Is It Time To Drop This Plate? 3 flakes

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Whatever OP... if you make another thread about her you should be banned for life
 
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Apparently cuddle means CODE for fukc me in the Ass lol

Need to look up the dj bible for this
She's looking for something you're not offering and you are now losing interest in her anyway. Just text that you're not feeling it, all the best etc etc, to give it some closure for her to take the hint and stop texting and both of you can move on to find other people more suited to what you are both looking for.
 

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Apparently cuddle means CODE for fukc me in the Ass lol

Need to look up the dj bible for this
Lol. No I think discouraging sexual convo on her and trying to cuddle us her trying to remove the sexual aspect. I think you guys would still be able to banter about it.
 

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She's looking for something you're not offering and you are now losing interest in her anyway. Just text that you're not feeling it, all the best etc etc, to give it some closure for her to take the hint and stop texting and both of you can move on to find other people more suited to what you are both looking for.
If she wants to give him some puzzy it's okay
 
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If she wants to give him some puzzy it's okay
For sure, if he's able to rewind it back to what they were doing before and she's on board with that knowing that's that's all it will be. It's certainly possible. She seems to be looking for a boyfriend so once she meets someone she likes who is offering that she's gone but in the meantime he may be able to enjoy the casual stuff with her while she looks for something else.
 

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Nobody here can exactly understand the dynamic between you and your woman @soulforge

The smart people here DO NOT take people's word for what they are saying. They look for motive and general behaviour.

She has her hooks into you. You are deceiving yourself using her and are projecting your attraction on her. You do care even if you say OR BELIEVE otherwise.

You have ONEITIS.

Lots of us have gone through this. It's normal, its manageable and it doesn't mean you are weak, it means you weren't careful enough to recognise the red flags in her and ignored them in the beginning for sex. We've all been there.

Most women who CAN cause this in a man are toxic, low self esteem women, who make themselves unavailable for sh!ts and giggles and boosting their self esteem.

You can do better than her. Do not waste another minute hoping she bends to your frame, don't waste a minute investing anymore emotionally. Stop analysing her every word and action. She's pathetic and she'll beat you down to her own level of patheticness if you keep dancing with her. It's already started.


When you are honest to yourself, you can be humble and let things go.


Forget if SHE likes you or doesn't like you. Forget if SHE wants to be with you.
Forget if SHE wants a relationship.

Her opinion and validation of your self worth or masculinity has no real value.

Just ask yourself.

Is your emotional state in this dynamic something you want for an extended time?

Is she making your life better or draining it?

Is her behaviour making you happy?

This will ONLY get worse whether you want her/love her/care for her or just want to fvck her.

You are right, your gut is telling you to run away, find someone else and rejoice your new found freedom.

It's EASY, cut the cord and enjoy your freedom before you invest more in the hoe.


Trust the Gut.
 
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Nobody here can exactly understand the dynamic between you and your woman @soulforge

The smart people here DO NOT take people's word for what they are saying. They look for motive and general behaviour.

She has her hooks into you. You are deceiving yourself using her and are projecting your attraction on her. You do care even if you say OR BELIEVE otherwise.

You have ONEITIS.

Lots of us have gone through this. It's normal, its manageable and it doesn't mean you are weak, it means you weren't careful enough to recognise the red flags in her and ignored them in the beginning for sex. We've all been there.

Most women who CAN cause this in a man are toxic, low self esteem women, who make themselves unavailable for sh!ts and giggles and boosting their self esteem.

You can do better than her. Do not waste another minute hoping she bends to your frame, don't waste a minute investing anymore emotionally. Stop analysing her every word and action. She's pathetic and she'll beat you down to her own level of patheticness if you keep dancing with her. It's already started.


When you are honest to yourself, you can be humble and let things go.


Forget if SHE likes you or doesn't like you. Forget if SHE wants to be with you.
Forget if SHE wants a relationship.

Her opinion and validation of your self worth or masculinity has no real value.

Just ask yourself.

Is your emotional state in this dynamic something you want for an extended time?

Is she making your life better or draining it?

Is her behaviour making you happy?

This will ONLY get worse whether you want her/love her/care for her or just want to fvck her.

You are right, your gut is telling you to run away, find someone else and rejoice your new found freedom.

It's EASY, cut the cord and enjoy your freedom before you invest more in the hoe.


Trust the Gut.

Thanks for the advice man...If I am honest the GUT does not feel good..

My feeling is she could be lining up another guy, thats why the sudden loss of interest in talking about sex..

