So i spent considerable time around BPDs. I did a 12 week rotation in an outpatient psych clinic when i was in grad school. I didn't know much about BPD at the time. I also have an ex that has classic and severe BPD. There is one thing that i have noticed and it is bugging me. A poster made a thread about it a few years back and the thread didn't get taken seriously. But it should have.
I have noticed that these women only display BPD symptoms to certain people, and only in certain environments. My ex would never rage out against her emotionally abusive mother. She would stfu and take it. She has managed to hold a job for about 2 years now. She only rages out against males in her life and only on certain males. Mainly ex romantic partners. I have seen her act honorably towards other males like bosses, friends etc etc.
The patient in the clinic would be so sweet to me. We got along quite well. She would never rage with me. We would sit and talk ( her thoughts were tangental and flight of ideas at times) and she was decently well behaved. She only displayed cluster B symptoms like gas lighting and rage towards the physician and her husband who would come to visit.
This leads me to believe that these women can control their illness far more than we give them credit for. I think they just act out towards men that allow it. They are not afraid of the consequences with their bf's. With other people they still want their approval so they are on good behavior. I don't think they deserve as much sympathy as we give them. This not so much a mental issue but a behavioral one. I may be wrong but these are just preliminary thoughts.
I have noticed that these women only display BPD symptoms to certain people, and only in certain environments. My ex would never rage out against her emotionally abusive mother. She would stfu and take it. She has managed to hold a job for about 2 years now. She only rages out against males in her life and only on certain males. Mainly ex romantic partners. I have seen her act honorably towards other males like bosses, friends etc etc.
The patient in the clinic would be so sweet to me. We got along quite well. She would never rage with me. We would sit and talk ( her thoughts were tangental and flight of ideas at times) and she was decently well behaved. She only displayed cluster B symptoms like gas lighting and rage towards the physician and her husband who would come to visit.
This leads me to believe that these women can control their illness far more than we give them credit for. I think they just act out towards men that allow it. They are not afraid of the consequences with their bf's. With other people they still want their approval so they are on good behavior. I don't think they deserve as much sympathy as we give them. This not so much a mental issue but a behavioral one. I may be wrong but these are just preliminary thoughts.