Is This Chick Relationship Worthy?

[darksprezzatura]

Denial is the most predictable human behaviour.

Warning: If you don't accept what I'm going to say, you will become a shell of the man you are now.

Situation:
Oneitis for a flaky promiscuous woman.

Solution:
1) Eject completely - physically and emotionally
2) Focus on YOUR life.

Tip: Whenever her thought creeps up, imagine her taking a dump, force yourself to get disgusted and immediately take action towards self improvement.

Come on bro, you can do it.

 

[dude99]

As you are aware, I dumped this chick 4 days ago.. Simply because she was pushing for a RS, and in order to get that, she cut all sexual conversations out with me, and started controlling the sex!

She sent me a text last night...

HER - If you change your mind, then get in touch, we can go back to how things used to be

I am tempted to bang her again, as i have zero plates at the moment, but I have some serious doubts.

She will probably go hot/cold on me again, if I do not give her an RS or something close to an RS

I have done a list of positives and negatives, and I fear any RS with her would be a fuking nightmare..

Also if I caught feelings for this girl, then things could get messy!


I have done a list of negatives and positives, what do you think?


Negatives

01. Met her on pof

02. Came straight to my house, no public meet

03. Sex within half an hour

04. She seemed ok to keep things sexual

05. She agreed to take part in a 3sum

06. She mentioned on more than several occasions to bring one of my friends over to fuk her too

07. She started using sex as a tool or a weapon, when I would not give her more in the form of an RS

08. All sex talk completely stopped, she banned it

09. She sent a meme, which was more like a threat, basically letting me know, If I don't treat her like a GF then she is gone (threat)

10. She flaked 3 times, most probably because she is unsure about her feelings

11. She has a friend filling her head about me, that is why she is getting cold

12. She ended it with me some weeks ago, because she decided she did not want to have sex with anyone other than me.. again she could have spoke to me about this matter, rather than ending it.. again her friend gave her the advise to end it.


Positives

01. Nice person

02. High interest level

03. Submissive


All this behaviour is probably due to her wanting more than sex, but I feel she is too risky for anything more than just sex!

Way too much heavy on the negatives. This chick is a FB or gone. Nothing else.

 

[guru1000]

• Hundreds of pages about your ex gf (10 years your senior);
  
• 7-8 pages about this plate in another thread;
• and now this thread?

There are some deeper issues here that require your attention.

 

[soulforge]

Denial is the most predictable human behaviour.

Warning: If you don't accept what I'm going to say, you will become a shell of the man you are now.

Situation:
Oneitis for a flaky promiscuous woman.

Solution:
1) Eject completely - physically and emotionally
2) Focus on YOUR life.

Tip: Whenever her thought creeps up, imagine her taking a dump, force yourself to get disgusted and immediately take action towards self improvement.

Come on bro, you can do it.

Ok guys, the verdict is in... when a girl is giving you her puzzy on a plate, sometimes it's very difficult to say no lol..

But i,m going to totally pass on her offer..

Firstly an RS is out of the question.. Second even if I do bang her again, the same issues will arise again, and she will become hot/cold and flakey!

Plus the more time I spend with her, the more chance I have to catch feelings for her...


So she is staying dumped.. will have to source out some new trouble free puzzy instead lol

 

[SuckItUp]

As you are aware, I dumped this chick 4 days ago.. Simply because she was pushing for a RS, and in order to get that, she cut all sexual conversations out with me, and started controlling the sex!

She sent me a text last night...

HER - If you change your mind, then get in touch, we can go back to how things used to be

I am tempted to bang her again, as i have zero plates at the moment, but I have some serious doubts.

She will probably go hot/cold on me again, if I do not give her an RS or something close to an RS

I have done a list of positives and negatives, and I fear any RS with her would be a fuking nightmare..

Also if I caught feelings for this girl, then things could get messy!


I have done a list of negatives and positives, what do you think?


Negatives

01. Met her on pof

02. Came straight to my house, no public meet

03. Sex within half an hour

04. She seemed ok to keep things sexual

05. She agreed to take part in a 3sum

06. She mentioned on more than several occasions to bring one of my friends over to fuk her too

07. She started using sex as a tool or a weapon, when I would not give her more in the form of an RS

08. All sex talk completely stopped, she banned it

09. She sent a meme, which was more like a threat, basically letting me know, If I don't treat her like a GF then she is gone (threat)

10. She flaked 3 times, most probably because she is unsure about her feelings

11. She has a friend filling her head about me, that is why she is getting cold

12. She ended it with me some weeks ago, because she decided she did not want to have sex with anyone other than me.. again she could have spoke to me about this matter, rather than ending it.. again her friend gave her the advise to end it.


