Never had a date 26 y.o.

[Victor C]

Hi everyone.
I'm 26 year old IT guy. Just wanted to be successful at school, then at university. Had no time for romantic games (let's be honest, that is not the actual reason). Girls are cool and interesting, but in intellectual and esthetic way. That is how I get used to think about it. Now I feel it is about time to start acting. I learned some theory, and had some practice, which gives me not that much disappointment that one could expect. But I have never reached first date (working on it) and I never kissed a girl. Really never. It makes me feel uncomfortable. Please give me any advice. I don't really have a female friend to ask such things. Only colleagues, who will probably keep my secret, but it looks a bit complicated for me to work with people knowing this part of my personal life.
It would be also funny to read your comments about how stupid I was/am. That will probably give me some additional motivation. So feel free, I'm thankful for it.

 

[bigneil]

Go to a few strip clubs, find a girl you really like, and tell her you will pay her whatever she makes in an average night (it's around $600) to go out to dinner with you. Tell her dress up, pay her in advance when you meet her, and spend a few hours together. She will show you a good time, trust me, it's a lot easier than her normal night. Go on a few dates with her (she will lower the price if she likes you) or find some other girls. This will give you some experience at least. They will usually kiss you goodnight. If not, ask her to help you adjust your image. This way, you take your problem with women and turn it into a problem with money: the amount of money indicates how far off you are. You will naturally adjust yourself based on the feedback she gives you.

 

[Mike32ct]

I don't really have a female friend to ask such things. Only colleagues, who will probably keep my secret, but it looks a bit complicated for me to work with people knowing this part of my personal life.
It would be also funny to read your comments about how stupid I was/am. That will probably give me some additional motivation. So feel free, I'm thankful for it.

Please don't say a word about this to ANY of your colleagues. I'm speaking from experience. They cannot and will not keep it a secret. It will become workplace gossip and used to make fun of you behind your back. Your situation is not uncommon, but coworkers don't need to know.

 

[Dingo]

Go read The Book of Pook.... It might be a bit "advanced" for you but will give you a better understanding of women... They are not scary mysterious mythical creatures....

 

[Dingo]

Here you go... Easy read...

https://bookofpook.neocities.org/#ch-1

 

[cola]

Go to a few strip clubs, find a girl you really like, and tell her you will pay her whatever she makes in an average night (it's around $600) to go out to dinner with you.

This is retard advice.

First off the average stripper does not make even close $600 a night.
Only the hottest of the hot can make 600 in a night and furthermore Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays are slow at strip clubs..
They only make good money Thursday - Saturday and Sunday during football season.

Second of all lf you are going to patronize a sex worker and spend $600 fuck going on a date or throwing it at some washed up stripper.
For $600 you can have a three some with two sexy ass hookers..

But don't do that either.
Dating is simple.
Go on an action date..
Bowling, skating, amusement park ..

Touch on her but not too much.
Grab her hand crossing the street.
Guide her by her back as you lead her through a crowd..then as the date goes on get more touchy.
Hug her and squeeze her booty,
Touch on her thighs as your sitting

Just keep escalating till you get sexual.
Always attempt sex. I don't care how "good girl" you think she is. If its too soon she will forgive you but their is no forgiveness for being a p*ssy ..

If you need more detailed advice pm me

 

[Dingo]

Solid advise ^^^^...

 

[wifehunter]

Go read The Book of Pook.... It might be a bit "advanced" for you but will give you a better understanding of women... They are not scary mysterious mythical creatures....

Only the witches, b!tches, and hags fall into the scary catagory.

 

[Masculinity]

Hi everyone.
I'm 26 year old IT guy. Just wanted to be successful at school, then at university. Had no time for romantic games (let's be honest, that is not the actual reason). Girls are cool and interesting, but in intellectual and esthetic way. That is how I get used to think about it. Now I feel it is about time to start acting. I learned some theory, and had some practice, which gives me not that much disappointment that one could expect. But I have never reached first date (working on it) and I never kissed a girl. Really never. It makes me feel uncomfortable. Please give me any advice. I don't really have a female friend to ask such things. Only colleagues, who will probably keep my secret, but it looks a bit complicated for me to work with people knowing this part of my personal life.
It would be also funny to read your comments about how stupid I was/am. That will probably give me some additional motivation. So feel free, I'm thankful for it.

I agree with the other guys; don't tell any female friends about your inexperience or you'll be labeled the nice 26-year-old virgin. You need a wingman. We have a whole section of the forum dedicated to meeting other DJs. I have done it myself and it's powerful. Check it out.

 

[corrector]

Just see if there are any matchmaking services which allow for blind dates, or introductions.

 

[corrector]

This is retard advice.

Second of all lf you are going to patronize a sex worker and spend $600 fuck going on a date or throwing it at some washed up stripper.
For $600 you can have a three some with two sexy ass hookers..

OP: Do do your due diligence and check out escort reviews or listen to your gut-intuition before doing anything since you got allot of bait & switches, rush scams (i.e. promises an hour but gives you 15 minutes, etc...) likely out there. While many cases may be YMMV (i.e. depends on your personal chemistry, on how she treats you), at least you want to avoid the obvious scams if there is an alert out to any particular escort. Also if you are black or have black some then be particularly wary since many of these escorts have a "no black men" on their ads and if you get in trouble with the police they'll likely put you into jail because of the colour of your skin and wont bother prosecuting white offenders.

