The ridiculousness of dating

[RichardTheFrog]

I got a match on a dating app. She is overweight, covered in tattoos, and has no job but is still in school at the age of 29.

I run my own business, own my own house, etc.

At first, I was seeing if she just wanted to come over and ****. She seemed like she might do it at first, but then said that makes me no different than any other guy and that if I really wanted to **** her, I would have to "**** her brain" first.

Apparently, I have to meet the standards of fat girls that have nothing to offer. She even hinted that she loves choking on ****, apparently trying to convince me that her sex is worth a lot and that I should be jumping through hoops to try to get it.

She told me she's new to town and asked if there was anywhere good to eat. I know this was a hint that she wanted me to take her out and probably pay for it. After I just told her a place and didn't say I wanted to go, she asked if I drank. I told her a little but that I'm trying to cut back. She said that we could meet up for drinks if I wanted.

I'm not too motivated. I'm not sure I would even want to be seen in public with someone that looks like that, let alone have to live up to whatever her standards are that more than likely make no sense and are based on nothing.

I once again asked if she just wanted to come over to my house and she said that I would have to meet her in a public place first.

I'm just not gonna go because I don't see it as worth it. I've had sex before. One more time isn't going to change my life, plus I would be kind of cheating on someone that we aren't exactly official but we talk every day.

 

[MatureDJ]

Well, there is something to be said for meeting up just to make sure you are both who you say you are.

As for the situation, it's called the moped dilemma - which is that you want to do something but you realize that you would look like an idiot doing so. In this case, you just want your pen!s in a nice tight vag!na, so much so that you are prepared to overrun your evolved instinct to not reproduce with someone ugly. I think I can safely say that "we've all been there" at one time or another.

As for "cheating", it sounds like you are going with someone more desirable, and it seems that, at least from your end, you are in that nebulous zone where you're kind of steady, but maybe not. I think that just the chance of having blubber-tatt intrude on your situation makes this not worth it; could you imagine banging her and then after you look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself "why" and dump her, and then you and your steady are out one day and SHE comes on to the scene and proceeds to tell your girlfriend how you pumped & dumped her. Such a scene usually starts out on the wrong foot, but if it's with a hideous woman like this, your girlfriend will come to the conclusion that "he must consider fat chicks to be within his league, but that's below my league ...", and then lose interest in you. That said, if the woman you're banging is nice looking, there could be the opposite effect - but that is most definitely not this case.

 

[cola]

No offense but dude get over yourself. I generally like your posts but you gotta be more mature than this.
She just wants you to take her out to a cheap bar/restaurant so she doesn't feel like a complete slut..


What's 40 bucks to get some buffalo wings and a couple shots and actually ask her a couple non sex related questions to make her feel like a person?

Then she'll probably be your sex slave for the night. No one wants to feel used for their body.
Have you ever been used before? Its not a good feeling.
Let her have her cognitive dissonance that she got a meal and drinks and you atleast showed a tad bit of interest in her as a person. She might even be cool peeps.

Imagine if you meet a girl on the internet and she said before you even hung out, "you look like a big baller. Come give me a couple hundred bucks and then go on about your life like it never even happened"
that's how you sound to a woman asking her to come over your house without showing any interest in her as a person.

40 bucks. If you aren't sure about a chick That's all a date has to cost.
32 bucks for 2 drinks each and a 8 dollar order of buffalo wings.


Edit** I also just reread your post and saw the "I don't think I would want to be seen in public with her" comment.

If you still care what strangers think you have a lot of inner work to do.

 

[Slash Dolo]

What cola said.

Also, I'm not sure if the girls around here are a bit different but I haven't paid for anything except myself on a date in several years. Just lay the ground rules before the date that it's 2017 and you both pay for your own stuff.

You can go out with this chick and order yourself some food and beer and even if it's a bust at least you got a nice meal and some good brews.

 

[ERB]

I got a match on a dating app. She is overweight!

What the **** dude? Good grief.

The first two sentences made me gag!

