Article: Women are Burning Out from their Mental Load

[Desdinova]

Had this one show up on Facebook...

http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/ho...t/news-story/3ba7224a3a7db39a61fbdf096fff7465

It basically talks about women doing all the housework and men doing "nothing". Here is their final solution:

4. Stop stepping in to make life more comfortable for others. If something doesn’t affect you (or a young child) directly, don’t do it. Instead of constantly organising and reminding, it’s more effective to let people feel the effects of their own behaviour (missed appointments, late fines etc.). Endure the mild discomfort while they have the dignity of learning for themselves.

So what's the purpose of having a woman around? To make things more difficult for her warrior and her protector? To be the beneficiary of his credit card and his sperm?

And finally, when your partner does star taking responsibility for a new area, let them work it out on their own. Resist the urge to criticise or “rescue”. And while they’re figuring it out, grab a book, turn on Netflix, leave the house without giving instructions. Switch off and let someone else figure it out. And repeat.

It's no wonder that marriages and relationships fail with advice like this. "If he doesn't do what you expect him to, then abandon him". This kind of a mentality is exactly what caused my marriage to fail. She demanded things, and then abandoned the whole situation.

Oh, and the comment from this woman!

The one reason I live alone. Won't be any man's housekeeper again. I told my ex not to assume I would do something. He did. Came home from work and sat on the lounge, just like him. After a few glances my way, he tentatively asked "what's for dinner". My reply was I don't know, I'm not cooking. He got up and cooked himself.

Maybe you live alone because you refused to work together as a team. If you're wanting help in the kitchen, then get him to participate in making dinner instead of leaving him to fend for himself. Abandoning a responsibility is only going to cause problems and make the relationship fail.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

The world is in a weird place. On one level, there's a contest to see who the best victim is.

And the bar is also being constantly lowered to what constitutes "news worthy behavior."

There was a story about this family in the airport, about how they were such an "awesome family." But all they were doing is watching their kids like parents are supposed to.

Everybody wants a medal these days for doing what's expected, AND they are hyper sensitive to anything they can spin to the "I'm a victim give me props for putting up with it " angle.

Reminds me of Chris Rock's famous routine.

"I take care of my kids!"

"You're SUPPOSED to you ignorant mother fvcker!"

 

[sazc]

The article is basically saying "dont communicate, retaliate" That is exactly what kills a relationship.

This is where I think premarital counseling is necessary. This is the kind of stuff that is brought up in premarital counseling. Kids, money, discipline, chores, expectations in bed, in the home, socially, etc. Seems to me like people these days DONT discuss the difficult issues because they are afraid to argue or dont want to see the cracks and real incompatibility in the relationship. They want to exist in the Disney fairy tale. talking about the hard things exposes the real compatibility of the two people. If they can successfully communicate and compromise to make the relationship good.

 

[dustmuffin]

With this mindset why do I need a woman? I do all of the outside chores and fix broken things inside. This is never noticed by the victim women that want me to wash the dishes and vacuum.

I think I will just use them for sex and entertainment. I don't want to put up with thier s hit.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Imagine substituting housework for money, and man with woman in this article and pushing it out to the snowflake cucky feminist world..

Men, tired of her not paying? Just stop doing it and forget your wallet at home.

A female I know complained about a guy who by the 3rd date wasn't dressed to the 9's and left his wallet at home. I figured he wasn't cool with her assuming he had to always pay and was cool dropping off at that point.

 

[Fruitbat]

My personal experience notes that most women in relationships have a very defined view of "how thing should be". They often have high demands on the home...we need a new this. We need to get this. This is filthy, it needs to be cleaned. The kettle needs descaling every 4 weeks, there's a mark on the firdge, it needs to go etc etc. Very good and finding jobs that need doing, then when these are delegated and a man says "hang on, I don't care....if it's an issue, feel free to do it". then it's "you won't help me". Well, if you didn't spend your time thinking of all the things that need doing, perhaps we'd have more time to enjoy each other. I used to get a list of jobs...go out and buy this, etc etc. How did they cope alone?

Not all, but most women have an inbuilt assumption that what they feel "needs doing" is the ultimate, non-negotiable truth....."Men! What would they know.....I'm sat here busting my balls creating demands and work for him, and he has the cheek to question it....and he answers back when I give him an order"

TV etc has projected this image and women seem to fundamentally believe that their desires are unquestionably correct, and the right thing.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

The horror... the horror!

 

[wifehunter]

The first thing the U.S. Army does to secure an area, is setup communication (radios, etc.) It is MISSION CRITICAL!!!

 

[Fruitbat]

it’s more effective to let people feel the effects of their own behaviour

How about women who have children irresponsibly with unsuitable fathers?
What about dressing in a g string and passing out in an alleyway?
How about dating violent kickboxers and dangerous men?
How about leaving a career to have kids and expecting equal pay on returning?


The utter cheek of a feminist saying this.

 

[The Duke]

Women weren't happy when they were house wives in 1950. Then we gave them rights so they could flourish and live life how they see fit. They got their equality and still weren't happy. So they got special treatments, programs and no fault divorces and took even more. They bought their own houses, own cars, road the cahk carousel and They still aren't happy.

Whats that's say about women?

 

[resilient]

Still has low IL.

The first thing the U.S. Army does to secure an area, is setup communication (radios, etc.) It is MISSION CRITICAL!!!

