The problem does lay with men. Women will be what they have to be to get male attention. If men want to lay with sluts, they will end up with sluts. Until men learn self-respect. There is no chance for balance to ever be restored.
I respectfully have to disagree. I am speaking on behalf of the US, as I am not aware of the differences (if any) in the UK, however, here the female imperative has run a muck of "gender equality".
The term "gender equality" has turned into anything but equality. You hear about the 1 in 3 women are victims of domestic abuse, but never the 1 in 4 men. Oh no, that's a secret! So much of a secret that out of the 10,000 domestic abuse centers in the states only one accepts men. Equal? I think not.
But enough about that, let's address your statement in which I quoted. First off, all women are "sluts", however, some are to a lesser degree than others. Now, before you become offended, hear me out. Your [women in general] sexual market value or SMV is at peak from 18-25 years old. This is when you see most young women having children. During that time is when your sex partners (men) are at its highest. It's biology!
Your "job" as a woman is to advance the human race by selecting the best genes (i.e. Male with the most alpha traits) that you can. Now, it's in the males biology make up to advance the human race by spreading as much of his "seed" as possible.
This behavior is seen in the "lesser" primates as well. The Alpha male gorilla has his pick of females he wants to breed with. He chooses! This is "Mother Nature" at work. It's designed in the system that way, however, the human female does not like this idea. She wants to be the "selector", so she demonizes the system and makes monogamy priority.
There's one small problem with this... hypergamy! As stated, the female wants the best traits for her offspring, therefore she's always on the lookout for the "next best thing". I'm not saying she can't control herself, but she can and does cheat on the relationship (especially if she is in a relationship with a chump beta).
Ever notice how old couples seem to have a higher success rate in marriage? This is because women stayed home and took care of the house and children. They didn't go to work outside of the home. They had their place...sounds bad right? But marriages lasted longer.
Fast forward to modern day. Women are leaving the home more and more and divorced is at an all time high (here in the states). Coincidence? Not likely. Fact is, I personally know more women that cheat on their spouse than I do vise versa.
So you see, it's not a "self-respect" issue at all, but rather a hypergamy/female imperative issue. Don't get me wrong, I don't blame you or any other female, as I know you can't help it. I just accept it for what it is.