 

[SgtSplacker]

Funny thing this weekend I walk into a bar and have a drink with a girl and the owner of the place starts talking about how men nowadays don't pay for anything and what caused this is feminists. I looked at the guy like he just opened the biggest can of worms in front of me but I kept cool. It was surprising to see something so hotly discussed here has become so mainstream.

The world is changing now, genders and roles are becoming more and more mixed every day. I don't think men carry the burden of general financial responsibility like we did years ago. Feels like a relief to me actually. To me it all depends on the person you are with and what they want. If it's an old fashioned girl then you may have to pick up some tabs. If shes a modern girl she can support herself and should always be able to pick up her half. It's your job to keep her in one camp or the other, I see women like to play both sides of the fence to their benefit.

That fattie talking about food and sex is obviously interested in two things.... eating and fuuucking. So what do you do? Feel a person out. Participate in the relationship to some level. Do it in such a way that you are not too vested financially. And if your slick about it hit that with the force of Odins thunder and move on.

One thing I have learned is that if I am only interested in sex with a person it's best for me to just move onto to someone else I like as an individual more, and have more in common with. It's more enjoyable for me in the end, I put more effort in and things generally go better.

 

[ThisNThat]

The reason men sometimes have stopped picking up the tab is because the woman tends to lay the ground rules on whether or not it's actually a DATE. Plausible deniability.

Basically, you don't pay for her dinner, you're just friends and nothing more....you DO pay for dinner, then it's a date with an expectation of something physical at the end of that date. There's some kind of obligation that the woman gets rather apprehensive about.

 

[ThisNThat]

Speaking of fat chicks, I would sometimes contact them as an experiment, and sadly, they view the profile, but don't respond. I see these chicks on these sites for years.

I recall one complaining that she had been on POF for 3 years and "I cannot believe I'm still here!" I had email her in the past, only to have been ignored, but when she added that sentence on later...I sent her message asking her how many emails does she get and how many men has she turned down. I was inferring she was way too picky and thus her dilemma.

She's over 50, and well, cannot afford to be picky.

She deleted that sentence afterwards. lol She was faced with the hard reality of her forever online spinsterhood.

 

[dustmuffin]

No offense but dude get over yourself. I generally like your posts but you gotta be more mature than this.
She just wants you to take her out to a cheap bar/restaurant so she doesn't feel like a complete slut..


What's 40 bucks to get some buffalo wings and a couple shots and actually ask her a couple non sex related questions to make her feel like a person?

Then she'll probably be your sex slave for the night. No one wants to feel used for their body.
Have you ever been used before? Its not a good feeling.
Let her have her cognitive dissonance that she got a meal and drinks and you atleast showed a tad bit of interest in her as a person. She might even be cool peeps.

Imagine if you meet a girl on the internet and she said before you even hung out, "you look like a big baller. Come give me a couple hundred bucks and then go on about your life like it never even happened"
that's how you sound to a woman asking her to come over your house without showing any interest in her as a person.

40 bucks. If you aren't sure about a chick That's all a date has to cost.
32 bucks for 2 drinks each and a 8 dollar order of buffalo wings.


Edit** I also just reread your post and saw the "I don't think I would want to be seen in public with her" comment.

If you still care what strangers think you have a lot of inner work to do.

This ^^^^ just take her out for a drink or cheap dinner. She dosent want to feel used. Then home to f uck. Might cost 40 bucks max. If you like it the next time she might just come over for s ex at no cost to you.

 

[Glassguy]

This chick has red flags galore.

Go find another chick that is not a fattie, has a decent career for her age and isn't covered in tattoo if you're not into them.

Why fvck one if you'd be embarraseed to take her out for a quick bite to eat and a drink or two?

Increase your standards.

 

[Who Dares Win]

While I agree with Cola's post I dont feel like giving you a suggestion in your case.

The problem is lack of info because while we dont want to be unneccessarily cruel to other people at the same time we dont need sick people to create us problems.

 

[BeTheChange]

No offense but dude get over yourself. I generally like your posts but you gotta be more mature than this.
She just wants you to take her out to a cheap bar/restaurant so she doesn't feel like a complete slut..


