Girl mad at me because i couldnt hang with her last night

[Infern0]

This is HB8 who is a bit of a wild one.

Last night at the LAST MINUTE she asks me to go to a party with her thats on my street.

I had a night planned with the boys, so i said i cant and you should have asked me earlier.

So she texts me at 11 saying can she come see me, im like sure.

She walks up drunk and i did notice her phone screensaver is a picture of me and her.

Anyway shes like please come to the party and i said no i cant, i do want to see you but you have to give me notice anyway she goes back.

She messages me saying "sad you wont make time to see me"

I counter with "when are you free next week"

Seen

Then this morning she messaged "weak effort"

I said i told you last night i want to see you but we need to plan in advance

She goes

"So i need to make an appointment, whatever"

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Maybe if you leave her alone, she will get back to you. But I don't know, that's never happened to me.

I don't think you even need to be on this forum.

Perhaps you should set up your own dating guide and sell it to guys that think they can have success like you.

 

[sazc]

This girl is ****ed up

run forrest, run

 

[RichardTheFrog]

run forrest, run

Why? Is she hot? Just **** her whenever you want to and wear a condom if she's not on birth control. There are millions of guys who would kill to have sex with her and you get to for free.

Do you know how many nasty prostitutes I've ****ed in my life? Just be glad you can get girls like this and have fun with it. It's not like you have to marry her.

 

[Infern0]

This girl is ****ed up

Yeah.

I was trying to work out how to keep it casual and easy with her but i dont even think thats going to work.

Shame cos she does it for me but oh well

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Bah, that's easy bro. You know that all you gotta do is just stand your ground and stick to your guns about how you already had plans to begin with. She'll come around eventually.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

I once dated a girl that was a bit similar, hot, fantastic in bed, but crazy. Once I got home before she was scheduled to come over, and I didn't feel like dealing with her. I called her and told her to cancel, but she showed up anyway. I told her again to leave, and she did, but not after pouting.

I just ignored her and let her work her issues out with herself.

I ended up seeing her for another month or so.

As far as OP's a general technique is to say "I understand [what she wants] and I [what you want]."

sad you wont make time to see me"

I understand and appreciated that you wanted to see me, and I'd already made plans. Do you want to make plans to get together next week or not?

Generally speaking, the less information you give the better. "I have plans" is enough if you are not exclusive.

 

[lizardking82]

Meh, this one is simple I'd say, but I will give my 2 cents since you probably just want the confirmation of the guys here: she's acting butthurt cause she cannot handle a real man acting like a real man. I say go ghost on her until she starts to behave. However, I doubt she will. This girl is probably not worth the drama at all.

 

[Thorninmyside]

"So i need to make an appointment, whatever"

"Well, yeah. That's what my friends did".

 

[RangerMIke]

It's better if a chick is mad at you then if she doesn't care. When women get like this, just treat her like a child, tell her "Come on, don't be like this....do you want to spend time with me or not... when are you free this week?" Then make a date, if she makes time. If not, or she flakes, move onto the next one.

 

[Infern0]

It's better if a chick is mad at you then if she doesn't care. When women get like this, just treat her like a child, tell her "Come on, don't be like this....do you want to spend time with me or not... when are you free this week?" Then make a date, if she makes time. If not, or she flakes, move onto the next one.

Mah having thought it over she can pound sand.

In the unlikely event she grows up ill consider things then

 

[The Duke]

She is emotional/insecure/immature/spoiled and used to having her way. Pretty typical hot girl behavior. Just ignore her words and don't buy into her power play. Schedule a date and go from there. She'll show up with bells on. Pound her brains out and keep doing it until she is too much hassle. And this one will certainly be a hassle.

 

[Trump]

Anyway shes like please come to the party and i said no i cant, i do want to see you but you have to give me notice anyway she goes back.

She messages me saying "sad you wont make time to see me"

I counter with "when are you free next week"

You played it well up until this point. You reacted to her here because you made you feel guilty. Never react to a women, it won't get you anywhere and she will retain the upper hand.

"Sad you make time to see me."
No response, 3 days later,
"Are you available Friday at 6 pm for xyz?"

Men, when you want to do something with a woman, have a goal in mind with a specific day and time in mind.

"When are you free next week" = "I am pretty open all week to be with you and hopefully get some sex from you."

 

[wifehunter]

Mah having thought it over she can pound sand.

In the unlikely event she grows up ill consider things then

Yeah, yeah, tell her to kick rocks!!

Then, read some books!

 

[Konada]

I would have gone silent after she texted "weak effort"

Any woman who begins to **** on your boundaries needs to get kicked to the curb

 

[Infern0]

I would have gone silent after she texted "weak effort"

Any woman who begins to **** on your boundaries needs to get kicked to the curb

yeah in looking back thats what i should have done

but oh well easy come easy go

 

[Initiatedindenial]

Women have a secret agenda, does she normally behave like this? If not there might be something behind.

Maybe she wanted to show you off to someone? Another possibility is that sje was testing your level of interest? Either way she is wrong and behaving like a brat, the "I need a date thing" is pure manipulation.

 

[Infern0]

Women have a secret agenda, does she normally behave like this? If not there might be something behind.

Maybe she wanted to show you off to someone? Another possibility is that sje was testing your level of interest? Either way she is wrong and behaving like a brat, the "I need a date thing" is pure manipulation.

I'm not too sure man

she is a ***** though, one of those girls where when its good its great but there's an equal downside. She KNOWS she's hot too.

i've seen her be cold hearted as hell to her ex, like next level.

so you have a hot 19 year old ***** who's only males she's had have been 18-19 year old AFC's encountering a 30 year old guy who knows a few things. She's not used to it, and probably assumed i would come running at the drop of a hat like all the other dudes.

I knew she'd turn at some point but i figured i could get a few months of fun time out of her before i had to exit, but the ***** seems to have triggered a lot sooner

 

[Milano]

We just have to realize that most pretty girls are monsters inside because we men are letting their ego grow. We have to stop this

 

[Initiatedindenial]

I'm not too sure man

she is a ***** though, one of those girls where when its good its great but there's an equal downside. She KNOWS she's hot too.

i've seen her be cold hearted as hell to her ex, like next level.

so you have a hot 19 year old ***** who's only males she's had have been 18-19 year old AFC's encountering a 30 year old guy who knows a few things. She's not used to it, and probably assumed i would come running at the drop of a hat like all the other dudes.

I knew she'd turn at some point but i figured i could get a few months of fun time out of her before i had to exit, but the ***** seems to have triggered a lot sooner

In my opinion you shouldn't have invites her so quickly, by doing that reinforced her Tantrum - reward behaviour.

Take a step back and see what happens, being 19 and that hot I wouldn't expect too much of it.