 

[btownbuck2012]

The good news is that at the age of 26 thing are just barely getting started for you in terms of your potential as a man, including your romantic life. Don't buy into this "you're past your best years" crap. That's women trying to make guys feel bad for realizing their potential saying that kind of stuff. Same thing with teachers at your high school who tell you that high school years are the best years of your life. That's loser talk from loser people who didn't do anything with their lives.

26 is still WAY WAY WAY young for a guy. I'm only 27 myself. It's great that you took care of your college education first man. That is super important and will pay off down the road. You've got plenty of time to catch up in the dating game.

 

[Milano]

This is retard advice.

First off the average stripper does not make even close $600 a night.
Only the hottest of the hot can make 600 in a night and furthermore Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays are slow at strip clubs..
They only make good money Thursday - Saturday and Sunday during football season.

Second of all lf you are going to patronize a sex worker and spend $600 fuck going on a date or throwing it at some washed up stripper.
For $600 you can have a three some with two sexy ass hookers..

But don't do that either.
Dating is simple.
Go on an action date..
Bowling, skating, amusement park ..

Touch on her but not too much.
Grab her hand crossing the street.
Guide her by her back as you lead her through a crowd..then as the date goes on get more touchy.
Hug her and squeeze her booty,
Touch on her thighs as your sitting

Just keep escalating till you get sexual.
Always attempt sex. I don't care how "good girl" you think she is. If its too soon she will forgive you but their is no forgiveness for being a p*ssy ..

If you need more detailed advice pm me

I like your kino advice, think I fuked up on dates right there, playing it safe and waiting for the kiss till the end like a fagg0t

 

[Milano]

Honestly, I would advertise the f*ck out of this, rather than try to keep it on the down-low. You'd be surprised at how many women out there would be interested in the challenge of breaking or re-molding a 26 year old V.

I was the 26 year old virgin and from what my first real girlfriend told me at that time was that she first was shocked and then she became horny by being the first to fuk me. I think this only works if you fool someone by playing ****y and in your element all the way up till the sex part, then you tell her, instead of carrying that burden by pretending to be a casanova when you dont know what you are doing at all. We worked together and had the same humour so to her I probably seemed ****y when deep down I was a scared sht thinking about fuking her for the first time.

 

[Initiatedindenial]

First work on how you look, women are as shallow as men are, what are the first thing that you notice on a girl? Yeah, you got the idea.

Second, work into how you interact with women, if you are all scared and coy around women start to interact with them. Make girl friends, talk to them, learn to joke with them, learn to challenge them on their bs. Learn how they communicate interest (Women are a very interesting animal to study, you should enjoy this)

Third, educate yourself, dating and relationship is a wild World, if you are not prepared someone is going to chew you and spit you out in a heart beat. This forum is helpful, other interesting topics might be body language and art of seduction.

But nothing beats practice, eventually you will have to grow a pair and start dating, which means exposing yourself to rejection, hurt feelings and hopefully STI.

 

[RedZone]

To start, it's not bad to try online dating site. Maybe you won't even go on a date with them, but at least you will be interacting with girls even if its just online. Hey, its a step in the right direction.

As said earlier, girls aren't a mythical creature out of the Odyssey. They want the same thing we want even if they don't show it as much as men. The most important thing to do on date, when go on one is to slowly touch/kino. When I liking girls I never did that. That's why I was always thought of as just a friend. don't be afraid to touch, otherwise they will never view you as a love interst.

 

[peterm]

Victor, I understand your position, but it is never late for girls, if you ask me, you should just go out more and everything will happen spontaneously sooner or later, believe me, you will find some girl or some girl will find you.

 

[Victor C]

Thank you all for reply. I did not expect to find such a community in Internet.
Actually I got some new ideas for me like:
- that can be solved with money
- it may actually be an asset, not actual problem
I'm reading Book of Pook. That is how I have found this place.
I'm actually happy with choices I made. One usually can not have everything at once (except a genius with good social skills) and should prioritize things and invest time and effort accordingly. I also see my life is better than a year before. 2015 is better than 2014, 2016 is better than 2015, and 2017 is awesome. "Best years" trash seems a bit weak and lazy for me, but who knows.
I'm also getting advice from my female colleagues. They probably know about my inexperience because it is not that easy to hide, but we did not discussed it aloud and I'm happy about it.
There are also things I didn't mention (and probably on purpose).
I live in Kiev, that is Eastern Europe, in post soviet state. Cultural background may be a bit different from western civilization (but everyone watches american movies/series).
I actually believe in all that stuff about Jesus sacrificed himself for human sins. I'm not sure that everything works as jews decided few thousand years ago, followed by greeks and Roman Empire, but message is clear to not live for own pleasure.
What I know for sure love does not work as described in classical literature. No need in poetry and killing dragons. It seems disappointing and interesting at the same time.

 

[btownbuck2012]

their is no forgiveness for being a p*ssy ..

Probably some of the most succinct good advice on this forum. Even out of the context of this thread, this is something always to remember when dealing with women.

Is it right? no. Is it fair? no. Is it the way of the world? absolutely.

 

[btownbuck2012]

Honestly, I would advertise the f*ck out of this, rather than try to keep it on the down-low. You'd be surprised at how many women out there would be interested in the challenge of breaking or re-molding a 26 year old V.

Yeah this might work in terms of him just getting laid, but I would never want to start out with a woman under that type of frame, therefore I wouldn't advertise it.