Stupid comment on Okcupid.

[RichardTheFrog]

I mean you guys are doing exactly what I said is wrong with most guys today.

It's the fact that they allow women to just do whatever retarded shyt they want, as well as, establish whatever retarded criteria they want......and GO ALONG WITH IT.....because not doing so keeps them from getting access to STD-filled, sea creature, pvssy.

- We have already established that logically and health-wise, being a completely out of shape FAT bytch is not good. Now that's just a fact, her own damn doctor tells her this during her routine check-ups every year man. There is nothing at all good about it.

- So instead of sticking to what's right and promoting healthy living, because it might hinder you from obtaining a piece of pvssy....you "tailor your message" in an attempt to not "piss a chick off". And we WONDER why women have taken over the fvcking dating market?

Question: Is there a LIMIT to the retarded shyt you will tolerate? We have to tolerate a bytch having a kid or kids by multiple deadbeats then calling us WEAK men for not accepting it. We have to tolerate a bytch having a bad attitude then calling us WEAK men for not being able to handle her. We have to tolerate a bytch having bad finances then calling us WEAK men for not paying her bills. We have to tolerate a bytch taking a good man through the ringer in Family Court.

What's next? Are women going to start requiring that you do GAY SHYT in order to "not turn them off" and thus "not get access to their STD-filled pvssy"?

Oh because it's coming guys, trust me! A lot of guys are running around here already, wearing tight a.ss skinny jeans like a bytch and women are eating that shyt up.

So that's right, pretty soon you will be getting "rejected" by a bytch because your jeans aren't TIGHT enough. And I bet you guys will run out and slap on some tight a.ss jeans so you don't "turn her off"

Why don't you just devote your life to something else? You could be absolutely correct about everything you say, but there's nothing you can do to change it. Just **** a prostitute every now and then.

 

[MatureDJ]

Tell her to roll herself around in flour and take a selfie, so you can identify the wet spot.

 

[marmel75]

I mean you guys are doing exactly what I said is wrong with most guys today.

It's the fact that they allow women to just do whatever retarded shyt they want, as well as, establish whatever retarded criteria they want......and GO ALONG WITH IT.....because not doing so keeps them from getting access to STD-filled, sea creature, pvssy.

- We have already established that logically and health-wise, being a completely out of shape FAT bytch is not good. Now that's just a fact, her own damn doctor tells her this during her routine check-ups every year man. There is nothing at all good about it.

- So instead of sticking to what's right and promoting healthy living, because it might hinder you from obtaining a piece of pvssy....you "tailor your message" in an attempt to not "piss a chick off". And we WONDER why women have taken over the fvcking dating market?

Question: Is there a LIMIT to the retarded shyt you will tolerate? We have to tolerate a bytch having a kid or kids by multiple deadbeats then calling us WEAK men for not accepting it. We have to tolerate a bytch having a bad attitude then calling us WEAK men for not being able to handle her. We have to tolerate a bytch having bad finances then calling us WEAK men for not paying her bills. We have to tolerate a bytch taking a good man through the ringer in Family Court.

What's next? Are women going to start requiring that you do GAY SHYT in order to "not turn them off" and thus "not get access to their STD-filled pvssy"?

Oh because it's coming guys, trust me! A lot of guys are running around here already, wearing tight a.ss skinny jeans like a bytch and women are eating that shyt up.

So that's right, pretty soon you will be getting "rejected" by a bytch because your jeans aren't TIGHT enough. And I bet you guys will run out and slap on some tight a.ss jeans so you don't "turn her off"

You are missing the whole point. That isn't a message even should be in a profile in the first place. It's pure stupidity.

Ok, so you aren't interested in fat chicks, cool...so what? Why does that need to be in a profile? Exactly what purpose does that serve? What does that have to do with meeting and fvcking women?

If a fat woman contacts you then just delete the mesasge. Problem solved. It's not like you are a woman getting 100 messages a day or more.

It would be like you going to apply for a job and in your resume putting something like "I don't like working for bosses who are micro-managers".

Ok, that's fine. You don't like working for bosses that are micro-managers...but the person looking at the resume is going to read that and think you are just hard to get along with and it's probably going to eliminate you as a candidate before you even get an interview. Same concept.

So if I told you that was stupid to put that in your resume because you sabotage your ability to get an interview would you argue with me about it and say "I can say whatever I want to say and it shouldn't make a difference?" I guess you could, but you'd look pretty dumb doing it.

There are ways to say things tactfully and diplomatically that come across well and there are ways that are untactful and undiplomatic that come across making you look like an idiot. If he feels the need to say "I don't like fat chicks" then thre are plenty of ways to word it that will give a much better outcome than that. Personally I don't see a reason to ever put yourself in a position to fail, which is what this amounts to.

People somehow think they have be a man and say everything on their mind. No you don't. That has nothing to do with being a man and everything to do with being socially inept.

My whole point is there IS NO VALID REASON to even put that in a profile to beign with, unless you want the same result the OP has had half the time.

