Is It Time To Drop This Plate? 3 flakes

[soulforge]

You'll never be drama free with her.

Your right sazc.. that chick blows hot and cold.. she doesn't have control over her feelings..

Or she enjoys playing games..

I can either pull her into my frame (sex only) or she can walk

 

[soulforge]

You'll never be drama free with her.

I think you are right here sazc.. i'm gona block and delete.. as this girl is all about games, control

And using sex as a currency!

 

[stovepipe]

The issue clearly here is, that she is trying to control the sex.. and is flaking because of that too

If tell her straight up, that is all she will get from me..


She can either accept that... or just Fuk Off


I aint wasting time on no chick, who isn't giving me all the sex I want..

And i don't want to be begging for it either

You can't make a chick give you all the sex you want, its a two way road. There is so many red flags that going and staying NC seems like the best option.

This b!ch is all about control thru sex. Once they give it to you for a little while, the flip swtiches and they without hold to try and get what they want. Why play her game when she obviously has nothing to lose.

These types are pros at what they do and most men bow down when good sex is at play. When you stop playing their mask slips and their true self is exposed. After what you went thru with that bar sloot, save yourself the drama and toss this dirty b!ch to the curb. Its obvious shes starting to get in your head.

 

[soulforge]

You can't make a chick give you all the sex you want, its a two way road. There is so many red flags that going and staying NC seems like the best option.

This b!ch is all about control thru sex. Once they give it to you for a little while, the flip swtiches and they without hold to try and get what they want. Why play her game when she obviously has nothing to lose.

These types are pros at what they do and most men bow down when good sex is at play. When you stop playing their mask slips and their true self is exposed. After what you went thru with that bar sloot, save yourself the drama and toss this dirty b!ch to the curb. Its obvious shes starting to get in your head.

Will this is why I have completely ignored her, even tho she has asked me to meet her next weekend.

She has turned the sex vibe, into all about power and control..

The sex should be coming free and easy, not turning into a fuking drama...

Will continue with full NC...

 

[bigneil]

My last girl flaked 1 out of every 6 dates, like clockwork (which came out to once a month, nearly always on the same day of the month ironically).

I realized that the more dates we had, the more flakes we had, but it was a consistent percentage of 83% success, 17% failure (which corresponds to that time of the month for 5 out of 30 days). Based on our sex life, this percentage works.

Thus, I suggest men normalize (i.e., tolerate) a 1/6 flake rate as the norm. Meanwhile, my flake rate was 1/18 (3 times more consistent, which seems to also make sense).

 

[soulforge]

My last girl flaked 1 out of every 6 dates, like clockwork (which came out to once a month, nearly always on the same day of the month ironically).

I realized that the more dates we had, the more flakes we had, but it was a consistent percentage of 83% success, 17% failure (which corresponds to that time of the month for 5 out of 30 days). Based on our sex life, this percentage works.

Thus, I suggest men normalize (i.e., tolerate) a 1/6 flake rate as the norm. Meanwhile, my flake rate was 1/18 (3 times more consistent, which seems to also make sense).

I kind of agree with this Niel.. the odd flake is to be expected.. chit just comes up sometimes when people have busy lives.. no point getting butt hurt about it.

I think 3 flakes in a row, and on short notice is a bit much tho.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

If she says she is happy with my terms, then we can get back to getting freaky..

If she declines, or pulls away... fuk her, block, delete and move on.

I have a couple of dates lined up, so another plate could be on the horizon

You don't have to tell her. Just don't talk to her till she's acting right. She obvious loves your attention. She is just trying to get it for free without putting out. She know what she's doing. Doesn't need to be said.

 

[soulforge]

You don't have to tell her. Just don't talk to her till she's acting right. She obvious loves your attention. She is just trying to get it for free without putting out. She know what she's doing. Doesn't need to be said.

I just can't be bothered with her man... she wants to meet me next weekend, but I cannot be bothered responding to her..

If I agree to meet her, it will probably be more games and BS future down the line..

Best spare myself the grief.

 

[finality]

Haha let's put some money on this finality? All texts and 3 calls have been ignored tonight.. got other potentials on the horizon.

I will gladly prove you wrong lol

Nope. You will be back. You are already contemplating what to say next. Not that I'm any better.. I've been in the NC thread of YEARS and still haven't walked away for good.

 

[soulforge]

Nope. You will be back. You are already contemplating what to say next. Not that I'm any better.. I've been in the NC thread of YEARS and still haven't walked away for good.

I already know what to say next... NOTHING

 

[wifehunter]

ok so i already posted about this chick yesterday

around 2 weeks ago, she flaked on a date last minute, her excuse that she had to look after, her niece first thing in the morning.

