Ran into the girl that got me here years ago - must read!

TheGambino

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So yesterday I was out and I randomly ran into this HB9 I was in class with years ago. She is probably one of the most beautiful girls I dealt with but no pedestal anymore, im a DJ now.

She is engaged now! but go on keep reading, its for the experience I know the big red flagg here.

She was interested in me and we dated a couple of times but I was BETA those days.

We dated a couple of times, first date was great. Second we ran intoo her ex who beated her up and he hit her in front of me. I fought him and she lost interest because she throwed me sh*t tests and I lost her. I was a fool those days and I joined this forum because of my pain of her!

Yesterday I ran intoo her as a new born DJ and she was delighted to see me. We had drinks, talked and she was the same girl like years ago but now she talked much more and she was way more comfortable around me because I'm more outgoing and she saw that other girls were checking me out and winking and stuff. I showed her a great time, teasing, touching and being flirty with my body language. After an hour of fun, drinks, talking and dancing I told her I was going to another club with my friend. (She was entertaining my friend too to show me that shes still the fun girl she was) Told her to join us, she said ill come maybe because I don't like the people in that club. She says it really has to go crazy if im willing to go to that club lmao.

I went on my business and 30 mins later she joins me with her cousin.

We danced, she danced with my buddy and was showing us good time.

She was really interested. What do you do? Where do you live? Telling me im a smart guy, im Moroccan and she told me that she doesnt really like Moroccan guys but that im different, classy and smart. Those days my fault was that I wasn't s3xual enough and flirty enough and way too formal. Now I showed her my fun crazy side that I always have with girls nowadays. Dancing, teasing her. For example she asks me do I look like my cousin? (she is waaaaay more pretty and everyone knows that, she was a model) Told her hmmm your cousin is more pretty and her cousin winks me and flirts as a reaction. She asks me if im in the club to look for girls and I told her, my friend is but im here for fun I dont look for anything to show her I got options.

I flirted with her more. I forgot something at your place 4 years ago. Her: what? Me: My heart hahaha stuff like that. teasing her, touching her belly, her hands and she was coming really close to me everytime like 3 seconds from kissing so close to my face and pulled back again.

The thing I love about this girl is that she's smart, has a good job, dresses awesome and is a real lady and 100% interested in everything I say.

After an hour she showed me the hard twist she has. She is the biggest DJ herself and she is a girl that changes her behavior randomly into sh*t testing to check out how desperate a guy is and ofcourse she does that to me last night to see if im the old beta she knew.

She changes her behavior by not giving me attention and looking mad to see how I react and dancing with my buddy. I just had fun, laughed, did not react a bit and went to other girls and to have fun and chat.

At the end of the night we stand close to eachother again in a corner and she tells me that she has to go but she sticks around waiting. Her cousin comes to c*ckblock her away from me and I tell her to save my number since my phone was dead. Told her we go out as friends just to have fun and she says ok and saves my number. We kiss goodbye and I touch her arm tell her that her ass has grown with a wink and tell her to text me.

No text since last night.

Next to this girl.

Met another later, made out saves my number, we hugg and she blows my phone now, we have a date scheduled his thursday. Not important.

This old girl is a dime, what to do and what not to do? She knows my old beta, AFC me but I showed her a new me yesterday.
 

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Sounds like you're still hungover over her.
 

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Sounds like you're still hungover over her.
I really want to f8ck her in her @ss. Most important is that she sees that I don't need her. But yes I like the company of great looking fun women.

But the real question here is.

Did I do a good job? And what should I do when she reaches out or when she doesn't?

Her bf is a real good looking dude but he is boring, not outgoing and introvert. I know who he is, a real wuss.
 
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Look you obviously have a weakness for her, I don't see anything of relevance in your encounter, she might have gotten an ego boost from you and that's it. Don't put your head into this, just keep going on with your life, don't waste time making plans about something that is not likely to happen.
 

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S.O.P from here on

just treak like any other girl bro, nothing special.

Stick to the usual procedure
 

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This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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I really want to f8ck her in her @ss. Most important is that she sees that I don't need her. But yes I like the company of great looking fun women.

But the real question here is.

Did I do a good job? And what should I do when she reaches out or when she doesn't?

