Anyone here more on the "quiet" side and do well?

[cola]

Just curious for my own studies. Is there anyone here who would describe themselves as a 'quiet guy' and yet does well with peers, ladies etc etc?

When I say quiet, I dont mean social anxiety scared to talk quiet. I mean confident but a man of few words. Anyone fit this?

I used to work at home depot and there was this manager there. He was so quiet. You could tell by his body language and this little polite smirk he had he wasn't afraid to talk. You could tell he was confident as f#ck and just chose not to talk.
Like a whole Zen type thing he had going on.
He was also very young to be a manager.
I feel like the way he carried himself had something to do with that.

If you fit this, I have some questions to ask you.

 

[Chev.Chelios]

Last night was grabbing girls and making out getting numbers with very few words.


Their is awkward quite, which I've always been. Stifled feeling shy and chit.

Then there's quite cause you don't feel like saying anything but FULLY engaged..

Can literally point girls out and make them come over and have them be all over you in seconds, "aye.. who the fvck are you"

 

[cola]

Last night was grabbing girls and making out getting numbers with very few words.




Then there's quite cause you don't feel like saying anything but FULLY engaged..

Can literally point girls out and make them come over and have them be all over you in seconds, "aye.. who the fvck are you"

Exactly. Thats the type of quiet I'm referring to.

But I'm looking for someone who thinks they maintain this state most of the time on a daily basis.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Exactly. Thats the type of quiet I'm referring to.

But I'm looking for someone who thinks they maintain this state most of the time on a daily basis.

It's worked for me, but it's also NOT worked for me when dealing with "chicken heads" that like to be talked by
a loud mouth non stop talker. Some of those babes will never find out what the guy who isn't saying that much
can do.

 

[cola]

It's worked for me, but it's also NOT worked for me when dealing with "chicken heads" that like to be talked by
a loud mouth non stop talker. Some of those babes will never find out what the guy who isn't saying that much
can do.

No one has time for hoodrats. Save them for lesser men.

Ok so is this your general demeanor?

How do you open your girls?

How do you feel your work colleagues or if your self employed, your clients/customers percieve you.

What body language do you focus on?

Is this your natural demeanor?

Do you feel like since you are quiet and observant you are more productive?

What's a date like with you?


How are you conversations with ladies?


Are there times you are more talkative?

 

[cola]

I had to change

How so?

 

[cola]

I basically observed others that I thought were successful and copied their behavior over time. I have a profession that required me to learn people skills anyways so lots of practice. Dale Carnegie training is suppose to be effective at this.

So you were a quiet guy but started talking more once you started working In your current field?

 

[cola]

I'm often described as a man of few words, but when I speak, it counts.

Ok so is this your general demeanor?

How do you open your girls?

How do you feel your work colleagues or if your self employed, your clients/customers percieve you.

What body language do you focus on?

Is this your natural demeanor?

Do you feel like since you are quiet and observant you are more productive?

What's a date like with you?


How are you conversations with ladies?


Are there times you are more talkative?

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I had to change

Same lol

 

[cola]

This guy.

I'm a salesperson and am a definite extrovert. That being said, I am very low key when it comes to facial expressions, eye movements, and reactions to other people's comments.

Ok so is this your general demeanor?

How do you open your girls?

How do you feel your work colleagues or if your self employed, your clients/customers percieve you.

What body language do you focus on?

Is this your natural demeanor?

Do you feel like since you are quiet and observant you are more productive?

What's a date like with you?


How are you conversations with ladies?


Are there times you are more talkative?

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

cola, I get the feeling that this is the way you are becoming and you are uncertain whether it is positive or negative in relation to women and life in general. If this is the case, I'd say that it is dependent upon who you are as a person. If this how your core being is when you aren't thinking and just ARE, then it'll work out for you. If not, then it won't. Just note that in the same way that some women like a certain type of guy, as you become 'quiet', these types may no longer like you, and other types will.

 

[cola]

cola, I get the feeling that this is the way you are becoming and you are uncertain whether it is positive or negative in relation to women and life in general. If this is the case, I'd say that it is dependent upon who you are as a person. If this how your core being is when you aren't thinking and just ARE, then it'll work out for you. If not, then it won't. Just note that in the same way that some women like a certain type of guy, as you become 'quiet', these types may no longer like you, and other types will.

I'm more so starting to feel being overly talkative is almost a feminine characteristic for a man to have.

