Have you ever been certain that you blew her mind in bed only to have her ghost you? I've noticed this a few times with women I've only sexed once. I'm definitely open to the possibility of me not being the stud I thought I was
, and in turn getting better at technique, foreplay, etc. However I really don't think that's the case.. Anyone else experienced this?
Actually, yes I have experienced that sometimes. I know with a fair amount of certainty it has little to do with me, but reaching that conclusion was not easy so I absolutely understand how so many guys don't understand this.
It would be simple to dismiss it as bullsh!t, but it may very well be genuinely how they feel in that moment. You could very well be the stud you think you are and still for reasons unknown (until now) never see them again. Your gut feeling is right, it's likely not the case that you suck at sex if you've received positive feedback about it.
What is it then? It's them, that's the shortest answer. The best reason here is the simplest one, there's something keeping them from taking any more steps. From that point the reasons become more varied, you
might progress if you can spot the right one and call it out, you
might. Some women are actually scared sh!tless of relationships, they have many of the same general relationship fears men have. They could be rooted in irrational beliefs like "I always attract guys who end up hurting me, so I'm not going to even give this one a chance". Even if they absolutely fvcking loved the experience of you smashing them, they will have doubts that could potentially make them choose the safe path. The safe path doesn't lead to success with relationships, a relationship is always risky, for both sexes.
I will mention a few personal experiences that led me to this conclusion, I've been on both sides of this fence. First me being hit on. I met a girl, we had a good time and exchanged contact details. This was before I had any clue what the fvck I was doing regarding relationships with women. I was infatuated and she was obviously interested in me too, so there was a lot of texting. Problem was that I felt really insecure for no reason other than not knowing how to fvcking proceed, she tried advancing it by saying she wanted to see me again. I kinda wanted to but I was honestly scared, so what did I do? I made excuses about how difficult that would be to see her again, although I could objectively have done so easily. Eventually the whole thing just died off, but I wonder how this was from her perspective. It doesn't sound so different from what you've experienced, so maybe my side of it sheds some light on your question.
In this second story the roles are reversed. I'm pushing and she's hesitant. I met this girl through a friend couple. Had a thing going for 2 months, but I noticed pretty early she was a bit afraid of the whole thing. Thought I might be able to open her up, but I don't think my emotional skills were refined enough at that point. She did seem to want it, but she just couldn't and I couldn't assist well enough. After being cold for a couple of weeks she broke down crying and saying I deserved better, that I was too good for her. It was fvcking heart breaking, not because I'd lose her but because I knew exactly how worthlessness feels and I don't wish that upon anyone. I tried saying she is good enough for me, but had to let it go as she refused to accept it.
The third story is about a girl that went ghost on me TWICE! I met her going with my female cousin to a party with her friends. This girl was just awesome and she seemed really into me, her pupils even dilated to massive proportions as I gazed deeply into them. No doubt she absolutely enjoyed my company, but afterwards when I contacted her it wasn't easy. She was just generally very unavailable, like I was in my first story in this post. I gave up fairly quickly, but was left with a sad feeling that she wouldn't give it a chance. Then a year later while out with some friends I randomly bump into her, continue where we left off and she tells me she regrets dismissing me. I get invited to a party she's having the next weekend, this actually happens and I get there. Another great night with her (apart from a few of her friends causing drama, which she takes no part in). I end up sleeping at her place, I fvck her and she says "I've never been this wet before" while moving around in pleasure. She absolutely loved it and showed it in every possible way. After getting home and waiting a little I reach out trying to get a date, nope... She even tried arguing that she doesn't feel comfortable meeting me alone, but I had already spent a night with her alone with my penis inside her. The fear was too strong in her, she was afraid of changing the status quo in her life so I had to let it go again. Ironically she mentioned to me at her party that she thought guys was afraid of her, I told her I was not and maybe that's why she feared me, she wasn't used to guys not feeling intimidated by a woman.
This became a horribly long post, but my main point is that many women have fears and doubts leading them to drop off the map. You may very well do everything right, but women may still turn you down. They may absolutely love the moment, but those doubts may come to fvck up their experiences afterwards. They're only human after all.
