Is This Chick Relationship Worthy?

[soulforge]

As you are aware, I dumped this chick 4 days ago.. Simply because she was pushing for a RS, and in order to get that, she cut all sexual conversations out with me, and started controlling the sex!

She sent me a text last night...

HER - If you change your mind, then get in touch, we can go back to how things used to be

I am tempted to bang her again, as i have zero plates at the moment, but I have some serious doubts.

She will probably go hot/cold on me again, if I do not give her an RS or something close to an RS

I have done a list of positives and negatives, and I fear any RS with her would be a fuking nightmare..

Also if I caught feelings for this girl, then things could get messy!


I have done a list of negatives and positives, what do you think?


Negatives

01. Met her on pof

02. Came straight to my house, no public meet

03. Sex within half an hour

04. She seemed ok to keep things sexual

05. She agreed to take part in a 3sum

06. She mentioned on more than several occasions to bring one of my friends over to fuk her too

07. She started using sex as a tool or a weapon, when I would not give her more in the form of an RS

08. All sex talk completely stopped, she banned it

09. She sent a meme, which was more like a threat, basically letting me know, If I don't treat her like a GF then she is gone (threat)

10. She flaked 3 times, most probably because she is unsure about her feelings

11. She has a friend filling her head about me, that is why she is getting cold

12. She ended it with me some weeks ago, because she decided she did not want to have sex with anyone other than me.. again she could have spoke to me about this matter, rather than ending it.. again her friend gave her the advise to end it.


Positives

01. Nice person

02. High interest level

03. Submissive


All this behaviour is probably due to her wanting more than sex, but I feel she is too risky for anything more than just sex!

 

[CMNILS87]

You're trolling now right?

 

[soulforge]

You're trolling now right?

Lol no man, she wants back in with me..

 

[bigneil]

Jesus, when bigneil thinks a girl is too crazy she probably is.

It took me 2 months to get my last girl home, and I wasn't allowed to lay a finger on her until the second time she came over.

I have a third dated today and am hoping she comes over but won't force it.

Girls who come straight over and have sex are really sketchy. That's call girl material. And she did it free??

 

[soulforge]

Jesus, when bigneil thinks a girl is too crazy she probably is.

It took me 2 months to get my last girl home, and I wasn't allowed to lay a finger on her until the second time she came over.

I have a third dated today and am hoping she comes over but won't force it.

Girls who come straight over and have sex are really sketchy. That's call girl material. And she did it free??

Free of charge.. no money exchanged at all lol

 

[soulforge]

Personality wise, she is a nice girl.

Initially she was all about the sex, but either her feelings developed for me, or the mad sex was a way for a her to hook me in..

I kind of understand why she killed the sex vibe off, because she was trying to steer things towards a RS

She just handled it all wrong.. using dread and cutting the sex talk off completely 100% was not the best way to handle things..

Plus pushing hard for more commitment nearly 3 months in, seems a little desperate to me.

Anyhow she wants back in.. shall i keep the door closed?

 

[Bingo-Player]

negatives far outweigh the positives for me

but as you are the only one who knows her in real life you are the only one qualified to make the decision

to me she sounds like your classic c@m dumpster that has been fvcked and chucked a lot over the years

possible shes had enough of it and wants to lock something serious in but you can never be sure

the fact shes trying to manipulate you with sex so early on is ringing very loud bells in my head lol

 

[Glassguy]

She is a nice girl? Really?

How many guys on here start 4 threads about the same "nice girl"?

Nice girls that are interested don't flake 3 times. She is only pulling you back in her frame.

It never goes back to "How It used to be". It's all about the here and now present tense.

 

[soulforge]

negatives far outweigh the positives for me

but as you are the only one who knows her in real life you are the only one qualified to make the decision

to me she sounds like your classic c@m dumpster that has been fvcked and chucked a lot over the years

possible shes had enough of it and wants to lock something serious in but you can never be sure

the fact shes trying to manipulate you with sex so early on is ringing very loud bells in my head lol

Those bells are ringing in my head too... the sex went from 100% to absolute zero in just two weeks...

How the fuk does that happen.. I mean yes the sex can be toned down a little... that makes sense...

But she created an environment, where sex cannot be mentioned at all..

This is something that could crop up again, if she didn't feel i was giving her enough attention, or not caring enough for her..

The whole.. "You only care about sex card" can become a powerful weapon.

She is wanting to go back to how things where.. i but don't really trust this.

 

[soulforge]

She is a nice girl? Really?

How many guys on here start 4 threads about the same "nice girl"?

Nice girls that are interested don't flake 3 times. She is only pulling you back in her frame.

It never goes back to "How It used to be". It's all about the here and now present tense.

She flaked 3 times because she felt like i was only seeing her for sex.. and not giving her more.

Which is not actually true.. i did spend some time with her, took her out for drinks etc... it wasn't just, let me jizz all over your face, now fuk off.. lol


Glass guy, i do feel you have a valid point.. we always believe they are nice girls... till months down the line your getting completely fuked over.

Fact is she is promiscuous, and was too easy... yes she refused to do the whole 3sum thing eventually..

But she defo entertained the idea.. even if I let her back in as my plate.. it's not going too feel right.

