Need help guys, she's gone cold

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

Too much texting from you early on. Nothing runs a woman who is deciding how much she likes you off faster than over accessibility.

Be ambiguous. Less contact means she is more willing to dedicate her time to you.

I do think a man should initiate...that is part of leading & making your interest known...but be spare in your communication.

Send a text once every few days. If she responds have a short convo. Then bolt. Long running conversations are for established friends/lovers, family & etc. Familiarity too soon kills interest level. So the effective route is sparingly reaching out. If she pings you? Short convo...ask her out...peace out.

Make her have a date to get the pleasure of your company. Too much text is just cheap attention with no result for you.

Agree this cake is baked. Apply advice to next babe.

 

[Bingo-Player]

you know how many times ive read/heard this type of story over the years ?

it happens EVERY fvcking day and its because women have too many options available

YOU constantly have to be at the top of these options or you get tossed aside simple as that , granted some chicks have less options than others but even the 5/6's will have them

you get to the top by being the best and not allowing any of the fvcking nonsense she presents you with to budge you

even if that means sticking the middle finger up to her and walking away , at least it will serve you in good stead for the next one that comes along

realise that women are merciless in dating and NEVER exchange a part of your demeanour for a woman

hope this helps

 

[RangerMIke]

Attractive women have plenty of options. You can not spend too much time worrying about what any one chick does, do what they do and keep your options open... until she is begging you for exclusivity, you should assume she's gaming you along with a string of dudes. You do the same and don't get emotionally invested in chicks that are not invested in you.

I see posts like this frequently from men whose chicks run hot and cold. This is not new. It happens to ALL OF US... My advice to any guy this happens to is always the same:

It does not matter WHY this happens. It could be anything... you acted weak... there is another dude... her cat died... she has too many opinions... there is no chemistry.... etc, at. al. ad infinitum. We are men... we want to fix things... you can not fix things if you do not know the problem, that's why we ask these questions, but with women trying to figure out what is wrong is a complete waste of time, because as soon as you think you have everything figured out, your chick... who is like a feather in an emotional windstorm... is being driven by something completely different.

With women, only thing that is important to know is that she, at that moment, has low interest in you... What ever is going on in her life at that moment is more important than you. You are not the center of the universe and she should NOT be the center of yours. Date lots of women, and let them worry about if they like you. If they don't... no problem, load up the next one.

 

[Glassguy]

I've had 2 dates in the last 12 months that the chicks went cold on me after good first dates and feeling that their interest was sky high. On both of these dates I failed to escalate because I thought I didnt need to based on their interest. Both were drinking dates and I only gave them hugs at the end even though they were lingering around waiting for more to happen. I thought being a gentleman was the more appealing move to make when in all actuality, I should have escalated.

Lesson learned. I now make my sexual interest well known on dates if I am attracted to them sexually.

 

[ThisNThat]

Bro so I read this a couple of times and now let me give you the TRUTH....by detailing every single thing you did wrong. You ready? Here goes.....

YOU DID NOTHING WRONG

This is the nature of the market beast when you are dating women from Online Dating platforms like POF, OKC, Match, Tinder, etc. Some of the women on there will routinely do this to not just you, but many guys on there, just for the fvcking fun of it.

It's almost sociopathic in a way....but the girl will literally give you something resembling the "girlfriend experience" where you have an awesome date, you kiss, you cuddle, you fvck or you damn near fvck, and afterwards you guys text about how great the time was.

Then the bytch will DISAPPEAR or flat out FALL OFF of communication.

It is nothing that you did wrong bro, you just have some women on OLD who like doing this shyt. It's fun to them.

I've had this happen TONS of times and the only time this shyt happens is with some women from OLD. This never happens with a woman that I meet off OLD. Basically non-OLD women, if you have a great date with them where you're kissing, cuddling, fvcking or damn near about to fvck......that bytch isn't going to just fall the fvck off the planet unless you do some MAJOR "fvck" shyt to make her to do.

Agreed...esp. when someone has reached an app that's so instantly, but temporarily satisfying as Tinder, it turns into online dating addiction and when she's had her "fix", she moves on to the next guy that's packed along with other men in her inbox.

 

[ThisNThat]

...also, the notion that one could consider that "maybe he should have banged her in the mall parking lot" to keep her interest...I mean, really..what are we animals? If she cannot wait until a more appropriate time...then she's not worth "banging" anyhow.

My last girl I dated, we just kissed on a first date, no making out. But 2nd date...huge makeout session.

 

[Tenacity]

...also, the notion that one could consider that "maybe he should have banged her in the mall parking lot" to keep her interest...I mean, really..what are we animals?

It's just another attempt to find a way to blame the GUY in the situation. It's either:

- You called too soon
- You didn't call enough
- You texted too much
- You didn't text enough
- You're dyck was too big
- You're dyck wasn't big enough
- You didn't make enough money
- You made too much money
- Or (insert some other non-sense here)

Now.....it's you should have fvcked her in the middle of a fvcking MALL parking lot, so that the security riding around the fvcking MALL parking lot could catch you in the act, call the Cops, and SLAP you with indecent exposure.

The lengths these guys go, to AVOID calling women on the carpet or holding women accountable for shyt, is just unbelievable.

