Didn't have the ideal college experience and it still depresses me, like it will never be the same.

[drakeisfire]

I don't know how to describe my situation but I missed out on the college experience to a great degree, didn't get to live in dorms and was pressured by parents into commuting.

Right now in life I am doing great, have all of stuff together, make money, and all that but I feel like deep down inside I missed out on something great. Did not make a lot of friends in college, had a terrible social life, and didn't get to have fun.

It is really biting away at me now even though so much seems to go right in my life, I am in my mid 20s and feel mentally old and like I missed out on the majority of my life because I never had that social experience of college.

Is there any recovering from this sort of thing?

 

[CMNILS87]

Yikes. Yea after the first year it 2 living at home you should have networked with classmates and roomed together by campus. You're in your mid 20's now and a young professional. There's lots of social events in towns and ways to meet new people like you. You just have to stick your neck out and strike up conversations

 

[bigneil]

I was a pvssy in college too, but not now. Man up.

 

[drakeisfire]

I can understand that feeling like you passed up on a lot of fun in college sucks, but don't forget that you've potentially set yourself up to live the next 70+ years of your life with more control and greater success. So, while you might have missed out on 4 years of fun, you still have many decades of advantage coming to you as a result of it. Make the best of that opportunity. Forge onwards.

I get that but it is that feeling of knowing nothing in those years will compare socially.

The friends, the parties, and the social experiences, nothing will really compare socially with what I missed out in college.....

 

[Mike32ct]

I also was a commuter student who also never saw the inside of a dorm.

So high school was actually more fun than college.

Anyway, did it bother me in my 20s? Yes, but I definitely got over it.

Looking back now, years later, I realize that I didn't miss much of anything. As a shy nerdy non-Chad, non-athlete and most likely non-frat boy, I would have had no chance in the college scene anyway.

Anyway, the past is the past. Focus on work and who you can meet now.

 

[bigneil]

I've been enjoying the best of college experiences ever since I turned 41. They are called women half your age.

 

[QuadDeuces]

If you take care of your body your 30ies are going to be the best years.

 

[marmel75]

I don't know how to describe my situation but I missed out on the college experience to a great degree, didn't get to live in dorms and was pressured by parents into commuting.

Right now in life I am doing great, have all of stuff together, make money, and all that but I feel like deep down inside I missed out on something great. Did not make a lot of friends in college, had a terrible social life, and didn't get to have fun.

It is really biting away at me now even though so much seems to go right in my life, I am in my mid 20s and feel mentally old and like I missed out on the majority of my life because I never had that social experience of college.

Is there any recovering from this sort of thing?

Ok, so what can you do about it?

Nothing.

Then why spend anytime thinking about something you can't change?

Put your energy into something productive like meeting and banging new women.

 

[bigneil]

I was a virgin all through high school but I never felt deprived. My first girlfriend was when I was age 22, and she was 18 and an HB9 who looked almost exactly like my last girlfriend. Better late than never.

 

[Dingo]

Is this the same guy that posts all the poor me threads ?

There are young guys in Afghanistan carrying 70 lbs back packs in 100° temps while being shot and blown up by the Taliban and you complain about not recovering because you missed out partying in college....Boo ****ing hoo....

Harden the Fvck Up...

 

[Building_and_Loan]

What you're really upset about is you didn't smash enough college girls.

You can still do that. Find ways to get involved on a campus somehow, get a part time job where students frequent, go to a college bar, etc.

 

[RangerMIke]

Think of it this way. If you had gone to college those days would have been behind you anyway. Live in the present and think to the future. Don't resent that past because hating on the past is really hating on what you are now, since you are the sum of your experiences. EVERYONE has things in their past that they regret. I wish I never would have been married, but with out that I would not have my kids....

Your best years are ahead of you. I am 50 years old, and I date women your age... You can do this too as long as you are willing to take care of business and your body. Stop b!tching like a chick and man up.

 

[wifehunter]

 

[SmooveMooves]

Stop b!tching like a chick and man up.

I'm not sure what you were expecting any of us to say OP. Did you want us to lift your shirt up and rub your tummy? Get some balloons and throw a pity party?

Point is, you need to take a look in the mirror. You're alive. You're able and you got a good job. You are still in your twenties. You cannot time travel. Stop feeling sorry for yourself because no one else does. Go to events you're interested and be social. That's the only way to make friends.

Come back later when you've been out of your comfort zone a few times then complain.


OP POST TRANSLATION: "Why can't everything I ever wanted just fall into my lap? Don't you guys hate that? Hey guys lets discuss something that we can do nothing about. Lets talk about the past and by talk I mean sulk. Is there anyone else who enjoys feeling sorry for themselves here just like me? Anyone?"

