How To deal With A Flakey Plate?

[soulforge]

Long story short, she wanted to come over to my house tonight for secs.. she is off work for a week, so she kept telling me she wants to come over for regular secs, as much as possible.. and how horny she is..

we arranged for tonight... then she starts dropping hints about having to leave early from my house, in order to look after her niece.

then she tells me, if she can come over next week (Friday) instead, so she can pick her niece up...

something's that are not making sense here...

01. Why leave it so late in the day to flake, I could have made other plans?

02. Why then did she want to rearrange for Friday, when she is free on Wednesday, Thursday and Friday, why leave it that late (especially with her being so horny)

03. Why should I rearrange another date on her chosen day?

04. Should I only meet her on my chosen day, so she realises flaking means, no longer able to see me when she wants?

what's your opinion guy?

 

[soulforge]

how do you get across, that flaking isn't cool?

 

[wifehunter]

how do you get across, that flaking isn't cool?

Walk away! She'll get the message.

 

[Julian]

Just play it cool bro and yea friday works


Then just go normal. Who cares man...u shoild have backup chicks on deck anyway stop relying on one

 

[devilkingx2]

a girl who is flakey isn't at all interested nor is she worth your time

 

[dude99]

Long story short, she wanted to come over to my house tonight for secs.. she is off work for a week, so she kept telling me she wants to come over for regular secs, as much as possible.. and how horny she is..

we arranged for tonight... then she starts dropping hints about having to leave early from my house, in order to look after her niece.

then she tells me, if she can come over next week (Friday) instead, so she can pick her niece up...

something's that are not making sense here...

01. Why leave it so late in the day to flake, I could have made other plans?

02. Why then did she want to rearrange for Friday, when she is free on Wednesday, Thursday and Friday, why leave it that late (especially with her being so horny)

03. Why should I rearrange another date on her chosen day?

04. Should I only meet her on my chosen day, so she realises flaking means, no longer able to see me when she wants?

what's your opinion guy?

She is trying to control the situation. If you have plans made and she tries to get you to change them last minute you simply say "that doesn't work for me. I already have plans. Next week then." Then you leave her be intil next week.

You lead. You take charge. They follow. If you don't they will try to control things and then you wind up with a chick like your last one.

 

[soulforge]

Whats fuked me off is I double checked With her and she said she was good to meet, then flaked last minute..

I don't see why I should re arrange for a day that suites her, after she has not taken my precious time into consideration..

I don't want to give the message out, that flaking on me is fine..

 

[soulforge]

She is trying to control the situation. If you have plans made and she tries to get you to change them last minute you simply say "that doesn't work for me. I already have plans. Next week then." Then you leave her be intil next week.

You lead. You take charge. They follow. If you don't they will try to control things and then you wind up with a chick like your last one.

She is expecting me to meet her next friday now, on her suggested day..

I will inform her I am busy on that day and will re arrange on my terms..

If she plays up, plays games, I will walk away.. More trouble than its worth.

I,m quite angry about it.. I let her know that she should have informed me sooner..

I don't want to make a big fuss, as she will think I am butthurt about it.

So as dude said, it my way or she can walk

 

[finality]

Don't call her out on it.. its not going to do anything positive for raising attraction for you.

Possibly another guy in the equation..or maybe she just isn't in to you all that much.. or maybe some other stuff came up. Who cares.

Go about your regular business.

 

[finality]

She is expecting me to meet her next friday now, on her suggested day..

I will inform her I am busy on that day and will re arrange on my terms..

If she plays up, plays games, I will walk away.. More trouble than its worth.

I,m quite angry about it.. I let her know that she should have informed me sooner..

I don't want to make a big fuss, as she will think I am butthurt about it.

So as dude said, it my way or she can walk

Mistake in my opinion. Women don't care about logic (she should've informed you earlier). Best way to punish her is distance yourself but pretend everything if fine. Complaining is just showing her overtly that you care and she can piss you off.

 

[soulforge]

Don't call her out on it.. its not going to do anything positive for raising attraction for you.

