NoFap: Full month of June. You in!?

[resilient]

Anyone doing this challenge have issues with sleep? I can't get to sleep for all hell. I try shutting off the PC, devices, etc. and my brain is still trying to psycho-analyze everything or stress about the future or deadlines. It's been warmer lately and I've had the windows open and most of the thick covers off. I'm running a ceiling fan until I have to turn on the A/C .

 

[dustmuffin]

Anyone doing this challenge have issues with sleep? I can't get to sleep for all hell. I try shutting off the PC, devices, etc. and my brain is still trying to psycho-analyze everything or stress about the future or deadlines. It's been warmer lately and I've had the windows open and most of the thick covers off. I'm running a ceiling fan until I have to turn on the A/C .

I use a giant sleeping pill. As far as no fap I only drain my c ock in a womans puss y, a ss or mouth. No fap is easy when you are getting it on the regular.

 

[corrector]

I am not part of this challenge but I have my own private commitment to cease from fapping and I think, to that extent, this thread sounds like it could be helpful.

My biggest problem so far is during the morning, at times I feel too horney and then my brain makes these sexual fantasies up with people I may have known in the past or that I could potentially follow-up on, and creates a bunch of socio-sexual fantasies on it. I don't watch porn or any nudity or I'll cut off my internet if I do. Then, I'm also trying to stay away from youtube-pornish images too. On youtube you got twearking and a$$-clapping videos that turn me on and yoga positions where legs of women are behind their head, etc.... all of this stuff is like a turn-on and I'm also avoiding all of that.

For the moment, looking at lovely Christian teachers, such as Katie Souza,

, just does it for me. Her voice turns me on, I start hugging the pillows and I feel like instantly connected with her. Works sometimes I guess. I have a Tablet next to my pillow, put headphones on, and listen to stuff until I fall asleep, or put it on when I wake-up, but stay away from sexual stuff.

The last issue I had that did me in is what you call creep-shots. Taking your smartphone and wanting to take pics of women's a$$ in public so you can look at it later to jerk off on them. All I can say is I never did that, but I'm so darn horney that the thought had crossed my mind. When I looked at porn (i.e. softcore/semi-nude) that never crossed my mind like that before. It feels like I'm more prone to thinking of doing something creepy or perverse if I stop fapping or looking at any images. But I'm resisting all of that and hope a good momentum of staying away from this things will reward my struggle.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Anyone doing this challenge have issues with sleep? I can't get to sleep for all hell. I try shutting off the PC, devices, etc. and my brain is still trying to psycho-analyze everything or stress about the future or deadlines. It's been warmer lately and I've had the windows open and most of the thick covers off. I'm running a ceiling fan until I have to turn on the A/C .

To hazard a guess, I'd say you are upsetting all your usual 'coping mechanisms', and so are going to find your mind doing all sorts of crazy things before building resiliency and rebalancing itself. Whether the storm, then the doldrums, and look for fairer breezes on the other side.

 

[resilient]

To hazard a guess, I'd say you are upsetting all your usual 'coping mechanisms', and so are going to find your mind doing all sorts of crazy things before building resiliency and rebalancing itself. Whether the storm, then the doldrums, and look for fairer breezes on the other side.

Interesting... I hadn't thought about that, but NoFap is kind of like rewiring the neurochemistry in the brain to find alternative stimulus supplies for the neurotransmitter deficit. Some coping mechanisms I'm using now for downtime at home are studying, gym, and guitar. Melatonin hasn't helped much (I take 5 mg when I can't sleep).

Now to figure out progressive muscle relaxation or some other coping mechanism to shut the brain off or whatever it's called in time for the sleep cycle........

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Interesting... I hadn't thought about that, but NoFap is kind of like rewiring the neurochemistry in the brain to find alternative stimulus supplies for the neurotransmitter deficit. Some coping mechanisms I'm using now for downtime at home are studying, gym, and guitar. Melatonin hasn't helped much (I take 5 mg when I can't sleep).

Now to figure out progressive muscle relaxation or some other coping mechanism to shut the brain off or whatever it's called in time for the sleep cycle........

Yes, this seems to be a popular model in use these days in order to understand the way the brain works. But I think that when we are talking about desires, we get to a deeper level of our very self. Here you talk more about subjective terms than objective. Hence the significance of taking literary and aesthetic approaches.

 

[narcissist]

day 6 complete.

 

[narcissist]

Day 7

 

[finality]

I'm on day 6. Fapping ruined my last 2 relationships. If I relapse again I might kill myself all I have in nofap in my life now

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

An addict is by definition not in control of his actions. And yet he's initiated a process whereby his rational desire is strengthening relative to his natural urges. If you relapse, it is not the end of the world. Instead, you carry on building that inner resiliency within yourself until one day you see a tipping point where you have the power to resist. Abstinence makes the heart grow fonder.

 

[resilient]

Day8
Still going strong.

Thanks for your input to this thread, @ChristopherColumbus. I hadn't necessarily thought of NoFap being apart of a greater struggle against deeper rooted impulse controls of desire and fulfilling one's own wants/needs within and without external input stimulus. It's a way to sharpen iron that sharpens discipline. That evolving process can be carried over to other facets of life if handled well.

 

[resilient]

Day 10
Still in.

Feeling anxious about an event I have to attend tomorrow night solo with the ex-wife, her live-in bf, and a number of close friends and their SOs. Awkward af.

Staying strong in this challenge, brothers.

In other news, tomorrow is day60 of NC with the recent exgf. I'll write about that in the NC thread. Feels good to not relapse in contact.

NoFap is a great tool to increase one's self-discipline. Mind over matter.

 

[Dingo]

Rubbed one out yesterday... Felt great... Stress relief...

 

[narcissist]

day 9!

going strong.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Rubbed one out yesterday... Felt great... Stress relief...

weak

 

[Dingo]

weak

I just don't believe in these "magical powers" you get from not fapping... lol

 

[TheProspect]

I just don't believe in these "magical powers" you get from not fapping... lol

I don't either.

But consciously refraining from masturbation takes a lot of willpower and self-discipline, especially because a lot of people rely on it as a stress reliever and a vice to avoid uncomfortable feelings as well as avoiding situations/responsibilities as a symptom of procrastination. It's battling addictive behaviour in a sense...

Can't hate on people for that, though I don't blame you for being skeptical of any claims of "magical powers" beyond some confidence and more free time for productivity.

 

[resilient]

NoFap is not a magical mystical power. I'm not becoming the mighty wizard Gandalf in this challenge. However, like prospect said, the process I'm finding is helping me strengthen my willpower and self-discipline.

Impulse control... the struggle is real.

If I want to generally do something, I do it without much forethought. This can be good and a bad thing depending on the situation.

Being able to say no is powerful, and its something I wanted more practice with. So when I go NoFap, I say no to the quick release of PMO. I'm saying no to myself to avoid uncomfortable feelings or situations I passively avoid.

The mind wins over the body.

 

[Dingo]

Masturbation... It's a touchy subject... ;-)

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

I just don't believe in these "magical powers" you get from not fapping... lol

More like the restoration of natural ones.