 

[Tenacity]

I had an ex who was around 110 when we were dating. We crossed paths on social media years later and she tells me she gained about 10 pounds. B*tch shows up at my door weighing One f*cking eighty. 10 pounds she says. I keep that weight limit sh*t out of my ads because I trust my own eyes before I trust a woman's self assessment on weight. I can sit here and say "no fat chicks" all day long, but b*tches weighing 170 will still think they're average or curvy and not fat.

Okay.

Second, these women are not taking over the market at all.

Oh yes they are.

Do you know why these women have their long, laundry list of qualifications?

Oh yeah, especially when they get into their later 20's and early/middle 30's, no matter if they have an "OLD" profile or not.

Do you know why they're on OLD sites to begin with? It's because they aren't getting what they f*cking want.

I made a thread about this before. I don't see women on OLD in that fashion, OLD is functioning like an extension of Facebook/Regular Social Media today. So to women, OLD is another social media profile they can slap up and get 100 messages from guys like they do on Facebook.

Oh, and by the way, if you haven't quite noticed yet, this website essentially revolves around the fundamental concept of making adjustments in your life in an attempt to land more ass, regardless of whether that's a primary or secondary goal. So by default, your very presence and participation here solidifies your membership in the very peanut gallery you're scolding with your "tailoring the message in order to avoid hindering you from obtaining a piece of p*ssy" criticism.

Well no, this isn't a PUA website. What you are referring to is a PUA website. This website is focused on the "Don Juan", which is the guy who fixes his looks, personality, and finances to the point where THAT makes him attractive to women, not the act of trying to "tailor your message", or "tailor your personality" to each individual woman in order to "appeal" to her. IF a chick is getting too ridiculous, you NEXT her. That's what this website is all about.

Tenacity, I read a lot of your posts and tend to agree with quite a bit of it. Don't get unhinged, man. Come back down. Chill.

I rant.....I have to get that shyt out of my system brother. Actually, the rants I put on here, are like therapy. It keeps me from doing a CHRIS BENOIT on a bytch.

 

[Tenacity]

You are missing the whole point. That isn't a message even should be in a profile in the first place. It's pure stupidity.

Ok, so you aren't interested in fat chicks, cool...so what? Why does that need to be in a profile? Exactly what purpose does that serve?

Okay so what purpose does it serve when a woman does the same thing? If she isn't interested in short guys, or broke guys, or (insert whatever else here), why does that need to be in a profile?

I'll wait for your answer........

It would be like you going to apply for a job and in your resume putting something like "I don't like working for bosses who are micro-managers".

Ok, that's fine. You don't like working for bosses that are micro-managers...but the person looking at the resume is going to read that and think you are just hard to get along with and it's probably going to eliminate you as a candidate before you even get an interview.

Correct, mainly because something like that doesn't go on a resume nor a cover letter, it's completely unprofessional. That's something you discuss during an interview.

But that's NOT the same concept. One is being unprofessional in a professional environment.....the other is a personal preference choice in relation to your personal life. When it comes to your personal life/personal preference, you have the RIGHT to be as picky as you want, just like women do the exact same thing in their OLD profile.

 

[marmel75]

Okay so what purpose does it serve when a woman does the same thing? If she isn't interested in short guys, or broke guys, or (insert whatever else here), why does that need to be in a profile?

I'll wait for your answer........




Correct, mainly because something like that doesn't go on a resume nor a cover letter, it's completely unprofessional. That's something you discuss during an interview.

But that's NOT the same concept. One is being unprofessional in a professional environment.....the other is a personal preference choice in relation to your personal life. When it comes to your personal life/personal preference, you have the RIGHT to be as picky as you want, just like women do the exact same thing in their OLD profile.

Because there are desperate ass dudes out there that will overlook it because she is hot. Or even cute...or even meh...or even worse than that...
Because they get 100's of messages anyway so it doesn't matter if 10 guys get offended and don't message them.

In their case, it helps them get fewer messages to read and go through. Since guys don't have the same problem, there is no point in doing it.

EXACTLY my point...you DISCUSS During an interview....

So to put it in a date context:

You don't talk about it on your profile, you discuss it in person. Because it's socially inept otherwise.

And yes, you DO have the right to be as picky as want, but there is no need to TELL them about how or why on a profile. Nothing good can come of it.

 

[zekko]

I can sit here and say "no fat chicks" all day long, but b*tches weighing 170 will still think they're average or curvy and not fat.

Not only that, but a lot of women will think they're fat when they're not. I agree, use your eyes to sort them out.

Well no, this isn't a PUA website. What you are referring to is a PUA website. This website is focused on the "Don Juan", which is the guy who fixes his looks, personality, and finances to the point where THAT makes him attractive to women, not the act of trying to "tailor your message", or "tailor your personality" to each individual woman in order to "appeal" to her.

I've always found the self improvement aspects to be the best part of this website. There is still a lot of PUA tactics and PUA influence that has a strong foothold here though. Look how Neil likes to push Corey Wayne's advice. All the bad boy stuff. I don't know how many posts I've read where some newbie got butthurt because a girl called him a nice guy. "I'm not a nice guy, I'm a bad@ss who will break your heart duurrr sniff". All the arguments over whether you should or should not text a girl, and if so how much.

