There's no need to overtly state your boundaries going on. It's not a shopping list that you are confirming with her. It's something that will organically reveal itself as time goes on, IF need be.
Be sure you know what your boundaries are, are not ashamed of them, are ready to state and enforce them, and walk if they are not respected.
If you are looking for a compatible-to-you female, this is essential so you can weed out/not waste time.
You MUST NOT let scarcity mindset get in your way here. If she is fundamentally not compatible then that is who she is.
When the behavior comes up there is no need to confront. Take a moment, collect yourself and your thoughts. When you are clear and can, just let her know what you saw and that you won't tolerate it again. If she is compatible, it won't be an issue. If she tells you that you are trying to control her, or anything else derogatory, she is NOT compatible, walk.
IMO you can't change anyone. I won't bother trying anymore. IMO they are who they are when they get to you. If you can accept that, great. If not, (for me) move on.
I hate to say it but this idea of non-communication, withdraw attention, "soft next', ignore, is nothing more than dysfunctional behavior. These techniques are NO different than giving someone the "silent treatment" which we have all discussed/agreed as being emotional abuse. Which it absolutely is.
I'm not interested in debating that statement, I'll just lay it out there and let you guys do what you think is best.
Good luck guys