The Bitter End (Broke up with girlfriend)

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Well guys, on the exact 9 month anniversary of our first kiss, I ended my relationship today.

In the end we had perhaps the most remarkable game of cat and mouse ever played. I refused to budge. But a word of warning, just before the end I endured five sh!t tests in a row - the random no contact from her for a week test, the see if you'll change to a lunch date test, the see if I can have a curfew on our dinner date test, the "I'm in love with someone else" (her exact words) test, and finally the "I have to reschedule at the last minute" test.

I never cracked.

Granted, I had cancelled 5 straight dates in the last 10 days, so she might have been trying to get to me.

When she said she was in love I said "I'm so happy for you. I wish you all the best" and she said "Wait, aren't we still going out today?" She suddenly started gushing with romance, which had been mysteriously absent the past weeks. She admitted he is her age and they haven't had sex yet and the romance is only 7 days old. But then she tried to delay our date by a couple hours and I said goodbye.

In the end I went with my favorite final line when a girl leaves you: "I'm sorry to realize that you don't love me anymore, but you know I always loved you".

That was perhaps the best 9 months of my life. I have no regrets. But I must credit Listen to Olly, it looks like my girl left me for a guy her own age who lives in a (albeit non-frat) house with 5 people who she knew since age 12.

Ironically, yesterday I told her that she had some unresolved high school issues she needed to iron out, and that she needed someone her own age. We did both agree today that with her being 21 our only hope is that she dates other guys but calls me in a year and says she misses me.

Ok guys, I'll take my lumps now.
 
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I am glad you posted this but not glad it happened to you.
 

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"The future's uncertain and the end is always near. Let it roll, baby roll...." Jim.

More important question....what's on the wine menu tonight?

May I recommend, even though it's summer, a Châtuex Neuf du Pape...
to spice the blood on a hot summer's night....
 

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I am glad you posted this but not glad it happened to you.
You guys have had to choke down enough good that I feel you deserve hearing my share of bad. I have to stay honest.

Ironically, I felt as close to her today as ever. I have a feeling she will be back.

Today when she originally ended it I asked the (hot female) bartender (who met her) "Tell me about the last time you ended things with a guy who was in love with you" and she said "I needed to get a restraining order". I followed with "So you almost need to go through a breakup to really know a guy" and she said "I hadn't thought of it that way, but that's so true!"

Just then (following my well wishes for her new love) my girl was saying "Can I still see you today??" It does seem curious for her to say "I'm in love with" (someone I met last week who I haven't had sex with). That sounds like an amateur move SS members wouldn't even try. As I said, I had cancelled every date the last 2 weeks so either I was intuitive, or she is miffed, or both. They say a flash of resentment is a sure sign of enslavement. As Coach Corey Wayne says, "there is a 97% chance the new guy will mess up royally". This is especially true once she stops being so in love with him and puts him through a test. Every guy is smooth when the girl is head over heels, but wait until she gets moody and you see his true colors. See if he handles it as gracefully as I did.

To be continued...
 

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Eyyyyy, @bigneil is ready to party!!! Look out DJs, hide yo wives, hide yo kids.

 

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Well, I'm glad that there was no negative drama that went down. Sounds like she's just too young to realize....a lot of things....
 

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Takes a big man to post something like this. No lumps to give on my end.
 

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I date younger girls too, as you know. I'm 40 as of last week and most average of 10 yrs younger than me.

You enjoyed the ride and understood that the ride with younger women always comes to an end.

Hopefully you have a batter on deck because they are now up to bat. Good luck
 
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Hey so how do you feel like right about now?
When I got stuck in Atlanta traffic for 2 hours, after about 1 hour I had a little cry. It was 2 parts traffic, 1 part her. Ever notice how a really hard cry feels like a really hard laugh? I think they both relieve stress. There have only been 4 girls to make me cry this decade so I give her credit.

She sent a long text but I didn't read it yet. I feel good because she went back to being romantic today. As of today, our first and last dates we made love. No friend dates, thank you.

I think she might be mad that I made her submit in a big way last time. I realized all of her attempts of testing me were forms of submission that I refused. As Robert Greene says in Art of Seduction: beware the after effects of a successful seduction.
 

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This just came on Neil Radio (10,000 song random play) but says it all:


The time has come to reach a new realization 'tween me and you
Time to clear the rumors sensations and things that just are untrue.
Well I thought I heard you behind me
With a knife straight for my back.
It's quite clear that I'm back in the swing of living
Although I might not be on the right track.
Oh thought I might drown but its hard to be givin'.
Downtown's where's you'll find me do some and got a hand.
Although I never listen girl, I damn well understand.
And you think, I'm so damn feeble.
I can see through your lies, you're just a crock of ****,
With a pretty smile, and I refuse to compromise.
Oh, don't give me such a heavy, heavy, heavy load
You may hold some vision of truth, if truth can found in a lie
 

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Read the message and delete it. Don't try reasoning with the mind of a woman her age....you know this.

Go find the new contestants. Tomorrow starts today.
 

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Mate inevitable and well handled. You've both enjoyed what each other has to offer. I'm amazed she didn't do your head in earlier. You've got better tolerance than me. You're a solid operator so no need to say much. Only thing I would say is look to your routines. If Tuesday night is gym night keep that up. If Friday night is random night go do something random. Another thing that helps me avoid 1 itis after a break-up is I try and pick up girls who are completely different to her in looks. Your last girl was a tall leggy Blonde so target Arab girls, Thai girls, whatever is different and available in your area.
 

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Read the message and delete it. Don't try reasoning with the mind of a woman her age....you know this.

Go find the new contestants. Tomorrow starts today.
When we break up with a girl, we need to remember: how much credit do we get to say "Hey everyone, I f*cked her again!". You either f*cked her or you didn't. Again doesn't mean much.
 

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Isn't this the same girl that went on a vacation, came back and told you she was fvcking someone else the whole time?

She's a stripper which means she's constantly seeking male attention and validation.

Just as she cheated on you, so will she cheat on the next chump that tries to wife her.

Be glad. You dodged a bullet with her.
 

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This is the best and saddest (warning: Country) breakup song. Ronnie Milsap - I Wouldn't Have Missed it for the World.

 

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Isn't this the same girl that went on a vacation, came back and told you she was fvcking someone else the whole time?

She's a stripper which means she's constantly seeking male attention and validation.
The whole time? The whole 48 hours? No, that wasn't cheating less than 2 months after I started dating her. That was December 2. Today (June 23) she said that was the last time she was with anyone else besides me (I can send a screenshot). She hasn't confessed to sleeping with this new person. But if you know 21 year old women, 1 new guy every 6 months is a good deal. That was 6.8 months ago. How faithful do you think I can get HB9 21 year old women to be?
 
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