What does this say about her character?

[lizardking82]

It's not in my vocabulary, therefore for the sake of clear communication..............

Don't worry, no need.

Without trying to offend you (see the way I'm very kind to you by prefacing that for you......don't ask me to stick a smily face in though..) it would appear that you're operating from a feminine framework.

We were discussing an idea. I refuse to reply to you personalising the conversation. Being affected at different levels by a person or a thing not being in your life anymore is normal human behaviour related to childhood trauma mostly. This is neither feminine, nor masculine. It's human. Anyways

 

[Reykhel]

We were discussing an idea

Correct. For the sake of clear communication I asked you to define a term which is not in my vocabulary......
For some reason you refused. One can only assume you have some beta alpha sub communication issues going on there.

I refuse to reply to you personalising the conversation.

if you are operating from a feminized framework and fail to recognize that (rebound, LTR's, recovery, marriage etc) and you take
that personally.....that's on you. Again I sense some alpha beta sub communications going on with you....
Probably, emotional footprints from your childhood trauma with your father again. Reykhel states things matter of factly, you take
them personally......

This is neither feminine

So many social constructs are operating to serve the feminine imperative. No other reason.
Ergo, yes it is feminine.

C1 level comprehension not quite there yet......you're missing the finer points and taking things personal.

 

[lizardking82]

Correct. For the sake of clear communication I asked you to define a term which is not in my vocabulary......
For some reason you refused. One can only assume you have some beta alpha sub communication issues going on there.


if you are operating from a feminized framework and fail to recognize that (rebound, LTR's, recovery, marriage etc) and you take
that personally.....that's on you. Again I sense some alpha beta sub communications going on with you....
Probably, emotional footprints from your childhood trauma with your father again. Reykhel states things matter of factly, you take
them personally......


So many social constructs are operating to serve the feminine imperative. No other reason.
Ergo, yes it is feminine.

C1 level comprehension not quite there yet......you're missing the finer points and taking things personal.

Listen, dude. I wanna respect you cause you contribute some great stuff here, but you're so keen on belittling other people that you make it unpleasant for anyone who opposes you to be able to have a conversation with you about an IDEA cause you just cannot stay without goin' to the point of calling the other person stupid.

 

[Plums]

I have a female friend. We've known each other for just over 10 years. She lives about a 7 hour flight away.
We met online in a music forum. We've met up when I visited her country for work. I stayed with her and her husband at the time during one trip.

She got divorced a few years ago and while the divorce was happening (pretty amicable...he shut down in the marriage and she later found out he was cheating...while she was the main breadwinner) she and I started flirting. She's very attractive and smart.

One time she actually showed me a sex tape she and her husband made. She emailed the file to me. I watched it once then deleted it. I felt bad for the dude. She had previously made jokes about his member being small. I wasn't close to him at all but it felt wrong to me that she was showing me the tape.

Anyway. Fast forward a few years and we've been talking about visiting each other and fooling around and seeing what happens. She even said if we click she'd consider moving here.

She's done pretty well for herself financially...looking to buy her second home now...no debt she says.

I started entertaining the possibility of seeing where this could go if we do connect and she decided to move here. I can't get past her showing me that tape tho. To me, it shows a certain kind of dishonor. One I feel will show itself in another relationship. What do you guys think about her character?

Of note. If she moves here it would be provided that she has a job here and her own place. I wouldn't be supporting her.

I think your guts are telling you the truth. Once she flirted and fell in love with her ex, like she is now flirting with you. Just think of you being the man in the next film. Also she probably didn't just show you the film but others and laughed about him to them as well. UGH. Ditch the b*itch...I hope he is with someone who respects him now.

 

[lizardking82]

Let's be honest now....

You got your knickers in a twist when you were asked to define "rebound". Only you know the reason behind that, the reason
for you getting so defensive. Reykhel's suspicion is like stated before you were worried about perhaps a "frame game" or you're having "beta alpha" issues: Let Reykhel spell it out for you: it appears that you took the request to define the word as an order..........and basically the "conversation about an idea" went astray from there.....
Your buttons are being pressed and only you can determine why.
Sort yourself out.

