Question how to handle lier/cheater

[finality]

- dated 6 months
- had a bad gut feeling last week
- lied about where she was going last night
- called at night.. she didnt pick up
- she texted me saying she was busy with friend
- called her literally 1 second after she texted and she didnt pick up

dont trust her anymore as my gut has always been right in the past

Do I just NC or do I confront her on her BS and then say its over

Either way its done.

 

[The Duke]

She is no longer interested but isn't going to tell you. I hate how women handle situations like this, but its who they are. Forget about this one. Just ignore her and never speak to her again...that's the ultimate kick to their ego.

 

[wifehunter]

Plates

 

[finality]

Plates down the line, yes. But right now was just looking for best way to handle current situation. I was tempted to text her last night "hope it was worth it" and then ghost forever after that but I held off.

She has some stuff at my house that she will need to pick up.

I'm pretty rattled.. work will be tough today.

 

[wifehunter]

Plates down the line, yes. But right now was just looking for best way to handle current situation. I was tempted to text her last night "hope it was worth it" and then ghost forever after that but I held off.

She has some stuff at my house that she will need to pick up.

I'm pretty rattled.. work will be tough today.

Forget her

 

[lizardking82]

Avoid confrontation, you will not get what you expect. Tell her you need to think some things over and that you will take a break. That will **** with her head. She's not worth it, she's either lost interest or she's just dishonest.

 

[RangerMIke]

She's losing interest... nothing you can do to fix this. Just mirror her behavior and date other chicks. When dating a chick is no longer fun... and it doesn't sound like you are having 'fun' anymore, then just let her drift off. This happens to me all the time, it's just how chicks are... nothing we can do about it except load up another one.

 

[finality]

Some more into....

We had a argument 3 weeks ago and she said "maybe i should go".. i didnt stop her and made she she left nothing in my house behind. We were planning on moving in together.

I reingagte contact 3-4 days after that and asked to see her a couple times but she was distant, didnt respond to text, made up excuses to hang out.

She texted few days ago.. asked to come see me and I agreed. She spent the night at mt place then when I was at work she said she got a text from her boss asking her to do a rig in.. she works on rigs at EMT.

My gut went crazy at this time.. she had the key to my place so I told her she would need to drop it off to me before she goes. I told myself that it would be easy to tell if she was actually going to work because she would be dressed a certain way and if she was all dolled up it would be obvious that she wasnt going to work.

Sure enough I ask if she is going.. she reponds 30 minutes later that she tried calling 5 times but I didn't get a single call go through.. she said she left my key on my car tire.lol

So i told myself I would call her after work and if she doesn't pick up then she is obviously not where she said she is..

called her.. she didnt pick up but texted saying she is with someone at work.. called her 1 second after that and she didnt pick up again.

She texts me at 8am saying hope you slept well.

Signs are all there. Feeling pretty ****ty

 

[lizardking82]

Some more into....

We had a argument 3 weeks ago and she said "maybe i should go".. i didnt stop her and made she she left nothing in my house behind. We were planning on moving in together.

I reingagte contact 3-4 days after that and asked to see her a couple times but she was distant, didnt respond to text, made up excuses to hang out.

She texted few days ago.. asked to come see me and I agreed. She spent the night at mt place then when I was at work she said she got a text from her boss asking her to do a rig in.. she works on rigs at EMT.

My gut went crazy at this time.. she had the key to my place so I told her she would need to drop it off to me before she goes. I told myself that it would be easy to tell if she was actually going to work because she would be dressed a certain way and if she was all dolled up it would be obvious that she wasnt going to work.

Sure enough I ask if she is going.. she reponds 30 minutes later that she tried calling 5 times but I didn't get a single call go through.. she said she left my key on my car tire.lol

So i told myself I would call her after work and if she doesn't pick up then she is obviously not where she said she is..

called her.. she didnt pick up but texted saying she is with someone at work.. called her 1 second after that and she didnt pick up again.

She texts me at 8am saying hope you slept well.

Signs are all there. Feeling pretty ****ty

Distance from her, man. Distance. You are not thinking straight. I know how hard it is, trust me. Probably a lot more guys here know, too. Stay away from her, look inside yourself.

 

[icantgetlaid]

Be indifferent. Have an abundance mentality.

If the sex is good, and she's entertaining to be around, demote her to plate status and carry on like you haven't noticed her behavior. Like everything is fine. Just start dating/spinning plates (her included).

 

[Reykhel]

She is no longer interested but isn't going to tell you. I hate how women handle situations like this, but its who they are.

True that. The meaning is in the message. If she cared enough to tell you she would tell you, but she doesn't care any
more (or never did enough anyway) so she doesn't feel it necessary to tell you....

In my opinion it never does any good to confront.

Yeah just like telling Castro that you don't agree with his politics......what does he care.

 

[sazc]

IMO first thing you do is nothing.
Remember, when in doubt, when you're are really angry, when emotions are running high, when you are conflicted, even sometimes when you are really happy (aka Tom Cruise couch) do nothing.

Wait, wait, wait until you have a firm grip on yourself and feel even keel emotionally.

Now is the time to go NC. Collect yourself. Don't call, text, email, respond to calls texts emails.

You will know when you are emotionally ready to deal with this with clarity, and you will know what you want to do. When will that be? You will know. Just hang on until that day. You will know when that day arrives.

She doesn't need her stuff right now and she isn't going to die for lack of contact or this left at your house.

NC. Give yourself time and space to grieve and get back to emotional stability. Them deal with it.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

Like everyone else said, avoid any sort of confrontation or even the appearance of it. Not texting the stuff you wanted to last night was a good move; do not give in to that urge.

Stop all communication and let her hamster spin instead. If she comes over to pick her stuff up on the curb at the street, do not be around. Don't give in to any sort of plea for "closure" either. Closure is a term invented by women for the purposes of exiting a relationship that puts them on some sort of a high ground, either moral high ground or ego stroking or giving her the chance to be the person calling the shots to end everything or dumping you.

 

[fafo]

Man, I know how you feel.
I ended a relationship like yours 10 days ago.
My situation was a bit different but the chick still disrespected me thinking about another dude and staying with me only because the other one wasn't in her trap.
I took the things in my hands and threw her out in the middle of the night.
It was the best thing to do because every time you see her you will think about if she is doing something and what behind your back and won't trust her even a little.
I still missed her for a couple of days(or her company more likely) but I have no doubt that this was the right thing to do.
I think you can do the same. If you miss the bangin you can leave her for FWB but that's your descision.