Enjoy a relationship while it lasts

[ThisNThat]

Though there are some here that would just prefer to sleep with multiple women, some would want marriage...while others...are in the middle...they get into a relationship...and this is probably a BIG portion of the pie...relationships that last a few months to a handful of years.

Granted they are monogamous, but there comes a time where a woman usually wants to part ways as it's the women who usually are the one's that initiate the break up.

This post was influenced by a 5 year couple that were nicely matched. Major outdoor enthusiasts in their 50s. Both in great shape for their age. Traveled a lot together. One day she just ended it, he didn't want it to end, but word has it she just wanted to go back to being single...and traveling alone (does a lot of traveling)

Though it was hard on him, I'm thinking, "Hey, don't be sad because it's over, smile because it happened." Or at least be sad for a time.

And, as a man, one should probably go into a relationship with this possibly happening to you one day.

And if we're talking sex, I mean, at least you're not sleeping with multiple partners and had one sexual partner, repeatedly for a long period of time, right? That's all some guys ask for.

 

[Plums]

It's sad because more often or not its a case of thinking the grass is greener. She didn't have to end the relationship because she wanted to travel alone. She is probably trying to regain her lost youth because so much emphasis is placed on youth in our society and age is seen in such a negative way.
We will all get old some day. Growing old with a person you love, trust and have grown devoted to must be superior to the roller-coaster of dating and failed relationship attempts. But so many don't see it. SAD.

 

[ThisNThat]

It's sad because more often or not its a case of thinking the grass is greener. She didn't have to end the relationship because she wanted to travel alone. She is probably trying to regain her lost youth because so much emphasis is placed on youth in our society and age is seen in such a negative way.
We will all get old some day. Growing old with a person you love, trust and have grown devoted to must be superior to the roller-coaster of dating and failed relationship attempts. But so many don't see it. SAD.

I know, it is sad that one may have to roll over and come to terms that relationships do not last and it's not a "Disney movie" or "June Cleaver" situation anymore...I have a friend of mine that said that not ALL people are that bad and I have friends that are in happy marriages. But some (even those on here) that have reconciled to the point that, "Meh, you'll get dumped because they got tired of you like a popular product." or "You did something to make her loose interest." or some crap like that.

People who have been hopeful for life partners in their 20s, maybe early 30s are embittered or at least jaded to the point where they believe in saying, "Just be prepared to walk away".

 

[Julian]

all relationships have expiration dates

 

[resilient]

I've noticed a trend that relationships that are created in the last few years are much different than the ones that were created <2010. The ones that are created more recently are more expendable. People typically don't wait after a few dates or a few months to extend the relationship lifeline to 6-12 months and then reevaluate. People ghost. Next. LJBF when a better plate/branch presents itself.

A few observations:

1) Increased options on OLD and social media are hitting them up left and right so there much more dating opportunities with higher interest level.

2) Values of time investment have changed (think of long-term employment, employers don't give a fvck of how long you've been with them today, all they care about is what you're doing for them in the present.

3) Real-time SMV is constantly being reevaluated or pitted against other orbiters and branches for long-term providing potential.

 

[The Duke]

I've noticed a trend that relationships that are created in the last few years are much different than the ones that were created <2010. The ones that are created more recently are more expendable. People typically don't wait after a few dates or a few months to extend the relationship lifeline to 6-12 months and then reevaluate. People ghost. Next. LJBF when a better plate/branch presents itself.

A few observations:

1) Increased options on OLD and social media are hitting them up left and right so there much more dating opportunities with higher interest level.

2) Values of time investment have changed (think of long-term employment, employers don't give a fvck of how long you've been with them today, all they care about is what you're doing for them in the present.

3) Real-time SMV is constantly being reevaluated or pitted against other orbiters and branches for long-term providing potential.

We are a throw-a-way society. We don't fix or repair anything anymore(including relationships).....just throw it away and get a new one when it quits working. Repairs skills(problem solving) are not valued.

If you want a new car because yours left you stranded...its a mouse click away. They even have new car vending machines now. If a girl wants a new boyfriend because he didn't lick the kitty the right way last night....a new one is just a mouse click away.

What people fail to see is you are just trading one problem for another.

 

[Initiatedindenial]

If a girl wants a new boyfriend because he didn't lick the kitty the right way last night....a new one is just a mouse click away.

LOL

 

[resilient]

Options empower self-entitlement mentality. Can we blame them though? Think of it this way, if you're a DJ with an iron frame, solid game, high SMV with the ability to drop and pick up plates on a whim would you be willing to do road-side maintenance on a LTR once it hits a serious snag, diagnosis the issue, and fix it? Most wouldn't. They would forever spin plates with that abundance mentality. It changes the way you think and approach relationships.

From a humble perspective, I don't have those features listed beginning of this post yet, so I'm more inclined to do the repair on the LTR.

Besides options, if our needs are not getting met and they have been communicated with the partner without a willingness to address them, people naturally gravitate to the next salesman with a solid pitch.

The allure of attraction is so strong that it's so often an easier process to initiate since we live in that throw-away culture that doesn't value commitment like it used to.

Our genes, our body, our desires get caught up in the fantasy and seduction that it often overpowers motor control over our rational thoughts (i.e. serious red flags ignored, the sweep it under the rug thinking). A bumrush of neurochemicals that tap our ingrained biological desire to procreate for survival: "I really shouldn't cheat or damn... I love my gf/wife, but this girl in front of me RIGHT NOW is so tempting and so hot... She wants the D. I just got to have one taste."

"Typical" roadside maintenance of an LTR would require:

1) introspective thinking
2) self-improvement (mentally and physically)
3) interpersonal communication
4) individual/couples counselor to facilitate the repair work needed
5) renewed dating/gaming of the partner
6) spicing up the bedroom activity

 

[Red Legg]

I've noticed a trend that relationships that are created in the last few years are much different than the ones that were created <2010. The ones that are created more recently are more expendable. People typically don't wait after a few dates or a few months to extend the relationship lifeline to 6-12 months and then reevaluate. People ghost. Next. LJBF when a better plate/branch presents itself.

A few observations:

1) Increased options on OLD and social media are hitting them up left and right so there much more dating opportunities with higher interest level.

2) Values of time investment have changed (think of long-term employment, employers don't give a fvck of how long you've been with them today, all they care about is what you're doing for them in the present.

3) Real-time SMV is constantly being reevaluated or pitted against other orbiters and branches for long-term providing potential.

Nothing has changed,I am doing better now than I ever had,all you have to do is rise above all the needy,impatient,cry-baby millennials,a very easy task IF you have read the Book of Pook.