 

[ThisNThat]

It's just another attempt to find a way to blame the GUY in the situation. It's either:

- You called too soon
- You didn't call enough
- You texted too much
- You didn't text enough
- You're dyck was too big
- You're dyck wasn't big enough
- You didn't make enough money
- You made too much money
- Or (insert some other non-sense here)

Now.....it's you should have fvcked her in the middle of a fvcking MALL parking lot, so that the security riding around the fvcking MALL parking lot could catch you in the act, call the Cops, and SLAP you with indecent exposure.

The lengths these guys go, to AVOID calling women on the carpet or holding women accountable for shyt, is just unbelievable.

Lol, depending on how you answered, the advice given is always the opposite of what you just did.

 

[nismo-4]

It's just another attempt to find a way to blame the GUY in the situation. It's either:

- You called too soon
- You didn't call enough
- You texted too much
- You didn't text enough
- You're dyck was too big
- You're dyck wasn't big enough
- You didn't make enough money
- You made too much money
- Or (insert some other non-sense here)

Now.....it's you should have fvcked her in the middle of a fvcking MALL parking lot, so that the security riding around the fvcking MALL parking lot could catch you in the act, call the Cops, and SLAP you with indecent exposure.

The lengths these guys go, to AVOID calling women on the carpet or holding women accountable for shyt, is just unbelievable.

That's because it's often the guy's fault! He just failed at being at the top of her high score list. And it's ironic you didn't list being not attractive enough, or being too attractive.

The other thing is that the guy often does the pursuing, and all women have options.

Second place is first loser. You need to come in first. Unless you like losing out to Chad or Tyrone.

These days, I find myself bombing for indifference or not calling/ texting enough. When both parties fail to initiate, nobody wins.

We, as men, tend to overanalyze sh*t with women. What Fortune 500 company are you a f**kin' senior analyst for? None of them! Your ass don't get paid to overanalyze, so why the f**k do you do it with women? Do they make you any money? Do they help you further your career? Do they bring you elite contacts that get you job offers?

I didn't think so. Stories of the contrary are few and far in between.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

That's because it's often the guy's fault! He just failed at being at the top of her high score list. And it's ironic you didn't list being not attractive enough, or being too attractive.

The other thing is that the guy often does the pursuing, and all women have options.

Second place is first loser. You need to come in first. Unless you like losing out to Chad or Tyrone.

These days, I find myself bombing for indifference or not calling/ texting enough. When both parties fail to initiate, nobody wins.

We, as men, tend to overanalyze sh*t with women. What Fortune 500 company are you a f**kin' senior analyst for? None of them! Your ass don't get paid to overanalyze, so why the f**k do you do it with women? Do they make you any money? Do they help you further your career? Do they bring you elite contacts that get you job offers?

I didn't think so. Stories of the contrary are few and far in between.

Is it really his fault or is it a product of the system?

The system where even fat girls have endless options and think they're unicorns?

The system where men that build the infrastructure of society are looked down on?

The system of an impossible hypergamy standard?

What exactly is he to do?

 

[wifehunter]

That's because it's often the guy's fault! He just failed at being at the top of her high score list. And it's ironic you didn't list being not attractive enough, or being too attractive.

The other thing is that the guy often does the pursuing, and all women have options.

Second place is first loser. You need to come in first. Unless you like losing out to Chad or Tyrone.

These days, I find myself bombing for indifference or not calling/ texting enough. When both parties fail to initiate, nobody wins.

We, as men, tend to overanalyze sh*t with women. What Fortune 500 company are you a f**kin' senior analyst for? None of them! Your ass don't get paid to overanalyze, so why the f**k do you do it with women? Do they make you any money? Do they help you further your career? Do they bring you elite contacts that get you job offers?

I didn't think so. Stories of the contrary are few and far in between.

 

[SuckItUp]

Is it really his fault or is it a product of the system?

The system where even fat girls have endless options and think they're unicorns?

The system where men that build the infrastructure of society are looked down on?

The system of an impossible hypergamy standard?

What exactly is he to do?

Is it really his fault or is it a product of the system?

The system where even fat girls have endless options and think they're unicorns?

The system where men that build the infrastructure of society are looked down on?

The system of an impossible hypergamy standard?

What exactly is he to do?

You can either complain about the system or you can figure out how to take advantage of knowing how certain things work.

Fat girls have endless supply because guys give them value by chasing them in lieu of keeping their dignity.

The system was built to reward the men suitable to evolve the species.

It comes down to a choice and what you are willing to do to increase your odds.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

You can either complain about the system or you can figure out how to take advantage of knowing how certain things work.

Fat girls have endless supply because guys give them value by chasing them in lieu of keeping their dignity.

The system was built to reward the men suitable to evolve the species.

It comes down to a choice and what you are willing to do to increase your odds.

I know a cheat code. Have money.

And I really think the system was put in place so a bunch of dumb bitches could ***** about equality all day and they could try to do without men.

 

[SuckItUp]

I know a cheat code. Have money.

And I really think the system was put in place so a bunch of dumb bitches could ***** about equality all day and they could try to do without men.

The system is derived by the physiological imperative to continue the species. Women want to screw the men with the best genetic material.

The best is relative of course as it's not limited solely to physical appear but power, money, fame, etc.

 

[lizardking82]

The system is derived by the physiological imperative to continue the species. Women want to screw the men with the best genetic material.

The best is relative of course as it's not limited solely to physical appear but power, money, fame, etc.

The women always wanted to **** the best men genetically. But it's not as easy. In a lot of cases, what women consider as "good genes" is absolutely dogpile so in essence, a system built for women to screw the "best" men is one with many, many flaws.