Last Monday she flaked again, because she said, she has to rush off for work in the morning, and wanted to spend more time with me,

so she suggested meeting this coming Saturday.. now she has messaged me, to say that she may have to work Saturday night, but she will try to get out of it, if she can.

I can sense another flake on the horizon.. that will be 3 flakes.. to me this is not acceptable, and a complete waste of my time.

this is the same plate, who has been pushing for more than just sex from me, also some game playing, and hot/cold behaviour..

if she does not meet me tonight, my plan is to AVOID making a big deal, and the just ghost her..

what do you think guys? 3 flakes in a short period of time is too many!

possible another dog in the yard too

 

[EyeBRollin]

My last girl flaked 1 out of every 6 dates, like clockwork (which came out to once a month, nearly always on the same day of the month ironically).

I realized that the more dates we had, the more flakes we had, but it was a consistent percentage of 83% success, 17% failure (which corresponds to that time of the month for 5 out of 30 days). Based on our sex life, this percentage works.

Thus, I suggest men normalize (i.e., tolerate) a 1/6 flake rate as the norm. Meanwhile, my flake rate was 1/18 (3 times more consistent, which seems to also make sense).

No. Interested women do not flake.

It's not a flake if she counter offers. No counter offer means she doesn't care. Stop tolerating flakes.

 

[soulforge]

No. Interested women do not flake.

It's not a flake if she counter offers. No counter offer means she doesn't care. Stop tolerating flakes.

It wasn't a full on flake.. she messaged me, to say she may not be able to make it, because she has to work late.. she said she will try get out of it..

But I knew she would flake (gut instinct) so I canceled the date, before she had the chance..

Later it emerges that she was in fact going to flake.. she mentioned something not wanting to have sex, only cuddles! Wtf

She is using the withdrawl of sex as a tool, to get me to maybe commit more, or to be loving and caring to her..

Anyhow i have NC since that day... she sent a counter offer this morning to meet up next week... i have ignored her

 

[EyeBRollin]

Anyhow i have NC since that day... she sent a counter offer this morning to meet up next week... i have ignored her

That's not a counter offer. A counter offer is when she's about to break the date.

You're at best, an option for her. Don't ignore her. Tell her to come over. If she says anything other than yes, tell her to hit you up when she's ready to come.

Leave your ego out of negotiation. Either lay out the terms so she can submit or just block her. Don't be so emotional.

 

[soulforge]

That's not a counter offer. A counter offer is when she's about to break the date.

You're at best, an option for her. Don't ignore her. Tell her to come over. If she says anything other than yes, tell her to hit you up when she's ready to come.

Leave your ego out of negotiation. Either lay out the terms so she can submit or just block her. Don't be so emotional.

She couldn't counter offer because i canceled the date.. i already layed out the terms to her...

I just cannot be bothered with her games now

 

[soulforge]

That's not a counter offer. A counter offer is when she's about to break the date.

You're at best, an option for her. Don't ignore her. Tell her to come over. If she says anything other than yes, tell her to hit you up when she's ready to come.

Leave your ego out of negotiation. Either lay out the terms so she can submit or just block her. Don't be so emotional.

She offered to come down today, but in her text she put, No Sex only cuddling..

Again controling the sex.. she later apologised for what she said.. I couldn't be bothered even replying

 

[mrgoodstuff]

She offered to come down today, but in her text she put, No Sex only cuddling..

Again controling the sex.. she later apologised for what she said.. I couldn't be bothered even replying

Since you got nothing to lose. Tell her not to play around anymore. You may cuddle her after sex. But if she don't wanna be physical don't bother coming.

 

[soulforge]

Since you got nothing to lose. Tell her not to play around anymore. You may cuddle her after sex. But if she don't wanna be physical don't bother coming.

She already gets the odd cuddle man.. I don't just jizz all over this girls face, then kick her out lol..

Have taken her out quite a few times.. she just wants to control the frame, buy holding back the sex, or not making it so easily available.

It's her way of getting me to treat her like a GF

I've made it clear to her, if you want come over to chill and sex that is fine.. i,m not looking for a relationship right now.

She can take it.. or leave it

 

[mrgoodstuff]

She already gets the odd cuddle man.. I don't just jizz all over this girls face, then kick her out lol..

Have taken her out quite a few times.. she just wants to control the frame, buy holding back the sex, or not making it so easily available.

It's her way of getting me to treat her like a GF

I've made it clear to her, if you want come over to chill and sex that is fine.. i,m not looking for a relationship right now.

She can take it.. or leave it

Lol. She's trying to make you her cuddler

 

[EyeBRollin]

She offered to come down today, but in her text she put, No Sex only cuddling..

That's a **** test and you failed. Don't take what she says literally. Let her come over.