 

[RangerMIke]

I'm not sure what you were expecting any of us to say OP. Did you want us to lift your shirt up and rub your tummy? Get some balloons and throw a pity party?

Point is, you need to take a look in the mirror. You're alive. You're able and you got a good job. You are still in your twenties. You cannot time travel. Stop feeling sorry for yourself because no one else does. Go to events you're interested and be social. That's the only way to make friends.

The reason why there are so many fvcked up chicks in this world is because 90% of the men out there have all been indoctrinated by feminist bvllsh!t and this it is okay for men to act like little boys so their momma can coddle them. Men and women are different.

It's okay for a chick to whine and seek emotional support from other women... that is the way they are. But because the feminist narrative is men and women are the same and gender is a construct, the only way a world like this can fit this nonsense is to play to the lowest common denominator... which is female. Women are not as smart as men, they are not as productive, they are not a strong.... in just about EVERY category of significance in survival they are the weaker sex. So the only way feminist EQUITY (not I did not say equal opportunity, which I don't have a problem with), is to drag men down and get them to act like chicks.

The only problem is men acting like chicks, dries up women like a desert. You are no good to a woman if you can not pick yourself off the dirt and go for what you want.

 

[QuadDeuces]

Go travelling dude.
A year to Australia or South East Asia, get a job in a bar on a beach or something equivalent, sleep in dorm rooms of backpack hostels or camp sites.
I've done this 5 years ago, it was the best time of my life.
You're gonna meet so many chicks, literally thousands.
It's the college life, without the books.

 

[drakeisfire]

Think you guys missed my point, it isn't about banging women, it is about the social experience of making a lot of new friends and feeling like I belonged to a community.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Think you guys missed my point, it isn't about banging women, it is about the social experience of making a lot of new friends and feeling like I belonged to a community.

I totally know what you're talking about. Yeah it sucks. But you can't do anything. The best you can do is be strong within yourself. Making a lot of new friends? Well everyone is only in it for themselves really and will screw you over for money and for *****. It is best to have friends yet not need to rely on them. Want to feel like you belong somewhere? Well that just means that you want someone else to identify who you are for you rather than you identifying yourself. Why should someone else define you? I have that same problem. But throughout my short 18 years here, I've had to realize time and time again to hold no attachment towards anyone or anything. Not even myself. It would be great to have a large group of friends, it would feel wonderful to have so many people with me. But I wonder if that's just because of a weakness in myself due to insecurity. I know myself enough to know that it isn't due to insecurity, but because I'm tired of not having anyone have my back. And because of this reason, I see that I still am weak. Maybe stronger than the average person, but not nearly as strong enough as I want to be. Maybe I shouldn't be so hard on myself because humans are social creatures. But I can't use that as an excuse. No time for weakness, only strength.

Look, it is what it is. Nothing will change it. The only way you can make up for it is if you do it right now. Instead of being apart of a group, why not make your own? Try being friends with everybody and bringing them together. Or if they all have their own groups already, you could just join one of theirs, or several. Force yourself to be talkative and outgoing.

Do what you gotta do. But you've ALWAYS gotta be strong and ALWAYS gotta be tough, regardless of circumstance.

 

[drakeisfire]

I totally know what you're talking about. Yeah it sucks. But you can't do anything. The best you can do is be strong within yourself. Making a lot of new friends? Well everyone is only in it for themselves really and will screw you over for money and for *****. It is best to have friends yet not need to rely on them. Want to feel like you belong somewhere? Well that just means that you want someone else to identify who you are for you rather than you identifying yourself. Why should someone else define you? I have that same problem. But throughout my short 18 years here, I've had to realize time and time again to hold no attachment towards anyone or anything. Not even myself. It would be great to have a large group of friends, it would feel wonderful to have so many people with me. But I wonder if that's just because of a weakness in myself due to insecurity. I know myself enough to know that it isn't due to insecurity, but because I'm tired of not having anyone have my back. And because of this reason, I see that I still am weak. Maybe stronger than the average person, but not nearly as strong enough as I want to be. Maybe I shouldn't be so hard on myself because humans are social creatures. But I can't use that as an excuse. No time for weakness, only strength.

Look, it is what it is. Nothing will change it. The only way you can make up for it is if you do it right now. Instead of being apart of a group, why not make your own? Try being friends with everybody and bringing them together. Or if they all have their own groups already, you could just join one of theirs, or several. Force yourself to be talkative and outgoing.

Do what you gotta do. But you've ALWAYS gotta be strong and ALWAYS gotta be tough, regardless of circumstance.

Bruh, I appreciate the help but slow down, you're 18 lol.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Bruh, I appreciate the help but slow down, you're 18 lol.

Already in my second year in college too haha