I,m going to have to keep her happy, and content, in order for her puzzy to stick around lol

 

[soulforge]

Free of charge.. no money exchanged at all lol

Everyone loves a freebie lol

 

[bigneil]

It never goes back to "How It used to be". It's all about the here and now present tense.

Yes and no.

Carlos Xuma laid the blueprint on how to get an ex back circa 2012:

0) First, ask yourself if you even want her back. It's approximately 10 times easier to just start over with a new girl.
1) You have to completely end this chapter of relationship - for at least 30 days, maybe 90 days. You must go no contact. Don't ignore her messages but reply and tell her you need space. During this time two things happen, the bad feelings fade and nostalgia makes her miss you, so her interest goes up in two ways.
2) You have to know what went wrong. Something went wrong. A lot of times it dawns on you around 3-4 weeks of no contact. You must resolve that with her when you start talking to her again. Get to the root of the problem. People normally react predictably when you know the circumstances.
3) When you see her again, don't talk about the relationship. You are seeing if the chemistry drives you back together like it did originally. Nothing but positive things.
4) You must have IMPROVED yourself in some noticeable way, otherwise why would she come back to what she lost interest in?

Also, know that while it's great to "get her back", you'll never have the younger, sweeter more innocent version of her who you could pretend was perfect. You'll have an older, more bitter, more used up version of her who you know will hurt you if it's convenient to her.

 

[soulforge]

If i let her back in, then she will know, her tactic of killing off the sex worked.

It's not all her fault, she is a typical girl, and wants more than just me busting a nut in her Azz!

But.. it's been handled by her in a manipulative way.

I see more negatives in letting her back in..

Also RS wise, she just doesn't seem like a quality woman..

I sense a desperation in her, to hook a man in... and she will use her puzzy, sex in order to get.

 

[SmooveMooves]

Be honest.

@soulforge you've already made your decision. This thread is really a search for validation of it.

You know all of us here will say it's a bad idea. Hell I'm sure even you know it's a bad decision deep down. However, I do know how hard it is to ignore potential easy pūssy. Especially when it's dangling in front of you and you have no other plates.

If you're diving back in be wary. When it inevitably goes down hill don't pretend you didn't know.

 

[The Duke]

NO she is not relationship material at all. Any girl who uses sex as a weapon is a manipulator. That means she has no skills to work problems out other than using sex. Her idea of bring a 3rd person into your sex life is a red flag. Her having sex so early is a red flag. In her mind all she has to offer is sex, and those people always have deep mental issues you haven't even discovered yet.

 

[wifehunter]

 

[AJ84]

If i let her back in, then she will know, her tactic of killing off the sex worked.

It's not all her fault, she is a typical girl, and wants more than just me busting a nut in her Azz!

But.. it's been handled by her in a manipulative way.

I see more negatives in letting her back in..

Also RS wise, she just doesn't seem like a quality woman..
No offence but she's not thrn
Start meeting other girls so you can shake your head off a bit and get some clarity and not get sucked in again.

If i let her back in, then she will know, her tactic of killing off the sex worked.

It's not all her fault, she is a typical girl, and wants more than just me busting a nut in her Azz!

But.. it's been handled by her in a manipulative way.

I see more negatives in letting her back in..

Also RS wise, she just doesn't seem like a quality woman..

I sense a desperation in her, to hook a man in... and she will use her puzzy, sex in order to get.

You seem stuck on the good sex and as that was the last sex you had (you said there are no other plates right now), you are focusing on this as a reference point in considering her as relationship worthy. You listed a lot of red flags, you ended it and now that the sex has ended, and it was good sex, there's a void. This is where you should be meeting other girls, finding other good sex and create some real distance so you don't get sucked back in pun intended.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Those bells are ringing in my head too... the sex went from 100% to absolute zero in just two weeks...

How the fuk does that happen.. I mean yes the sex can be toned down a little... that makes sense...

But she created an environment, where sex cannot be mentioned at all..

This is something that could crop up again, if she didn't feel i was giving her enough attention, or not caring enough for her..

The whole.. "You only care about sex card" can become a powerful weapon.

She is wanting to go back to how things where.. i but don't really trust this.

you are asking questions you already know the answers too

Bin her bro it sounds like shes gonna cause you more headaches than the worth of it in the long run

I know getting a new circulation of plates aint easy im going through the same thing now , I cant get one of them to stick atm

You have to keep slogging on once you get one spinning the others with soon follow

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Noooooo........

 

[soulforge]

I wouldn't mind getting into a rs with her, but then again I am an actual conniving player with no morals. Being in 5 relationships at the same time means nothing to me. So the decision is easy. Soulforge, I told you in the last thread exactly how this thing was going to play out. You either have to commit or lie and be a player.

The dark side of the force leads to many plates that are otherwise unavailible to honest guys.

Well i am kinda regretting this a little now, because I could have just played along and just gave her what she wanted..

Obviously it would had been all Bull

But... the ban on sex, talking about sex... that's a complete no no for me.. i mention anything about sex to her, and she pulls away


That's where i cannot be fuked with this situation.. I would literally have to be really good and nice to her, just to get a little *****..