Positives

01. Nice person

02. High interest level

03. Submissive


All this behaviour is probably due to her wanting more than sex, but I feel she is too risky for anything more than just sex!

Way way way too many red flags here.

Meeting a girl from POF should already put you on alert to look for other red flags.

That she came to your house sight unseen and didn't meet in public should be another red flag suggesting a lack personal boundaries.

Sex within 30 minutes screams that there's a strong chance she's a cluster B. Unless you are an alpha natural with ridiculous game 30 minutes suggests that she's using sex for aporoval which should having running for the hills. It's similar to a guy buying a huge gift for a woman on a first date. Both are attempts to buy approval.

The threesome aspect again points out a lack of boundary issue as well as another sex for approval I.e. using sex as currency.

Sex with buddies - see sex in 30 min

This girl might be great for a ONS but she uses sex as currency which should send any man running.

She's trying to keep you enmeshed with her latest text and it's an extremely manipulative Hoover job.

Do you really think that things will stay as they were for long? I sure as hell know they won't. She'll keep it that way until you are back into the fold and then she'll escalate with more devious and devisive traps.

If that doesn't scare you away be my guest. Personally I'd rather mainline heroin or play Russian Roulette than play chicken with a potential cluster b woman

 

[stovepipe]

Another thread about this sloot? Dude, come on man! Enough is enough already! You've been on this site long enough to know all the answers to your own questions.

You are oozing weakness and displaying you caught feelings for her. Yes, the sex is amazing and you have no other plates. Either play her, or stay NC, but stop posting new threads about this sloot already.

Way way way too many red flags here.

Meeting a girl from POF should already put you on alert to look for other red flags.

That she came to your house sight unseen and didn't meet in public should be another red flag suggesting a lack personal boundaries.

Sex within 30 minutes screams that there's a strong chance she's a cluster B. Unless you are an alpha natural with ridiculous game 30 minutes suggests that she's using sex for aporoval which should having running for the hills. It's similar to a guy buying a huge gift for a woman on a first date. Both are attempts to buy approval.

The threesome aspect again points out a lack of boundary issue as well as another sex for approval I.e. using sex as currency.

Sex with buddies - see sex in 30 min

This girl might be great for a ONS but she uses sex as currency which should send any man running.

She's trying to keep you enmeshed with her latest text and it's an extremely manipulative Hoover job.

Do you really think that things will stay as they were for long? I sure as hell know they won't. She'll keep it that way until you are back into the fold and then she'll escalate with more devious and devisive traps.

If that doesn't scare you away be my guest. Personally I'd rather mainline heroin or play Russian Roulette than play chicken with a potential cluster b woman

This fkn guy knows what he's talking about....../thread

 

[soulforge]

Way way way too many red flags here.

Meeting a girl from POF should already put you on alert to look for other red flags.

That she came to your house sight unseen and didn't meet in public should be another red flag suggesting a lack personal boundaries.

Sex within 30 minutes screams that there's a strong chance she's a cluster B. Unless you are an alpha natural with ridiculous game 30 minutes suggests that she's using sex for aporoval which should having running for the hills. It's similar to a guy buying a huge gift for a woman on a first date. Both are attempts to buy approval.

The threesome aspect again points out a lack of boundary issue as well as another sex for approval I.e. using sex as currency.

Sex with buddies - see sex in 30 min

This girl might be great for a ONS but she uses sex as currency which should send any man running.

She's trying to keep you enmeshed with her latest text and it's an extremely manipulative Hoover job.

Do you really think that things will stay as they were for long? I sure as hell know they won't. She'll keep it that way until you are back into the fold and then she'll escalate with more devious and devisive traps.

If that doesn't scare you away be my guest. Personally I'd rather mainline heroin or play Russian Roulette than play chicken with a potential cluster b woman

Your right man, when a chick gives you all the kinkiest sex you want immediately.. it's a major warning sign..

Way way way too many red flags here.

Meeting a girl from POF should already put you on alert to look for other red flags.

That she came to your house sight unseen and didn't meet in public should be another red flag suggesting a lack personal boundaries.

Sex within 30 minutes screams that there's a strong chance she's a cluster B. Unless you are an alpha natural with ridiculous game 30 minutes suggests that she's using sex for aporoval which should having running for the hills. It's similar to a guy buying a huge gift for a woman on a first date. Both are attempts to buy approval.

The threesome aspect again points out a lack of boundary issue as well as another sex for approval I.e. using sex as currency.

