerful and you start out with a higher initial rating, making it harder to lose her.

If you seek self improvement you will be the better man she pretends to leave you for (and an even better man when she returns). You will also have social proof for the next girl.

Remember: any time one woman does something with you, there are 1000 other women who will do the same thing. So each advancement you make in life is with ALL women.

 

[jimjam]

Yes, actually. Haven't met a girl who displayed high interest like her. Known her for months and she started showing these signs a month ago. Still lurking and learning from the forums. The old me would have scared her off long ago. If I have to pull away from this, then so be it.


The more I think about it, the more this makes sense. I'll keep doing my own thing.


Seems like the only logical thing to do. Was going to text her again later today but that's not gonna happen, it'll make me look weak.

No text back?

Who cares?

Do your own thing and find someone else. If that one doesn't text back----NEXT!

Who cares?