Should I get an Arranged Marraige?

[FredrickFrom]

Title. I'm wondering, am I better off getting an arranged marriage before I age out it? Because if I do, I have countless advantages, but being raised here, its as weird to me as probably to you. But in the American dating game, its like the polar opposite situation, being non-white and 5' 5.

I mean I understand your physical shortcoming can be overcome with "confidence," but I would die early of a heart attack if I got married with a girl who was into me due to nothing but that. If this is how most US marriages happen, I understand why the divorce rate so high. Its much easier to control your looks, body, and financial status than your confidence which comes and goes like the tide.

So it kind of feels like a copout, because game itself taught me so much about myself and life that I would never have learned otherwise, but if in the US, girls fetishize tall white men regardless if they are ugly or fat, I might as well cut my losses and a play a game I have an advantage in? I guess I feel especially bad for short white men, because they have no other options. I guess that might be a different situation because I'm pretty average height for my race, but they would be considered short for theirs.

 

[Thorninmyside]

Nothing says surrender like letting your parents pick you a partner.

PS. Age out of what? You can shoot c*um until your dying day.

 

[skinnyguy]

I'd say why not? It's not shameful to do so. You're saying money on dating some random sloots who don't like you and saving yourself from tons of rejections.

 

[FredrickFrom]

Nothing says surrender like letting your parents pick you a partner.

PS. Age out of what? You can shoot c*um until your dying day.

The older you get, the older your arranged marriage choices get. Its not really like your parents pick, hell there's online "dating apps" where you just communicate with each other and see if your income/family background/whatever matches up. Its more like your families have to be compatible rather than your parents picking, especially for a guy. Indian marriage is more like the merger of 2 companies, hence they are more stable than US marriages which are just 2 people who decide they like each other, basically no different than dating.

But, again, its kind of a copout, but a winning copout.

 

[bigneil]

How about a deranged marriage?

Wait, that is redundant.

 

[pancakepalace]

It's strange to want to marry before having a girl! It's like looking at it backwards.

 

[bigneil]

If in the US, girls fetishize tall white men regardless if they are ugly or fat, I might as well cut my losses and a play a game I have an advantage in? I guess I feel especially bad for short white men, because they have no other options.

Bitter much?

Wait, is OP suggesting tall, white men more likely to be ugly and fat than short, non-white men?

Actually, as would be common sense, tall men are more likely to be slim. Also, since taller is more attractive, tall men are less likely to be ugly. So OP is simply throwing a tantrum here about having to date women who look like his mom.

Indian marriage is more like the merger of 2 companies, hence they are more stable than US marriages which ...

But, again, its kind of a copout, but a winning copout.

Winning for whom? Curried kids?

Wait, do you mean horse stable?

 

[Desdinova]

If you were in your 40s, I'd be more likely to suggest going for it.

According to your profile, you're only 28. That's too young to get married. Get your life on a good path first.

 

[FredrickFrom]

Bitter much?

Wait, is OP suggesting tall, white men more likely to be ugly and fat than short, non-white men?

Actually, as would be common sense. Also, since taller is more attractive, tall men are less likely to be ugly. So OP is simply throwing a tantrum here about having to date women who look like his mom.


Winning for whom? Curried kids?

Wait, do you mean horse stable?

Ok so in US dating I would be seen as unattractive no matter what I achieve? Sounds like fun.

??Having a stable marriage is winning, beats out losing half your crap in a divorce, but then again, that's what I, and I assume what most men want, a stable marraige. Though I bet there are a few who actually desire the pickup dream of banging 100's of girls or w/e.

 

[Thorninmyside]

is simply throwing a tantrum here about having to date women who look like his mom.

I just had to quote that for the belly laugh.

I'm still trying to figure out why the OP needs to decide on marriage before there is even someone to marry. It's like coming up with a solution to a problem that doesn't exist yet. Oh I have a solution, I better find a problem to match it up with.

