Im a ***** (date story and reaction)

[Milano]

I am shocked at how my system has reacted these last couple of hours! I thought I had manned up.

I was on a good date that lasted for hours down the beach and on to a restaurant eventually kissing her goodbye. Lots of smiles and just a sweet girl. I was shocked at how sweet she seemed, she almost fooled me into believing she wasnt a hore like the rest.

Got home, mind u Im still doing nofap and on day 20 atm. Felt like bringing the big guns and asked for a movienight at my place the following day with me ordering food etc, thought at least she would try to negotiate with all that cuteness for hours on our date.

Havent heard from her in over 5 hours and its passed midnight here now. I know from reference experience on tinder etc that when they suddenly dont answer you in many hours its basically done. A woman always checks her phone when she is excited about someone.

I will give her till tomorrow evening before deleting her as my usual routine.

I guess the whole point of this thread was a cry out for some brohugs. I actually became very depressed when she didnt even answer and cant sleep, reminded me of my earlier Elliot Rodgers days in my early 20s, actually know and feel everything when I saw his utube videos, scary. (cant dodge the rodge!)

Wtf is wrong with me, a whole system breakdown because she tricked my red pill system into thinking blue pill for a second? This depressive evening struck me completely off guard! Fuk these hoes and their steroid lovers, almost fooled me for a second. Red....its red... Im back. A major relapse this evening, what a sad feeling to know this sht is still inside me. Im sorry men, the blue pill is hard to kill sometimes. Will try to get some shuteye. (I struggled with severe depression most of my 20s therefore also lost virginity at 26 if u didnt know my history. Several years I barely remember)

Thanks for reading guys, had to get this feeling/experience off my chest. On to the next one once again.

Feel free to lecture me

 

[cola]

Don't text first after a date.
Especially the same night.

 

[Mike32ct]

You tried. Don't worry about it man. In 2017, friendzone has reached a whole NEW level.

Back to Cola's point, I never found texting right after a date to work.

I also noticed that LONG dates aren't necessarily better. Often the opposite.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Felt like bringing the big guns and asked for a movienight at my place the following day with me ordering food etc, thought at least she would try to negotiate with all that cuteness for hours on our date.

The big guns you brought out were actually pee shooters. NEVER text with an invite to your house for the following day!?! WHAT....cringy worthy bro. Stop buying these b*tches free dinners! Killin me man.

 

[icantgetlaid]

You meet a uniquely beautiful girl that you sense you have a ton of chemistry with. She gives you ALL the positive signs of high interest during the date. You kiss close, lots of smiles, butterflies, etc. and you are positive it's mutual. You wake up the next day looking forward to exchanging texts/setting up another outing/etc. but then you never hear from her again. This scenario really burns the most.

My general feedback/advice after reading your post:

1. this stuff happens to the best DJs and is simply apart of the game; get used to it, or get used to settling.
2. end the 1st date sooner (~1 hour) especially after you feel her interest level is at its highest no matter how badly you want it to continue.
3. always let the girl text first after the date. it gives you invaluable information about her interest level. if you don't hear from her in a week or so it's a bad sign, but if you like her enough, it's worth it to try reaching out again before deleting/nexting.

p.s. spin plates

 

[shesabranchswinger]

Tender,POF any online dating in general is made for the intentions of going in with the pump and dump mentality in my opinion.

Why because almost every woman on there views it as a shopping experience and almost every woman is a shopaholic they can't stop at one pair of shoes they need a closet full of them. When they tell you what they want they may be telling the truth but that doesn't mean they want it with you. They have to try on every pair before they buy them.

So if you go on there looking for the blue pil dream 95% of the time your just another pair of her shoes wishing you were the only pair.

I may be the outlier her but I have never had a LTR (over a year) from OLD. There are to many options for the both of you at the first signs of oppositions or road bumps to call it off and be banging someone new online within days or weeks.

Most of my LTR'S came from friends, social circles or meetings them at a shared interest event etc...

Can a LTR happen from internet dating sure but you have to snatch her up within days of her being on there when she is not a repeat offender. Or some other circumstances similar. Once they shopped around a while they catch the bug and your just a customer to her. I mean how many times have you been dating a chick and she still has her profile up.

 

[icantgetlaid]

Agree with the post above.

The only girls that are loyal from OLD are the ones where your SMV is SIGNIFICANTLY higher than theirs; otherwise you are 100% interchangeable.

 

[Milano]

The big guns you brought out were actually pee shooters. NEVER text with an invite to your house for the following day!?! WHAT....cringy worthy bro. Stop buying these b*tches free dinners! Killin me man.

Cmon mayn, I would never pay for her dinner. Should have trusted my gut feeling overall

 

[Milano]

Agree with the post above.

The only girls that are loyal from OLD are the ones where your SMV is SIGNIFICANTLY higher than theirs; otherwise you are 100% interchangeable.

Sadly my experience too.

A part of me thought about letting her text me first, the other one knew she and I was both gonna travel in a months time, Im going to Texas and she Croatia then Vienna for a year, so I didnt feel like doing long patient game.

I took a big chance and thought it was about 50% when I invited her home. When we hugged and kissed it felt like she didnt wanna let go, I ended the date but I should have done it before to keep IL higher I agree. She was just so fuking sweet goddammit.

The weird thing is that this girl had bad pictures that made her look average from trips to africa with hipster style and clothes. When I finally meet her I see her SMV is at least 2 points higher and her eye contact and smiles are crazy. I guess I never thought a woman would look that much better in real life, I wasnt prepared for that.

Thanks for great replies