Possibly another guy in the equation..or maybe she just isn't in to you all that much.. or maybe some other stuff came up. Who cares.

Go about your regular business.

Mistake in my opinion. Women don't care about logic (she should've informed you earlier). Best way to punish her is distance yourself but pretend everything if fine. Complaining is just showing her overtly that you care and she can piss you off.

This is what i will do... no complaining, or coming across butt hurt.. will play it cool like its not a problem...

Will also distance myself, and only see her on my terms...

Friday i will let her down, and meet her on my chosen day one day next week...

She needs to appreciate my time is valuable... if this continues then NEXT

Could be another guy in the picture... who cares, she is a fuking pof girl..

Dime to a dozen!

 

[soulforge]

This is how i responded...

Me - Should have let me know a little earlier, but its cool not a problem.

Have played it down... could be another guy in the picture...

She is now sending me pics of sexy underwear, more thank likely trying to keep me hooked..

I intend to distance myself from her, and only meet her on my terms, or she can fuk off...

 

[Solomon]

The best way IME to combat flaking is to have other girls on deck, this is the only way to truly have abundance mentality

 

[wifehunter]

Sh1t test, possibly, to see how you react.

 

[SeymourCake]

Next them. No time for mind games.

 

[stovepipe]

I don't see why I should re arrange for a day that suites her, after she has not taken my precious time into consideration..

I don't want to give the message out, that flaking on me is fine..

Then don't! Leave her b and she will get the message not to fkn waste your time.

 

[soulforge]

The best way IME to combat flaking is to have other girls on deck, this is the only way to truly have abundance mentality

That would be great man, but it's not long since i come out of a LTR so i am currently working on that..

I this one plate, who flaked on me tonight.. I have another plate, but she is long distance, i only see her once every two or so..

Still working on more plates... worse thing is, I was horny as fuk today.. haha

Its weird, she has a week off work, she kept asking me that she wants to spend as much of it as possible coming over for secs...

She then flakes, and wants to re arrange for next week..

Something does not add up, she has all this week free...

Possibly another dog in the yard lol... fuk her, will distance myself and just **** her on my terms only...

If she walks, then her loss!!

 

[soulforge]

Sh1t test, possibly, to see how you react.

Well all i did was say, you should have let me know sooner.. but it's cool, its not a problem..

Didn't really kick off about it.. bich is ringing me now, as she knows she has done fuked up...

So just gona act like nothing is up... and keep distance, till she gets the fuking message...

Missed out on a gym session because of this Cu@t

 

[dude99]

She is expecting me to meet her next friday now, on her suggested day..

I will inform her I am busy on that day and will re arrange on my terms..

If she plays up, plays games, I will walk away.. More trouble than its worth.

I,m quite angry about it.. I let her know that she should have informed me sooner..

I don't want to make a big fuss, as she will think I am butthurt about it.

So as dude said, it my way or she can walk

Don't be upset. Just take charge.

"Your change isn't good for me. Next time."

Then leave it for a week and contact her when you would normally see her.

Getting upset is falling into her games and chit testing. If you take charge she will realise she can't chit test you. Right now she is stretching the boundaries too see what she can get away with

 

[finality]

That would be great man, but it's not long since i come out of a LTR so i am currently working on that..

I this one plate, who flaked on me tonight.. I have another plate, but she is long distance, i only see her once every two or so..

Still working on more plates... worse thing is, I was horny as fuk today.. haha

Its weird, she has a week off work, she kept asking me that she wants to spend as much of it as possible coming over for secs...

She then flakes, and wants to re arrange for next week..

Something does not add up, she has all this week free...

Possibly another dog in the yard lol... fuk her, will distance myself and just **** her on my terms only...

If she walks, then her loss!!

She has you rattled man. Do you really care if another guy is in the picture? If you do then walk.. ignore her for weeks until you truly don't care. If you stay with her.. even if its non-exclusive it sounds like she is going to mess with you emotionally.

ALWAYS LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. Your gut says something is up! PEACE OF MIND IS EVERYTHING.

NEXT HER.