 

[AJ84]

I assume you're from a culture where arranged marriages occur? Hopefully where you and the woman get a chance to at least meet in person and see if there can even be a connection. If this is something that occurs in your culture and no one is being forced I'd say go for it, if what you want is marrige, just remember though stability is not a guarantee and arranged marriages are no exception. Any stable marriage takes work and compromise from both people.

 

[Dingo]

I guess it kind of depends of the families arrange something good...

 

[Fzatf]

Title. I'm wondering, am I better off getting an arranged marriage before I age out it? Because if I do, I have countless advantages, but being raised here, its as weird to me as probably to you. But in the American dating game, its like the polar opposite situation, being non-white and 5' 5.

I mean I understand your physical shortcoming can be overcome with "confidence," but I would die early of a heart attack if I got married with a girl who was into me due to nothing but that. If this is how most US marriages happen, I understand why the divorce rate so high. Its much easier to control your looks, body, and financial status than your confidence which comes and goes like the tide.

So it kind of feels like a copout, because game itself taught me so much about myself and life that I would never have learned otherwise, but if in the US, girls fetishize tall white men regardless if they are ugly or fat, I might as well cut my losses and a play a game I have an advantage in? I guess I feel especially bad for short white men, because they have no other options. I guess that might be a different situation because I'm pretty average height for my race, but they would be considered short for theirs.

You need time to screen women you have a ltr with. You need even more time in a ltr to screen for potential marriage candidates. An arranged marriage may seem easier but ultimately you're less likely to be with someone you have a lasting connection with.

Don't go for the arranged marriage. Find women you like and put in the time that will give you a better chance at happiness.

 

[MatureDJ]

If I could trust my parents to select someone that is attractive, I would think about it.

 

[bigneil]

If I could trust my parents to select someone that is attractive, I would think about it.

If I could trust my parents to find me a 20 year old HB9 stripper, I would think about it.

 

[sazc]

I've always understood the benefits to am arranged marriage. Both people are in the union with a focus on making it a success. This is the goal, and what they strive for. I be think these are more effective of the purpose it's too benefit both extended families as well.

I don't think it is a cop out

 

[wifehunter]

An arranged marriage to a harem, sounds like loads of fun....

...till someone gets hurt.

 

[Masculinity]

Title. I'm wondering, am I better off getting an arranged marriage before I age out it? Because if I do, I have countless advantages, but being raised here, its as weird to me as probably to you. But in the American dating game, its like the polar opposite situation, being non-white and 5' 5.

I mean I understand your physical shortcoming can be overcome with "confidence," but I would die early of a heart attack if I got married with a girl who was into me due to nothing but that. If this is how most US marriages happen, I understand why the divorce rate so high. Its much easier to control your looks, body, and financial status than your confidence which comes and goes like the tide.

So it kind of feels like a copout, because game itself taught me so much about myself and life that I would never have learned otherwise, but if in the US, girls fetishize tall white men regardless if they are ugly or fat, I might as well cut my losses and a play a game I have an advantage in? I guess I feel especially bad for short white men, because they have no other options. I guess that might be a different situation because I'm pretty average height for my race, but they would be considered short for theirs.

Don't do it.

 

[Augustus_McCrae]

He will be like this guy I worked with years ago. He was going back to India for about 5 weeks. He kept saying: "My parents are going to put pressure on me to marry, but I'm ABSOLUTELY NOT going to get married".

Six weeks later, I see him. He immediately puts his head down and says: "I got married...". LMFAO!

-Augustus-

 

[mrgoodstuff]

He will be like this guy I worked with years ago. He was going back to India for about 5 weeks. He kept saying: "My parents are going to put pressure on me to marry, but I'm ABSOLUTELY NOT going to get married".

Six weeks later, I see him. He immediately puts his head down and says: "I got married...". LMFAO!

-Augustus-

Well hopefully his wife treats him well and phvcks him often.