Yes she has messaged me, to meet her next week... but that could be just her, making sure she still has me lined up, just incase things don't work out with this other guy.

Loss of interest in sex talk, hot and cold behaviour.. she doesn't seem to care as much as before..

Where as we maybe thinking she just wants more commitment from me...

The truth Could be she is lining up other dudes...

Either way my gut instinct does not feel good with her..

So i am thinking, to either send her a dump message...

Or i just GHOST her... ghost seems the better option to me.
 

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How does a girl go from talking about sex constantly, telling me she needs sex three to four times a day, to NOTHING

For two weeks now, sex has not been mentioned once by her... if i have bought up the subject of sex, she has avoided it.

This is without a doubt a POWER move.. She controls the sex, she holds the power..

Tonight I will be sending her a text, letting her know, that I am not feeling it with her any longer..

I feel like a begger with her, having to work hard to get a little puzzy...

It was fun and exciting before, now it just feels fuking lame lol.

Plus its her manipulative attitude that has put me off
 

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Thanks for the advice man...If I am honest the GUT does not feel good..

My feeling is she could be lining up another guy, thats why the sudden loss of interest in talking about sex..

Yes she has messaged me, to meet her next week... but that could be just her, making sure she still has me lined up, just incase things don't work out with this other guy.

Loss of interest in sex talk, hot and cold behaviour.. she doesn't seem to care as much as before..

Where as we maybe thinking she just wants more commitment from me...

The truth Could be she is lining up other dudes...

Either way my gut instinct does not feel good with her..

So i am thinking, to either send her a dump message...

Or i just GHOST her... ghost seems the better option to me.

You don't need gut instincts on this one. She waves more than enough red flags to know you're sticking your chorizo in crazy. Yes, good sex is hard to walk away from, but its never worth your sanity.

As much as you might not want to admit it, you have a lot to learn, as to do I. You sound a little confused, weak and maybe a caught a little feelings for her. The constant threads you're posting proves it.

In no way trying to diss you here mate, just don't want to see you go thru the same cycle as that last 50yo bar sloot. I myself am probably the weakest dude on this forum to have put up with my ex for as long as I did, and Im paying the price for it.

Take it from me, just delete her from your life and move on. At least you had some good sex right?

How does a girl go from talking about sex constantly, telling me she needs sex three to four times a day, to NOTHING

For two weeks now, sex has not been mentioned once by her... if i have bought up the subject of sex, she has avoided it.

This is without a doubt a POWER move.. She controls the sex, she holds the power..

Tonight I will be sending her a text, letting her know, that I am not feeling it with her any longer..

I feel like a begger with her, having to work hard to get a little puzzy...

It was fun and exciting before, now it just feels fuking lame lol.

Plus its her manipulative attitude that has put me off
Because she can smell weakness in you thats why. You should not be surprised nor confused by her actions. She sounds Cluster B or just a flat out wacko sloot.

Shes in your head big time. Stop trying to understand her, simply don't play and walk away.
 

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This thread is excellent as it touches on a lot of topics that come up often.

Soulforge, it cannot be fun to go through all of this as it sounds exhausting and it centers around control and manipulation.

That being said the part that rests on you is being in or out and I don't necessarily mean in or out of a relationship, but rather in or out regarding dealing with her.

Anytime a woman wants to come over and cuddle it should mean come over and have sex. If you are encountering issues there, then this isn't just about flaking.
 

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You don't need gut instincts on this one. She waves more than enough red flags to know you're sticking your chorizo in crazy. Yes, good sex is hard to walk away from, but its never worth your sanity.

As much as you might not want to admit it, you have a lot to learn, as to do I. You sound a little confused, weak and maybe a caught a little feelings for her. The constant threads you're posting proves it.

In no way trying to diss you here mate, just don't want to see you go thru the same cycle as that last 50yo bar sloot. I myself am probably the weakest dude on this forum to have put up with my ex for as long as I did, and Im paying the price for it.

Take it from me, just delete her from your life and move on. At least you had some good sex right?



Because she can smell weakness in you thats why. You should not be surprised nor confused by her actions. She sounds Cluster B or just a flat out wacko sloot.

Shes in your head big time. Stop trying to understand her, simply don't play and walk away.

I just dumped her man.. told her i,m not feeling it with you anymore...

She wants more than sex... and i aint giving her nothing more than my dik..

Anyway dumped and deleted
 

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I just dumped her man.. told her i,m not feeling it with you anymore...