Communication, what's that? (meanwhile, lays in bed after the kids woke up early, couch, kitchen counter, etc. and hits up social media for attention)

 

[Who Dares Win]

Let the cats attend the chores

 

[exhausted]

Had this one show up on Facebook...

http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/ho...t/news-story/3ba7224a3a7db39a61fbdf096fff7465

It basically talks about women doing all the housework and men doing "nothing". Here is their final solution:

4. Stop stepping in to make life more comfortable for others. If something doesn’t affect you (or a young child) directly, don’t do it. Instead of constantly organising and reminding, it’s more effective to let people feel the effects of their own behaviour (missed appointments, late fines etc.). Endure the mild discomfort while they have the dignity of learning for themselves.

So what's the purpose of having a woman around? To make things more difficult for her warrior and her protector? To be the beneficiary of his credit card and his sperm?

And finally, when your partner does star taking responsibility for a new area, let them work it out on their own. Resist the urge to criticise or “rescue”. And while they’re figuring it out, grab a book, turn on Netflix, leave the house without giving instructions. Switch off and let someone else figure it out. And repeat.

It's no wonder that marriages and relationships fail with advice like this. "If he doesn't do what you expect him to, then abandon him". This kind of a mentality is exactly what caused my marriage to fail. She demanded things, and then abandoned the whole situation.

Oh, and the comment from this woman!

The one reason I live alone. Won't be any man's housekeeper again. I told my ex not to assume I would do something. He did. Came home from work and sat on the lounge, just like him. After a few glances my way, he tentatively asked "what's for dinner". My reply was I don't know, I'm not cooking. He got up and cooked himself.

Maybe you live alone because you refused to work together as a team. If you're wanting help in the kitchen, then get him to participate in making dinner instead of leaving him to fend for himself. Abandoning a responsibility is only going to cause problems and make the relationship fail.

This is crazy talk to me i must be out of my mind. I raised a kid entirely on my own and put myself thro college doing it, live in my own home and do and pay everything on my own , my son is 18 now and ive been thro about 18 girls over the years and yet to meet more than 2 that weren't worthless LAZY ****ing princesses that offer nothing and just take take take while giving nothing.

They act like this is 1945 when women were badass caregivers and mothers, not today's worthless female that does NOTHING

Fuxk the feminist cvnt fukn fake movement.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Women weren't happy when they were house wives in 1950. Then we gave them rights so they could flourish and live life how they see fit. They got their equality and still weren't happy. So they got special treatments, programs and no fault divorces and took even more. They bought their own houses, own cars, road the cahk carousel and They still aren't happy.

Whats that's say about women?

They want and want and want. If a man allows she will cuck him into a corner and diminish all of his pride, esteem and masculinity. They wants whats theirs and whats ours, all of it.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

it’s more effective to let people feel the effects of their own behaviour

How about women who have children irresponsibly with unsuitable fathers?
What about dressing in a g string and passing out in an alleyway?
How about dating violent kickboxers and dangerous men?
How about leaving a career to have kids and expecting equal pay on returning?


The utter cheek of a feminist saying this.

Let them suffer the consequences for their decisions

 

[exhausted]

Let them suffer the consequences for their decisions

Yep but they FEEL like they dont deserve consequences. Todays princess entitled cvnts do what they want and refise to aknowledge consequences. It is absurd

 

[AJ84]

With this mindset why do I need a woman? I do all of the outside chores and fix broken things inside. This is never noticed by the victim women that want me to wash the dishes and vacuum.

I think I will just use them for sex and entertainment. I don't want to put up with thier s hit.

This is one article with bad advice and does not reflect what women in general think. Not all women have this attitude.

 

[sazc]

This is one article with bad advice and does not reflect what women in general think. Not all women have this attitude.

TONS of women have this attitude. And, apparently, now they are being coached to be openly resentful in their relationships, and the bitter ones will latch on.

 

[AJ84]

But not all. The article is a horrible one. Communication is key. If a woman is going to stew and go silent and do nothing around the house rather than ask for help, then clearly she is not ready to be in a marriage. Marriage requires team work, compromise, and communication. I think in this me first age many people want all the benefits of a relationship without considering the needs and desires of the other person. Some women want the man to work like a dog, pay the bills, maintain the home while she sits and looks pretty, like that's all she needs to do. Some guys want a housewife porn star who will put out on demand and have no independent thoughts or desires of her own.

There are still normal people out there, women who are not self entitled princesses and men who actually see women as something other than a warm hole, but you won't likely find them on tinder, Instagram, in night clubs etc.

 

[sazc]

But not all. The article is a horrible one. Communication is key. If a woman is going to stew and go silent and do nothing around the house rather than ask for help, then clearly she is not ready to be in a marriage. Marriage requires team work, compromise, and communication. I think in this me first age many people want all the benefits of a relationship without considering the needs and desires of the other person. Some women want the man to work like a dog, pay the bills, maintain the home while she sits and looks pretty, like that's all she needs to do. Some guys want a housewife porn star who will put out on demand and have no independent thoughts or desires of her own.

There are still normal people out there, women who are not self entitled princesses and men who actually see women as something other than a warm hole, but you won't likely find them on tinder, Instagram, in night clubs etc.

Normal people are few and far between. $hit, when I look around at all my married neighbors, I can't pick one couple who function in the ideal manner that you describe. Even when one person is determined to be communicative, the other person still has to buy in. It's more likely than not that passive aggressiveness and retaliation are going to occur