Her bf is a real good looking dude but he is boring, not outgoing and introvert. I know who he is, a real wuss.
Lol you have to be careful on this generalization. Most times - the not outgoing introvert is the man on autopilot not worrying about "was I alpha enough, did I do a good job". Introverts actually understand the intimacy part of game naturally.

His girl is out at the club - and he could possibly care less. Cats are self titled DJs but think there's a blueprint like you have to be outgoing and an extravert. There's a difference between submissive/shy/tippy-toer and introvert.
 

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Lol you have to be careful on this generalization. Most times - the not outgoing introvert is the man on autopilot not worrying about "was I alpha enough, did I do a good job". Introverts actually understand the intimacy part of game naturally.

His girl is out at the club - and he could possibly care less. Cats are self titled DJs but think there's a blueprint like you have to be outgoing and an extravert. There's a difference between submissive/shy/tippy-toer and introvert.
Im an outgoing man from myself not playing not a cat. I talk to everyone and I enjoy that
 

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i understand - I think every post is a lesson for someone so I wanted the introvert guys to know that being extrovert or outgoing isn't a winning position. its about being timid versus knowing and going for what you want. Most alpha/ dominant traits stereotypically fall in line with introverted personalities naturally...
 

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She didnt text or reach out. 2 days passed.
Im at my homies place rn hes one big playboy a natural. He fvcks the hottest hbs in the region, good looks also. Anyway my bro made out with my op girl once at a club, he says she cheated that day on her bf.

Anyway his opinion is clear do not reach out, she got your number. Ball is in her Court reaching out on Facebook Messenger Will make You look desperate.

Probably the best your thoughts?
 

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If you're 100% positive she can't shake your frame, go NC and have no expectations.

If you're 99% positive she can't shake your frame, delete, block, remove.
 

Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.

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Its obvious you still all over her.

She didnt reach, it's obvious you too good for her

Your frame got better its obvious but move on... you can do better
 

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Guys thinking about shooting her a Facebook massage.. been 5 days.. do or die?
 

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Guys thinking about shooting her a Facebook massage.. been 5 days.. do or die?
Pffft, look at yourself. You've lost your dignity and male pride. What the heck is wrong with you? What is it about this girl that's so special that turns you into a simpering afc? You got some subconscious issues that are causing you to latch onto her, but she isn't gonna help you fix those issues. You gotta do it yourself. I doubt she cares about you.
 

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Pffft, look at yourself. You've lost your dignity and male pride. What the heck is wrong with you? What is it about this girl that's so special that turns you into a simpering afc? You got some subconscious issues that are causing you to latch onto her, but she isn't gonna help you fix those issues. You gotta do it yourself. I doubt she cares about you.
Did You read the case
 

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Pffft, look at yourself. You've lost your dignity and male pride. What the heck is wrong with you? What is it about this girl that's so special that turns you into a simpering afc? You got some subconscious issues that are causing you to latch onto her, but she isn't gonna help you fix those issues. You gotta do it yourself. I doubt she cares about you.
this might seem harsh but you need telling, OP

Come on man, you are better than this
 

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This is an easy one- You say absolutely nothing. It will either driver her nuts and she will break frame, or you keep pursuing other women.

You have already established that she is a cheater. Right away she is not relationship worthy, not matter how hot you think she is.

If she does eventually reach out, I would go for the kill right away as to show her that you are not interested in anything more than a hook up (and why would you be....she is engaged).

Her: Hey stranger. How have you been? Miss me yet?
You (after waiting a few hours): Hey ______, I forgot that I gave you my number. I've been extremely busy this past week. I am going out to ______ (club) on __________. If you are free, swing by. We can grab a few drinks and then head back to my place for a few more.

At that point is a yes, no, she shows up or she doesnt. You are not asking her on a date, just drinks and banging. In her mind you've deemed her as nothing more than a hookup and that alone will drive her nuts.

She may say something like "my fiance might not like me coming to your place". Dont try to convince her. Just use push/pull: "Yeah we could certainly have fun at my place, but you're probably right....you're engaged and we probably shouldnt even talk about banging each other's brains out".

You have to go complete radio silence until she reaches out (if she does at all). Anything you say to her (text, fb, etc) will kill your chances.

She must start wondering why you arent pursuing this time in order for you to have a shot. Say and do nothing unless she reaches out. Then just be nice and straight to the point.
 

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If she didn't reach out, oh well...

You have other plates in your dish cabinet. Don't become desperate and revert to the guy she rejected.
 
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