I also feel the more you talk the more common you appear.
Pretty much the opposite of what PUA guys teach.
I actually think being more extroverted is bad advice, unless its to conquer approach anxiety.

Obviously the quiet guy won't get so much attention in a club. However at 27 soon 28 I think I've kind of retired from night clubs and it will be from now on a couple times a year to celebrate with someone type of thing.(besides when I'm bouncing of course)

 

[Urbanyst]

I'm more so starting to feel being overly talkative is almost a feminine characteristic for a man to have.

I also feel the more you talk the more common you appear.

Being very talkative is definitely feminine and homosexual. It also makes you look desperate to either be liked by others or noticed by others.

I agree with you. I've never been a big talker, so I just attract women who talk a lot. In caveman days, talkative women had a higher survival rate. Which suggests quiet men probably had a higher survival rate too. Can't be yapping your gums when you're trying to sneak up on food you're hunting.

 

[youngprodigy]

I'd consider myself an ambivert. Grew up being a quiet kid throughout my childhood until highschool. Grade 12 I decided I'd focus on my social skills since I was tired of being so introverted.

In groups of people I usually speak the least but still hold the most presence. People start to respect what you say and I've been told it brings an aura of mystery around you.

Personally I feel like being a quiet guy isn't bad at all as long as you know when to be social. It does help solve the problem of making sure the girls talking more ( the more they know about you the lesser the attraction ). If you're someone with the same characteristics then me advice is to just be social when needed. And few words the better since you're less likely to blurt out something you woulda rather kept to yourself

 

[Konada]

I'm a quiet guy, but when I open my mouth I always get a few laughs.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I'm more so starting to feel being overly talkative is almost a feminine characteristic for a man to have.

I also feel the more you talk the more common you appear.
Pretty much the opposite of what PUA guys teach.
I actually think being more extroverted is bad advice, unless its to conquer approach anxiety.

Obviously the quiet guy won't get so much attention in a club. However at 27 soon 28 I think I've kind of retired from night clubs and it will be from now on a couple times a year to celebrate with someone type of thing.(besides when I'm bouncing of course)

Then for you it makes you more feminine. Personally, and maybe this is because I'm a lot younger, I don't feel it to be a feminine or masculine trait, just a regular personality characteristic. For me, being talkative gets me closer to my own state of just being so it's better for me (being more extroverted in general really; I don't like having to think twice about something before saying or doing it, I should just say/do it). At least at this point in my life anyway. It's subjective per individual.

 

[Reykhel]

I'm more so starting to feel being overly talkative is almost a feminine characteristic for a man to have.

If you're a quiet introvert then that's a comfortable perspective to have in order to maker yourself feel better about yourself.

I also feel the more you talk the more common you appear.

I've noticed you've been studying Robert Greene.

That's a direct quote from the 48 Laws of Power, Law 4 Always so less than necessary...

In conversations, you've got to throw the bloody ball back once in a while

 

[The Duke]

I'm naturally the one that usually talks the least in a group setting. I also pick up more on social dynamics/body language and read people better than the "talkers" because I'm busy listening/thinking/processing.

To get better with women in the bar scene I had to start talking more and it definitely helped. Less thinking, more talking. I find learning(listening) about others far more interesting than listening to myself talk!

In the past I've been told I came across as arrogant/stuck up/didn't care because I didn't talk a lot and this always came from people that didn't know me very well. I think it stems from them not being comfortable simply because I didn't talk a lot.

In the corporate world, not talking in meetings is often misconstrued as not caring which is another flaw in the way people think. So I've had to talk more to appease the mental midgets who think talking all the time means you care. The ones who talk the most do the least amount of work......take that to the bank.

I'm going to say that there are a lot of "thinkers" on this forum and most aren't big talkers.

 

[Mr Wright]

I'm more of the quiet end of the spectrum, I prefer when the girl is doing the talking and I'm doing the listening, I guess you can put this down to an investment thing. I'm good at asking questions and steering the conversation, I just get her to do the talking because all chicks really want to do is talk about themselves or stuff they're interested in. Most of the time they end up saying something stupid anyway and it's a fun with them.

 

[darksprezzatura]

Just like @ImTheDoubleGreatest! said, being young has a different dynamic on the situation.

It's a subtle balance between hesitating on speaking your mind and nervously blurting things out.

Observing my parents' politician friends, those guys exude leadership and power. Speaking only when required with a deliberateness that commands authority.

Slow and deliberate speech with appropriate body language is what I'm trying to adapt to nowadays.