She wants more than sex... and i aint giving her nothing more than my dik..

Anyway dumped and deleted

She said she WANTS MORE than what I am willing to give her...

Here is the thing... playing games, cutting out the sex, banning any kind of sexual conversation, and flaking on me 3 times, is not the way to deal with it..

If she had spoke to me, then i would have heard her out.. i would have explained to her that right now I do not want a RS but maybe in the future it could happen..

Oh well over done with now... feel like i dodged a bullet here!
 

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Whats the point of a fuk buddy or plate, if you aint having sex or talking sex.
 
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She said she WANTS MORE than what I am willing to give her...

Here is the thing... playing games, cutting out the sex, banning any kind of sexual conversation, and flaking on me 3 times, is not the way to deal with it..

If she had spoke to me, then i would have heard her out.. i would have explained to her that right now I do not want a RS but maybe in the future it could happen..

Oh well over done with now... feel like i dodged a bullet here!
I like how you handled that, instead of ghosting you were upfront with her. You didn't owe her that but no one likes to wonder where they went wrong and sometimes it's useful to get feedback that can be used in future dating endeavours.



Thanks for sharing :)
 

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You don't need gut instincts on this one. She waves more than enough red flags to know you're sticking your chorizo in crazy. Yes, good sex is hard to walk away from, but its never worth your sanity.

As much as you might not want to admit it, you have a lot to learn, as to do I. You sound a little confused, weak and maybe a caught a little feelings for her. The constant threads you're posting proves it.

In no way trying to diss you here mate, just don't want to see you go thru the same cycle as that last 50yo bar sloot. I myself am probably the weakest dude on this forum to have put up with my ex for as long as I did, and Im paying the price for it.

Take it from me, just delete her from your life and move on. At least you had some good sex right?



Because she can smell weakness in you thats why. You should not be surprised nor confused by her actions. She sounds Cluster B or just a flat out wacko sloot.

Shes in your head big time. Stop trying to understand her, simply don't play and walk away.

Yes mate, the GUT instinct is usually always right.. Ignore it at your peril.

I just knew something did not feel right with her, so had to NUKE it..

I think if she had spoke to me at some point, then I would have considered what she had to say to me.

Instead she chose to take a more manipulative route, that didn't sit well with me!
 

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I like how you handled that, instead of ghosting you were upfront with her. You didn't owe her that but no one likes to wonder where they went wrong and sometimes it's useful to get feedback that can be used in future dating endeavours.



Thanks for sharing :)

I was in two minds.. I was actually thinking about just GHOSTING..

But i knew her hamster would spin, and she would ring, text etc.. and I may end up talking to the sloot again!

Letting her know that I was done was the best option!

I feel a little bad about it, but at the end of the day...

This is a POF chick, who came straight to my house and fuked me within an hour..

You cannot RS girls like that.. unless you want to be fuked over later down the line..

Was damn crazy sex tho lol
 

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I felt somewhat GUILTY last night for dropping her.. at the end of the day she wanted to be treated like a GF like most woman do.. and she wanted to be loved and effection.

But i believe she tried to get this MORE COMMITMENT out of me by going the wrong way about it..

Sending me a meme that, was pretty much a threat did not help her cause.

IF THEY MISS YOU, THEY'LL CALL.. IF THEY WANT YOU, THEY WILL SAY IT.. IF THEY CARE THEY WILL SHOW IT.. AND IF NOT, THEY ARE NOT WORTH YOUR TIME..

Flaking on me 3 times did not help.

Witholding sex and a complete ban on sex talk all together seriously messed up her cause.

Using manipulation and controling sex is not going to make a man feel like, YES I NEED TO COMMIT TO THIS GIRL.

It just shows what possible dangers are ahead... if you make the mistake of commiting to her.

I believe if she spoke to me and communicated in an adult manor, then I would have listened to her needs, and what she wanted out of me...

But she chose the road of manipulation instead.

Dude99 always promotes, only upgrade girls to GF status if they are proving themselves consistently.

In this case, i believe she failed..
 

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Why would she even think i would give her GF status?

I mean she even expressed a desire for upto 4 guys to tie her up and use her, abuse her sexualy at the same time? LOL

She later backed out doing it few weeks down the line.. and said she only wants to fuk me.. but the desire was still there!

She mentioned once to, bring one of my friends over to fuk her lol both of us at the same time.

I was only seeing her 2 months or so.. even in a normal situation, that is too soon to start talking about commitment.
 
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