No, man. Your mind is so twisted and sees things where there is nothing to see. A rebound is a relationship someone else has right after they got off an existing relationship, trying to fill the emotional holes they probably had before that relationship already. It's a desperate attempt not go through your pain, feel it and heal it, but go for the sexual high of a new person to make you "forget" about the **** you have to handle. This is the standard definition, I know this, you know this. I wanna discuss ideas, not definitions about what we already know.

 

[Billtx49]

Another thread devolved into a member sh/tfit here.

 

[lizardking82]

Another thread devolved into a member sh/tfit here.

Don't worry abouit it, man. I will not get involved with this guy ever again in **** like this. I will not get involved with this guy in anything ever LOL cause it leads to here. He's either got a problem with me personally somehow or he just loves treating people like little, stupid children.

 

[Reykhel]

stupid children

Go get counseling over your father issues, son.

Reykhel tried to help you despite your last emotional breakdown. If you didn't want a little emotional
spat you had the choice of clarifying by PM.

Reykhel was polite to you but you got your knickers in a twist, once again.

It's not Reykhel's fault that you feel like a stupid little child. Those are your buttons baby.

Good luck to you now. Work on that chip on your shoulder.

 

[lizardking82]

Without trying to offend you (see the way I'm very kind to you by prefacing that for you......don't ask me to stick a smily face in though..)

This is what you said up there. It is a way of saying "hey, little stupid child, let me treat you like a normal kid just for the sake of it". I am not offended by it, nor am I belittled, nor do you push my buttons in any kind of way, nor am I intimidated and made to feel like a stupid child. However, your ATTEMPT to do that literally disgusts me cause it's not a wise way to handle things. I am here for the wise and open-minded guys. I am interested in having discussions with people that help me grow emotionally and mentally. A discussion where I have to explain to you what a rebound is does not qualify as such a discussion in my world. There is nothing to clarify on PM. I am interested in seeing you express yourself publically cause you have an image to hold up here while you got nothing to hold up on PM. I wanna see the Reykhel as he wants other people to see him cause that tells me a lot about you. And you've already told me quite a lot and it's more than enough for me to never replicate with you about anything cause it's simply not worth it. There are some posts you make that are worth it, I will stick with those and will just ignore everything else. Have a nice life.

 

[Reykhel]

This is what you said up there. It is a way of saying "hey, little stupid child, let me treat you like a normal kid just for the sake of it". I am not offended by it, nor am I belittled, nor do you push my buttons in any kind of way, nor am I intimidated and made to feel like a stupid child. However, your ATTEMPT to do that literally disgusts me cause it's not a wise way to handle things. I am here for the wise and open-minded guys. I am interested in having discussions with people that help me grow emotionally and mentally. A discussion where I have to explain to you what a rebound is does not qualify as such a discussion in my world. There is nothing to clarify on PM. I am interested in seeing you express yourself publically cause you have an image to hold up here while you got nothing to hold up on PM. I wanna see the Reykhel as he wants other people to see him cause that tells me a lot about you. And you've already told me quite a lot and it's more than enough for me to never replicate with you about anything cause it's simply not worth it. There are some posts you make that are worth it, I will stick with those and will just ignore everything else. Have a nice life.

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt,

Kid, Reykhel is going to say this to you with love, like a father's love to his son......you've got frame issues.

You've got deep inner game issues that you need to work on. Reykhel was actually doing his best to try and NOT offend you because he knows how sensitive you can get and how paranoid you are.

You'll throw a little hissy fit if the conversation doesn't fit the parameters of you're liking. A hissy fit. that is the behavior of a hurt, spoiled brat.........you're a very naughty boy, a very naughty boy indeed.

These mood swings you're experiencing............it's the drugs. The drugs mixed with your emotional traumas do not mix.

Read that quote and take it to heart. Cut it out and internalize it. Stay off the bloody drugs kid.

Take it easy.

 

[SuckItUp]

Getting back to the topic at hand. I'd not involve myself with this woman at all. The tape thing to me screams issues. It's one thing to say my ex sucked in bed and had a small one it's a whole different thing to send a tape. That should tell you that she has severe boundary issues.