Sex with buddies - see sex in 30 min

This girl might be great for a ONS but she uses sex as currency which should send any man running.

She's trying to keep you enmeshed with her latest text and it's an extremely manipulative Hoover job.

Do you really think that things will stay as they were for long? I sure as hell know they won't. She'll keep it that way until you are back into the fold and then she'll escalate with more devious and devisive traps.

If that doesn't scare you away be my guest. Personally I'd rather mainline heroin or play Russian Roulette than play chicken with a potential cluster b woman

Good post man, well i ignored her offer, and will block the chit out of her... job done!

 

[Glassguy]

Yes and no.

Carlos Xuma laid the blueprint on how to get an ex back circa 2012:

0) First, ask yourself if you even want her back. It's approximately 10 times easier to just start over with a new girl.
1) You have to completely end this chapter of relationship - for at least 30 days, maybe 90 days. You must go no contact. Don't ignore her messages but reply and tell her you need space. During this time two things happen, the bad feelings fade and nostalgia makes her miss you, so her interest goes up in two ways.
2) You have to know what went wrong. Something went wrong. A lot of times it dawns on you around 3-4 weeks of no contact. You must resolve that with her when you start talking to her again. Get to the root of the problem. People normally react predictably when you know the circumstances.
3) When you see her again, don't talk about the relationship. You are seeing if the chemistry drives you back together like it did originally. Nothing but positive things.
4) You must have IMPROVED yourself in some noticeable way, otherwise why would she come back to what she lost interest in?

Also, know that while it's great to "get her back", you'll never have the younger, sweeter more innocent version of her who you could pretend was perfect. You'll have an older, more bitter, more used up version of her who you know will hurt you if it's convenient to her.

I do agree.

When you step out and take a rational look at the woman and relationship, as well as start hitting up new chicks, you realize they are truly a dime a dozen. It becomes clear that it is easier to start over and find someone better.

For most guys that never happens because they refuse to step away because they become chasers instead of walkers after getting dumped.

 

[bigneil]

I do agree.

When you step out and take a rational look at the woman and relationship, as well as start hitting up new chicks, you realize they are truly a dime a dozen. It becomes clear that it is easier to start over and find someone better.

For most guys that never happens because they refuse to step away because they become chasers instead of walkers after getting dumped.

This is especially true if you've been working out. You never get a second chance to form a first impression, so if you were a 7 when you met your girl and now you're an 8, you can trade up one point (or get one more point respect). Also, if you dump your last girl and come back as an 8 she will then notice.

Men should probably do the dumping more often. It's easy to get them back if you exited before she did.

 

[sazc]

No. You will move on and go NC. You know FULL WELL that this one is a nightmare waiting to occur. Why do you want to torture yourself?

 

[soulforge]

No. You will move on and go NC. You know FULL WELL that this one is a nightmare waiting to occur. Why do you want to torture yourself?

I don't want to torture myself, this is why i dumped her.. and have ignored her offer to restart again..

Bullet.. dodged

 

[stovepipe]

I don't want to torture myself, this is why i dumped her.. and have ignored her offer to restart again..

Bullet.. dodged

Making these threads is adding to your torutre. We're just looking out of you bro.

 

[17 shots]

i have zero plates at the moment

Lmao

 

[soulforge]

Lmao

Is your mum free? Lol

 

[wifehunter]

Is your mum free? Lol

Uhhh...ewww???

 

[resilient]

OP, consider @guru1000, @Glassguy, @darksprezzatura advice above. I would recommend going monk-mode, for now, to work on inner game issues. Jumping from plate to plate won't solve the problems with the plates you attract.

The benefit of monk mode and working on inner game immensely help you retool your focus on you and will improve the quality of the women you attract moving forward.

Seriously look how chill this guy looks:

 

[stovepipe]

^^Funny you mentioned Monk mode. My cousin in Israel actually has been staying at a monk castle after going thru same damaging life chit. He is living with the monks on top of a mountain in Jerusalem. Last I heard he told me it helped him a lot, but he lost faith again and went back. Life is a constant battle, as long as you remind yourself of that, things seem not to affect you as much.

 

[17 shots]

Is your mum free? Lol

lol you wouldn't even be able to close the deal with my mom.This is like your third thread about this girl, either take someone's advice, or stfu about it

 

[Julian]

Just tell her what she wants to hear an get into a RS for the sex0rs. then when things fizzle out you just let it go and become friends

 

[soulforge]

Too late, she went from constant sex.. to zero sex, not even allowed to talk about it anymore.. so i fuked it off lol


Whats the point of a plate, if the sex vibe has been killed off.