A lot of the PUA stuff is designed to make you look high value, and not desperate or overeager. I prefer to simply cultivate a masculine mindset. I am a man, after all. To me, that simply means to maximize my strengths, and minimize my weaknesses. I really don't give two sh!ts if a girl thinks I look desperate, as long as I know I'm not. Be your authentic self, and let that come through. As far as the DHV stuff, I don't think you can really fake being high value (not for long anyway), so I'm not really into that either. A lot of it just seems try hard to me. In fact, I can't think of anything more try hard than "tailoring your personality" to attract women, especially if you're trying to be something you're not.

 

[Tenacity]

Because there are desperate ass dudes out there that will overlook it because she is hot. Or even cute...or even meh...or even worse than that...
Because they get 100's of messages anyway so it doesn't matter if 10 guys get offended and don't message them.

In their case, it helps them get fewer messages to read and go through. Since guys don't have the same problem, there is no point in doing it.

EXACTLY my point...you DISCUSS During an interview....

So to put it in a date context:

You don't talk about it on your profile, you discuss it in person. Because it's socially inept otherwise.

And yes, you DO have the right to be as picky as want, but there is no need to TELL them about how or why on a profile. Nothing good can come of it.

- So when a guy does it, it means he's socially inept.

- But when a woman does it, it means she's just trying to reduce/filter down the type of people who message her, in an attempt to only interact with the people that she wants messaging her?

You don't see the double standard? Personally, does Tenacity put a list of what he DOESN'T want on his OLD profile? No. The reason being is that I can do my own filter. But I can't stand the double standard where it's okay for a woman to do this, but if a guy does it, all hell breaks loose. HELL, many times a chick complaining about a guy doing it, is a chick who is also doing the same shyt on her profile!

 

[marmel75]

- So when a guy does it, it means he's socially inept.

- But when a woman does it, it means she's just trying to reduce/filter down the type of people who message her, in an attempt to only interact with the people that she wants messaging her?

You don't see the double standard? Personally, does Tenacity put a list of what he DOESN'T want on his OLD profile? No. The reason being is that I can do my own filter. But I can't stand the double standard where it's okay for a woman to do this, but if a guy does it, all hell breaks loose. HELL, many times a chick complaining about a guy doing it, is a chick who is also doing the same shyt on her profile!

There are double standards pretty much everywhere with anything you do. That's life, get over it.

I don't dwell on it because there is nothing I can do to change it. There will always be desperate ass dudes that blow up these chicks heads and inboxes. So what?

I'm sure women think it's a double standard that they make on average 30% less than a male in the same role with the same experience too.

 

[zekko]

You don't see the double standard? Personally, does Tenacity put a list of what he DOESN'T want on his OLD profile?!

Girl wanted. Must have breasts.

 

[El Payaso]

Having standards has nothing to do with understanding tact and diplomacy.

Wow, you are so much more of a man because you put that you don't like fat chicks on a profile.

Actually, yes. It makes him more of a man because unlike some "men" who are afraid to state their standards because one girl might not f*ck them.

 

[dude99]

This girl replied to a message I sent with an unrelated comment about how a message on my profile said I don't large women and how that turned her off, how do I reply to this. It's crazy hypocritical. As far I can see there's nothing wrong with not being attracted to people who don't take care of themselves.

You don't entertain it with a response.
You ignore it.

 

[marmel75]

Actually, yes. It makes him more of a man because unlike some "men" who are afraid to state their standards because one girl might not f*ck them.

The real man doesn't need to poke out his chest and say it. That just seems like a lot of false bravado and taking "rules" and applying them in all situations with no context which ends up making no sense.

 

[El Payaso]

And that's the problem here. A lot of guys seem to think that by not putting these things in your profile, it means you're not being selective; That somehow you're lowering your standards just to appease and get more women. I don't get where that idea comes from.

I'm ignoring and eliminating these particular women all the same as any guy who states "no fat chicks" in his profile. I just do it with a *click* of the mouse instead of a sentence. It has absolutely nothing at all to do with my standards or the women I select to go out with.

I don't understand how putting that in your ad makes you more of a man. I have done well enough getting thin, attractive women to respond to my ad that I just feel no need whatsoever to throw "no fat chicks" out there. Just serves no purpose, other than maybe a fewer number of clicks on the delete button.

Not posting your dislikes because you don't care is different from not posting because you're afraid of getting angry messages from women or missing out on some pu$$y.

 

[El Payaso]

The real man doesn't need to poke out his chest and say it. That just seems like a lot of false bravado and taking "rules" and applying them in all situations with no context which ends up making no sense.

A real man will post whatever he wants because he doesn't care if he will receive an angry message from a fat woman or he might miss out on some pu$$y.

My point is, if he wants to post "no fat women" on his profile, I don't see how it affects you. It's his standards and he's free to communicate it as he wishes. I don't see the need to call him a dumbass because he's not afraid to communicate his standards.