Really thats odd. Ive had men and women tell me im scary looking until they get to know me.
I'm really laid back, actually I'm so laid back it pisses a lot of type - A people off .. Like I'm never mad about anything really.
Good observation I'm a really nice guy, by nature. I can tell you're good at reading people.
I think my demeanor actually is an asset doing this because I'm typically not someone who would use excessive force.
However I'm not a p*ssy and wont back down from anyone.
It's all in the eyes baby!! The face tells the story of one's life.......
Laid back is exactly what came to mind. I thought "this guy is so laid back and chilled he looks like he never
went through any traumas or hardships in his life!"
Nonetheless, I completely agree with you. Being a
gentleman that knows how to
handle himself will get you the
respect of 95% of the patrons of the bar. There's always the 5% that will take a disliking for no reason whatsoever. But you
can use that 5% to demonstrate to the other 95% that you can take care of business when push comes to shove.
A lot of people think you need to be a thug or a hard nut to the door, but thugs attract other thugs and anyone putting on a hard nut
act is often sniffed out. They are challenged more because people see it's a front.
Being a gentleman who is diplomatic but assertive will go along way. Besides if you're doing it full time you can't be getting into
fistycuffs all of the time, it would be too stressful. If the patrons respect you, they'll probably have your back too. (although it's not something
you can rely on, just a nice bonus when it happens.)
Have fun!