What's 40 bucks to get some buffalo wings and a couple shots and actually ask her a couple non sex related questions to make her feel like a person?

Then she'll probably be your sex slave for the night. No one wants to feel used for their body.
Have you ever been used before? Its not a good feeling.
Let her have her cognitive dissonance that she got a meal and drinks and you atleast showed a tad bit of interest in her as a person. She might even be cool peeps.

Imagine if you meet a girl on the internet and she said before you even hung out, "you look like a big baller. Come give me a couple hundred bucks and then go on about your life like it never even happened"
that's how you sound to a woman asking her to come over your house without showing any interest in her as a person.

40 bucks. If you aren't sure about a chick That's all a date has to cost.
32 bucks for 2 drinks each and a 8 dollar order of buffalo wings.


Edit** I also just reread your post and saw the "I don't think I would want to be seen in public with her" comment.

If you still care what strangers think you have a lot of inner work to do.

Great post. Often I even forget this.

Had a few decent plates drop off in the past few months because I made it too obvious I was only in it for the sex.

What people don't discuss often here (probably because it's more advanced game) is that at some point in time you have to tone down the alpha. If it becomes too clear that you are unattainable then she will eventually leave and find easier pray. Women like a challenge but they don't want a concrete wall to break through.

This point reminds me of another solid Poon King post, that you need to pander to women with your words even if inside you give zero fvcks.

Your post was a solid reminder of toning the sex talk and taking them out every once in a while.

 

[Red Legg]

No offense but dude get over yourself. I generally like your posts but you gotta be more mature than this.
She just wants you to take her out to a cheap bar/restaurant so she doesn't feel like a complete slut..


What's 40 bucks to get some buffalo wings and a couple shots and actually ask her a couple non sex related questions to make her feel like a person?

Then she'll probably be your sex slave for the night. No one wants to feel used for their body.
Have you ever been used before? Its not a good feeling.
Let her have her cognitive dissonance that she got a meal and drinks and you atleast showed a tad bit of interest in her as a person. She might even be cool peeps.

Imagine if you meet a girl on the internet and she said before you even hung out, "you look like a big baller. Come give me a couple hundred bucks and then go on about your life like it never even happened"
that's how you sound to a woman asking her to come over your house without showing any interest in her as a person.

40 bucks. If you aren't sure about a chick That's all a date has to cost.
32 bucks for 2 drinks each and a 8 dollar order of buffalo wings.


Edit** I also just reread your post and saw the "I don't think I would want to be seen in public with her" comment.

If you still care what strangers think you have a lot of inner work to do.

Yes I love Buffalo Wild Wings..a great place to take a date...good drinks too.

 

[Masculinity]

I got a match on a dating app. She is overweight, covered in tattoos, and has no job but is still in school at the age of 29.

I run my own business, own my own house, etc.

At first, I was seeing if she just wanted to come over and ****. She seemed like she might do it at first, but then said that makes me no different than any other guy and that if I really wanted to **** her, I would have to "**** her brain" first.

Apparently, I have to meet the standards of fat girls that have nothing to offer. She even hinted that she loves choking on ****, apparently trying to convince me that her sex is worth a lot and that I should be jumping through hoops to try to get it.

She told me she's new to town and asked if there was anywhere good to eat. I know this was a hint that she wanted me to take her out and probably pay for it. After I just told her a place and didn't say I wanted to go, she asked if I drank. I told her a little but that I'm trying to cut back. She said that we could meet up for drinks if I wanted.

I'm not too motivated. I'm not sure I would even want to be seen in public with someone that looks like that, let alone have to live up to whatever her standards are that more than likely make no sense and are based on nothing.

I once again asked if she just wanted to come over to my house and she said that I would have to meet her in a public place first.

I'm just not gonna go because I don't see it as worth it. I've had sex before. One more time isn't going to change my life, plus I would be kind of cheating on someone that we aren't exactly official but we talk every day.

Compromising one's standards usually doesn't end well.