HB widow?

[Fruitbat]

Just reflecting....a plate once told me she had figured out what biologically drove her choice in partner for years...got the impression she felt like she unplugged from the matrix.

Alpha widow you say! Quite. However, I had a look at my own life:

-Spent years with a complete b1tch who was MILES below me as a person but a bit hotter.
- Spent the following years chasing instagram sloots and being fvcked over and laughed at, and played.
- Always went for the pretty girl all other men are chasing.

So, what on earth am I then?

Over the last year, I've had enough of them. Usually, the hotter,the prettier, the more entitled, the less they've developed character. Also, the less they need you, the more options, the more disposable you are. The more pressured to live up to her ideals...etc.

Now, I genuinely feel a little contempt for these HB9+ waving their fanny everywhere. I deliberately ignore, I don't want them. I want a woman who I will be a catch for....and some of the stuff on here about dating 9s etc....well, a 9 in my book is highly attractive with all the baggage that comes with that.

So, I am not sure I agree with "well, you've dates *******s so you deserve loneliness.." That's kind of what I did. Could this be more that she has come to the same conculsion as me? Does alpha widow neccesarily mean that she will stray, eventually? Not sure whether I buy it.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I don't value looks as highly as most guys on here. Sex and overall devotion is much more important to me.

 

[Fruitbat]

I don't value looks as highly as most guys on here. Sex and overall devotion is much more important to me.

With your wife, I presume?

 

[Bible_Belt]

Yeah. I don't want kids. My current gf has had her tubes tied.

 

[Fruitbat]

Yeah. I don't want kids. My current gf has had her tubes tied.

Sex out of wedlock, tut tut!!

Just kidding bro.

 

[Fruitbat]

I made this same thread years ago about a similar girl. Turns out it was very misguided.

Turns out, just because they cognitively understand what has happened doesnt mean they have fully internalized it, or truly believe it. They are still that 20yr old party girl when it comes to entitlement. They are not content with settling, even though logically they know they have to and often will.

Whether this also applies to you as a man, I don't know. Maybe it does, maybe you won't be able to be content with someone of higher character. IME I have improved so much that its not an issue really, because the women increase in looks AND character as I continue to date(although more difficult bc they have more options the higher I climb).

Character increases as looks decrease.

Looks are either genetic, in which case there is zero chance she has anything but a princess in the core.

If they are through effort, gym....you know that inner princess is trying to get out and win all the boys.

Some girls never really cared about looks. Some can still be pretty.

Every one of my guy friends who had a lot of options tend to have not really worked on themselves other than further things to add to their outward life. None of them have an inner life, none of them cope well in intellectual discussions. I am in to this kind of thing.

Plus, I suppose we don't know theirs either. I think I am a 6 or 7 in looks. I'm tall and broad shouldered. Perhaps that makes me an 8 or a 9 for some girls by default. Plus, I am pretty good with talk and pretty bright and well-read. I am assuming all women want men who are MMA fighters, deep down.

I did want the nubile hottie but I don't anymore, I've been burned and will not go back. I never met a decent woman like this.